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Boobs, Breasts and Bras…

Yes, you read the topic ‘boobs, breasts and bras,’ correctly. This is a little chit-chat about your bosom buddies and they are nothing to fear or dread. Being a woman, you can’t disassociate from parts of you that accentuate your femininity and if you’re like most women, you know your breasts intimately – their ups and downs, how they fit into your bras, the way they look in certain dresses, what they feel like at different times of the month and perhaps if you are getting on in age, the changes they go through as the law of gravity helps them head downhill.

Interestingly, it took me getting to the ripe old age of my 30’s to get comfortable with my gals, and I attribute our delay in getting to know each other well to two main things: frustrating bra shopping escapades and lack of better insight on how to find the right kind of bras for me.

As odd as it might sound, choosing the right bra for your shape and size isn’t always that easy, and sadly, most women find the experience to be such an ordeal that sometimes after scouring through dozens of bras, sweating, huffing and puffing in the changing room, you end up leaving the store with nothing at all, or sometimes you leave with a bra that’s entirely wrong for you, which I presume is worse.

For those of us who have been well endowed in the upper chambers of boobs department, finding comfortable, yet beautiful and efficient bras that help to support our buddies and boost their confidence is truly a path to wellness and peace of mind. I vividly recall my last months’ foray into a well-known top brand store that I shall keep a secret, every bra – even though they were meant to be my attributed size – left me thinking that I had supplementary breasts and by the end of the frustrating escapade I’m not sure who felt more pained between the attendant and me. The whole experience left me feeling like an elephant trying to wear fripperies and negligees and I couldn’t help venting a little on my Facebook update.

Following my little update, a friend sent me the image below which not only made me chuckle, but made me realize that the journey of the bras is a common denominator among women and with my tongue in my cheek, I dare ask, which illustration matches your predicament?

I have reached an age where I am no longer going to part with my money for flimsies that don’t uphold me no matter how pretty they look. In search of great, high quality bras with good support, I have abandoned those infernal underwire cups that most times leave you feeling pinched, caged in and out of breath. Let the truth be told, at a certain age, the law of gravity brings the perkiness of your boobs down by several notches and though you don’t want to look ridiculous trying to push your boobs up to the high heavens, you equally don’t want them dangling to your knees. What you want is the right upliftment of comfy, beautiful and supportive bras that will treat your bosom buddies right.

Quick Tips on How to Make Bra Shopping Less of a Pain

  • It pays to know your size. To find your bust size, measure around your ribs just under your breasts and measure around the fullest part of your breasts. Subtract the band measurement (ribs) from the bust measurement to get your cup size.
  • Make sure that your entire breasts are in the cup, not spilling over or to the sides.
  • Check that the straps are not digging into or sliding off your shoulders.
  • The centerpiece between the two cups should lay flat on your sternum.
  • The thicker the band, the more support you will get.
  • Be patient and have fun with it.
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The Real Meaning Behind Working Hard

People all over the world will tell you that “working hard” is a piece of advice to take with a grain of salt. It’s not exactly clear why they think that (and sometimes they fail to understand it themselves) so let’s take a dive into the meaning of working hard and why everyone should do it – at least to a certain extent.

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Having Endurance

Hard work doesn’t just mean putting in a little effort to reach your goals. Hard work means enduring a journey of effort, pain and occasionally misfortune. It’s all about having that endurance to keep working hard throughout your life and never giving up.

It’s one of the most desirable qualities in people. Having that endurance to keep on working longer than others will put you at an advantage and ultimately make you more successful than others. If success is measured in the amount of time you put into something, then those with more endurance can ultimately last longer.

However, it doesn’t mean pushing yourself to a point where you physically collapse. There are some people that are perfectly capable of working long hours and putting in more effort, and it’s ultimately down to how much pleasure you get from putting in an extra effort and going the extra mile to see better results than people who are lazy and have put less time into their dreams.

You Define Hard Work

You’ll occasionally see hypocrites telling you that hard work is X or Y, and they’ll say that their definition of hard work is the be-all-end-all. However, you’ll find that they rarely ever meet their requirements of “hard work” and they’re just blowing steam.

Don’t listen to these types of people. You will define hard work by your own measurements. Some people consider it working themselves until they’re physically tired, while others consider it completing a task with plenty of time left to spare. Entrepreneurs might consider hard work to be making more profit than their projected numbers, and artists might consider hard work as being able to stay consistent.

Define hard work yourself–don’t let someone do it for you.

The Problem with Overworking

One of the reasons why people say that hard work is bad is due to overworking. If you find that you’re never given a break and that your employer is constantly pushing you, then this lawyer here can help you get a break before you injure yourself. The idea is to constantly try and push your limits so you can discover what you’re really capable of, but you should also keep in mind that you shouldn’t overwork yourself to the point you’re hurting your body and mind.

