What My Mama Said To Me…16


Wisdom, Mother Knows Best, Proverbs, Mother and Child

Mama said to me, baby
never go borrowing
those things meant for others


be prepared
to live with the discomfort
that accompanies them.



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What My Mama Said To Me…15

Wisdom, Mother Knows Best, Proverbs, Mother and Child

Mama always said to me, baby,
always search inwards first,
as deeply as you can bear to dig in;

‘cos most times
the answers we scurry around to find
lies latent within us.



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Possible Causes When Your Child Is In Pain

Aches and pains are something you expect to experience as you get older. We all accept that our bodies aren’t going to be as elastic and mobile as they once were. However, we don’t expect that our children are going to have to put up with various aches and pains for many years. And yet, kids can complain of seemingly random pains that have no obvious cause. If you have a child complaining about something hurting, but you can’t see an obvious injury, you might think they’re being sneaky and trying to get out of something. But there could be a number of reasons they’re feeling pain.

Children's Health

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Injuries aren’t always visible on the surface. While sometimes there’s a bruise, cut or swelling, it’s possible for your child to get hurt and not have an obvious injury. They might have fallen over or walked into something, hurting themselves but not immediately leaving a visible mark. If your child can still move everything and doesn’t seem to be in too much pain, the injury probably isn’t too severe, and you can treat it at home. However, if it’s a pain that doesn’t go away, it’s affecting their mobility (or even ability to sit or lie down), or you start to notice any swelling, seeing a doctor might be necessary.

Congenital and Developmental Problems

Sometimes, children are born with medical problems that aren’t obvious right away. Or they might develop an issue as they grow and something doesn’t grow as it’s supposed to. Some children can experience hip degeneration caused by hip dysplasia when the hip forms incorrectly. This sort of thing might happen to various parts of their body. However, it’s not necessarily easy to pick up just by looking. Seeing a doctor is often the only way to diagnose the problem with various tests and examinations.

Germs, Illness

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Being ill can sometimes cause aches and pains too. From headaches and tummy aches to sore throats and itchy skin, there’s a whole range of symptoms your child might complain of. Most illnesses might not be very pleasant to experience, but they can often be treated at home and will soon pass. Some more serious illnesses can occur too, of course. Some need to be addressed immediately, such as appendicitis, septicemia, and meningitis, so it’s important to know the symptoms to look out for that indicate that you might have an emergency on your hands.

Sapling, Growing

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Growing Pains

Some pains that children experience don’t have a clear explanation. A lot of children and preteens experience “growing pains”, which are also called recurrent nocturnal limb pain. This is when children get aching legs, usually in the evenings and at night. Despite being called growing pains, there’s no evidence that they’re caused by growing. They might be the result of lots of physical activity, and they’re also more common in children with more flexible joints. They run in families too, so if you remember experiencing them, your child might too.

There’s no need to worry straight away if your child complains of being in pain. There are many possible causes, and usually, it’s nothing serious.

This is a collaborative post.

What My Mama Said To Me…13

Wisdom, Mother Knows Best, Proverbs, Mother and Child

Mama said to me, baby,
when you find yourself stuck in a deep hole
just look up and see how tall you are



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Keeping Your Mojo Throughout All Parenting Difficulties You Might Face

No one said raising children was easy. However, when your child looks at you and tells you they love you throughout your life, you know instinctually that raising children is worth it. However, that’s not to say the positive benefits of being a parent aren’t earned. They’re earned more than any life achievement could be. Climbing Mount Everest can look like a lounging nature trail walk compared to raising a human being to the best of your ability, and hoping they turn out sensibly, wise and happy.



Part of being a great parent is keeping your ‘mojo’ levels up to the point where you can happily steer them through all the difficulties that occur through life. Mojo can be defined as your energy levels, your ability to be open, engaged and magnetic, the ability to go to sleep well and not have to worry too much about your day to day responsibilities because you’re confident you can complete them.

To someone lacking mojo, this can sound too good to be true, and impossible to keep up all the time. That’s true, there’s no way anyone can be happy all of the time, but they can certainly keep a good attitude most of the time.

