a cooking pot and twisted tales
Thoughts and Tales…A Lifestyle Blog with a Zing.
Every weekend we indulge happily, thanking God that it’s Friday, then Saturday and Sunday. We hop back on the cycle on Monday’s. It’s a vicious cycle. In reality we could all lose the extra weight we want to lose,  but the truth is that most people hate losing things. It makes them mad 🙂
Welcome to another week of running around like a hamster.
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There are times when all looks dim and bleak, but if we look hard enough, there is always a way, no matter how tight that way may appear.
At that point in time when we are passing through hellish moments, we don’t stop to wallow in it and in self-pity. We have to keep moving.
Even if our will power is flagging, look to someone’s own to latch on to. There is absolutely no shame in leaning on someone’s shoulder momentarily while you catch your breath if need be. People are sent into our lives at some points in time for reasons such as this.
The only shame is in giving up because you have the fear of being judged or you are too proud. The persons judgement is not your problem.
Your problem is in staying focused and getting out of the miry bog in which you are stuck in.
Know that even at the end of the darkest tunnel, there will always be found a sliver of light, and, yes the darkness will pass. For the only constant in life is change and no situation ever remains permanent.
Surviving your test allows you the opportunity to be a testimony to others and someone else’s leaning post at one point in time or the other.
Be patient as you strive and keep looking in the way of the light.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Today’s featured blogs are:
Sweet Aroma. One of my favorite grandma’s in blogosphere. Oneta is my sage friend, with beautiful stories of life to tell. I always imagine sitting beside her and cradling a cup of warm drink while she regales me with her humour, tales and anecdotes.
Home and Loving It. A blog that delights me with the simple quotes offered and a glimpse into Renee’s life through her words.
Fabulous Fit Mamas. Introducing you to Michelle whom I met recently. A fit mama full of positive vibes and motivating words. She does get it done.
Femininematerz. My dear Bisi is a blogger with a warm heart and friendly mien. Her passion is the welfare of the today’s woman and how to live a fulfilled life. She connects them with the stories.
Spiritual Journey We all search for things that inspire, motivate and drive our journey’s of self-discovery. As the name implies, the blog has a way of instilling calm in my mind once I see it.
Please visit their blogs and say hello. A few minutes may gain you a friendly support.
Do you want more eyes on your words?
Well then, add your LINK into this loop.
Regards.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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No matter how careful we are.
No matter how well we plan.
We never know what lies down the next bend on this journey of ours.
We never know what curve ball that is heading our way.
How deep we would be tossed into the cold waters
Oh how high into the winds it would flip us.
Nevertheless, in all these uncertainties
There are rudders and life buoys that helps us steer and keeps us afloat
These are the things that we must always hold on to in our life aid kit.
For day to day, we never know when we will need each of these things.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Bliss is waking up late on a beautiful Saturday morning, lounging in bed, cocooned beside the warm body of your loved one and talking about everything and nothing.
Bliss is eating a robust, nutritious home-made breakfast, smiling about nothing and everything, and generally feeling happy.
That’s my bliss. So, what’s your  bliss 😉 ?
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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There are times when we are inadvertently hit by blows that destiny sends our way. Blows that we may never have been in a position to deflect, but one thing is that we can choose our attitude towards how the rest of our lives continues after these experiences.
Are we going to be stuck on the ‘Woe is me junction?’ Filled with bitterness and the bile of it all?
What purpose will that serve? None! Except building up the bile and angst, which is dangerous for our wellness and state of being.
Now, there are also incidents and hurts inflicted on us by others and we bear grudges the size of a mountain for them.
That’s giving someone rent free space in your head. Space that could be used for better things than dwelling on bitterness that takes us nowhere.
Forgiving them does not mean that you have forgotten the lesson learnt from the bitter experience, but it’s a way of setting yourself free.
Allowing these bitterness to dictate your life means that you will always remain in the victim mindset loop.
Cut yourself loose. Whatever it will take to get your life back, talk about it, cry about it, write about it, pray about it…..
….Set your heart free and get your life back.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Have a blessed, happy and beautiful weekend.
You deserve it.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Sometimes, it does seem that once you are on a set path to achieving certain goals, that is when life picks up extra ideas to set all manners of distractions along your way.
It’s however up to you on how you choose to handle the scenarios.
Sometimes, these distractions are those ones that we cannot help and are regarded as ‘life happens.’ In such cases, I always repeat this mantra in my head ‘and this too shall pass,‘ while trying to stay focused and above the water not to get carried away with the current.
Then sometimes, these distractions come by way of other unreliable and pessimistic humans whom we allow into our lives.
I don’t believe in playing nice with anyone whose primary ambition and pleasure is to circumvent my growth. I simply find a corner on my shelf that is dusty and disused and place the person there.
There is simply no time to waste with such wet dampening blankets around you.
Remember, you can choose those who dine on your table and send them forth quickly, but you’ve got to be very mindful about those whom you allow to dine in the inner courts of your heart.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Those who crave for the moon have to learn how to reach for the stars, even when life knocks you on your back. As a matter of fact, that is a good position for star gazing 😉
Wishing and not doing is idle-dreaming.
Dreams are only actualized when the steps are set in motion.
Your steps should be broken into days to give your a greater opportunity to be fully present in your moments.
It makes no sense running off to make a five year’s projection, when the next weeks projection is staring you in the face without being dealt with. That my friend is simply trying to play the game of delayed procrastination with your time.
Do remember that all the time that you have are equals to your life.
Step out of the revolving door and dare to fail forward.
Regards,
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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I have been talking to people about ‘thoughts’ for days and I keep reiterating this thought process because a whole lot that we are and become lies within our thoughts.
Our thinking mind is our power house and like a fine machine that when it is properly oiled, serviced and tuned, it brings out the best that it has to give and will even yield outstanding results beyond what you thought was possible.
Keep servicing your mind in the right manner and you will find yourself not only pushing the boundaries of your goals, but exceeding your own expectations.
It’s all in the mind.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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