Hard work is important and it carries a different meaning from person to person. However, you need to remember to always take breaks and let yourself relax both physically and mentally. Hard work and success are long-term marathons that take endurance, not sprints that are over in a few seconds!

This is a collaborative post.

The Power of ‘I AM.’

I AM. The two most powerful words in your life and without exaggerating, in the Universe. Have you ever taken the time to ponder over these two small words ‘I AM’ and the power entrenched in them?

Going deeper than the simple understanding of the power of ‘I AM,’ do you consciously recognize those subconscious “I am” statements that you make about yourself? On a daily basis, what do YOU think of YOURSELF? What thoughts of you do you accept?

Naturally, we are our own worst critics as well as the co-creators of our lives. We have been given this free will and immense power to decide who we are and who we want to become. The sad truth, however, is that most of us lack sufficient positive belief in ourselves and we expend our energy picking ourselves apart rather than building ourselves and this is in addition to external beliefs that we have internalized based on third-party thoughts and influence.

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We all have the power of choice and no matter how late you wake up to this knowledge, knowing this and accepting this power, we can start taking the necessary steps to break the cycle of self-limiting beliefs that surreptitiously takes hold of our lives.

An important factor in the lives of individuals who have broken their chains of limitation to rise up and achieve their goals is their recurrent positive attitude and strong “I am” affirmations. Belief + Action = Results. The journey of transformation always starts from within.

When you consciously begin to utilize the power of “I AM” statements, believe me, your life will transform. This is not a probability that works only for some people. It will work for you when you WORK AT IT!  It’s all a matter of consistency. You have to make it a daily habit to affirm yourself in a positive way. Once you make this a conscious habit, after some time, it becomes an unconscious habit – you have re-trained your brain to accept better, more positive beliefs about who you are.

Make it a goal to dig deeper, soul search and find those negative, defining and debilitating words that you hold over yourself. These words don’t serve you well and your goal is to transform them. These negative words steal into your psyche and as you believe them, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

We all have been blessed with unlimited power and creativity and our inner spirit knows this. Your “I am” statements affirm the truth of your nature. When you say ‘I AM JOY or I AM AT PEACE,’ life provides you with the means to find inner joy and peace. Replace your I WANT’S with I AM and start to embody the power of who you truly are.

You get to choose what to think about yourself. 

A Lesson in The Bug…

I think that I’ve been bitten by the bug of a thought following Linda’s earlier prompt for SoCS.

Does the saying that ‘the early bird gets to eat the fattest worm’ ever bug you a bit? Well, it does bite me in the butt now and again. Sometimes I feel that I’m late for lifes’ party and that the early birds before me have harvested the best and the fattest worms, leaving slim pickings for those of us who made it late.Related image

When my thought pattern begins to go down this route of ‘woe is me and regretting time lost’ I painstakingly drag it back to the present firmly reminding myself of a couple of common Igbo adages that say, ‘when someone wakes up is their morning,’ and ‘the first house built on the street is not necessarily the finest.’

Reminding oneself that the land is still green and full of harvest and that the Earth is abundant for every one of us is not cold comfort or living in a fool’s paradise. It is true. However, it is based on your perspective.

Our reality is what it is, but our reality is equally what we can make it ‘to be’ if we want it badly enough. Constantly comparing our circumstance to that of someone else who seems to be thriving better simply exposes us to the evil twins – envy and jealousy – and allowing these two to occupy free space in your heart never bodes well for anyone.

I would say that as life keeps evolving, just wear your dancing shoes. Today’s early bird might become tomorrow’s hunters’ prey, so stop fretting about being late for lifes’ party and simply start your own party, there will always be enough guests to invite.

Jacqueline

What About You? Affirmation Challenge Day 19

I am a victor and not a victim. I rise above every circumstance that was meant to destroy and put me to shame. I gather every stumbling block that life placed in my path and turn them into steps to rise.

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I love these quotes from yesterday:

Bernadette: When life becomes a roller coaster the best plan is to climb into the front seat, raises your arms and scream.

Mandibelle16: She knew the day he broke her heart, that love was either the greatest joke the world had ever told us, or, the greatest and most felt truth. — Christopher Poindexter

DancingPalmTrees: Don’t give away your power. What you allow will continue. Never let them see you sweat. Stand up for yourself otherwise people will take advantage.

Eugenia: Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances. ― Maya Angelou

P.S. If you wish to join this positive affirmation challenge running for 90 days, please add your quote to the comments and each day, I’ll share everyone’s quote with their links.

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In A Nutshell…

To liberate oneself, the need to search out and study all the dark corners of one’s mind and come to terms with what you find is paramount. The question should always be, ‘do I know who I am?’

Without acceptance, one lives in a continued state of denial.

A Little Reflective Exercise For You Today

A little exercise for your self-exploration in conjunction with the ‘what about you’ affirmation challenge.