Here’s how:

Make Time For Recreation

Recreation and taking a break, with or without your children is a big step on the road to sustaining your mojo. You have to keep updated with your social links, make time for silly entertainment, and allow yourself to be an utter goofball around your kids. It’s these moments that make all the ‘admin’ of life worth living, so be sure to keep them numerous.

Release The Burdens On Your Mind

Over time, unfulfilled obligations or life stresses take their toll on your mind, and a low-level feeling of despair can gestate within you because of this. Be sure to try alternative methods around these issues.

For example, if you’re getting divorced, you might like to try divorce by meditation to cool the entire emotionally-charged process. If you have difficulties with your children’s behavior at school, you might like to try and get to the source and root of the issue by visiting child behavioral therapists, as opposed to scolding them and hoping that works. Parenthood is never easy, but it’s twice as difficult with a heavy mind.

Eat Healthily

Eating a healthy diet is an absolute must when fulfilling a job so demanding as being a parent. Your children can take all energetic reserves out of you by the end of the day, and if you’re not giving your body all of the nutrients it deserves, you’re likely to crash sooner rather than later. Be sure to stay on top of healthy eating habits, and you’ll find an extra reserve of energy you never knew you could access.

Parenthood is the hardest job among jobs. Even trained and battle-hardened soldiers will shudder at the thought of raising another human being successful. If you’re doing a relatively good job, well done you! You deserve to be remembered as an incredible parent. Just be sure to stay on top of your health, mentally, physically and spiritually. In doing so, you’ll become an even better figurehead of the family. Good luck!

The Importance of Passing Down Memories To Your Children

Going about your business, sometimes the daily wear and tear of life, chores, cooking and cleaning has a detrimental effect on some of the things you love most dearly. These items you cherish with your heart, you may want to one day, pass on to your kids. Or maybe, when you gray and old you want to look back on the great memorable days you had. Some possessions you have to hold true meaning, they’re near and dear to your soul, and you wouldn’t ever want to lose them. So in order to take care of them, you need to act now.

Wristwatch, Jewelry, Heirloom, Valuable Trinkets

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Marriage and engagement Rings are a symbol of love and connection with another human being’s soul. As you go through life, the ring you wear every day might get scratched, damaged or even lost. If you plan on giving your wedding or engagement ring to your daughter-in-law one day, you may want to keep it from harm’s way. Think about taking off your engagement ring and keep it in a safe place, while replacing it with another ring. There are so many affordable diamond engagement rings out there to choose from. Modern manufacturing techniques produce high-quality craftsmanship at reasonable prices. So, don’t see it as a step-down, but a safety net for one of your most-loved possessions.

The daily cleaning chores include acidic cleaning fluids which have adverse effects on precious metals and gemstones. It kind of makes sense to keep your rings in tip top condition as they’re a symbol of love and should transcend any form of wear and tear. Your children will one day reflect as you did, about the ring they wear every day, which you have passed down to them. Take care of it and swap it out for a symbolically less valuable alternative. The age-old advice is to, take the ring to an artisan, have it polished and cleaned before you store it in a safe place and perhaps make it a part of your will.

Kid Reading, Diary of A Wimpy Kid

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Remember those late nights you sat up reading stories to your children? Oh how their eyes lit up with imagination, their smile and laughter are unforgettable. Those books you read from, may have been put in the attic somewhere or left in a dusty bookshelf in the corner of a room. If you want to save this treasured piece of culture, and hopefully one day pass it one to the kids of your children, follow these steps.

  • First of all, clean the book’s back and cover. Don’t use any kind of household cleaner as they have citrus-based acids in them and they’ll scar or whither away the color from the art on the cover.
  • Dust down each page with a feather duster. Fold back then straighten any pages which have been creased and flexed.
  • If the spine of the book has become damaged or lose, sparingly use PVA glue to fix any gaps that have arisen; and leave it dry with a weight on top of the book.
  • Next, lay the book down on a sheet of cling film and wrap it tightly and neatly.
  • Put the book in a see-through plastic folder and keep it in a place where it’s accessible but out of the way.

When your children’s children grow up, they can read them stories from the same book you read to their parents. You’ll be able to pass on the book in pristine condition and who knows, it may be further passed down and loved generation to generation. It’ll take the importance of a family heirloom, with love and memories behind it.


7 Effective Tips on How to Stay Healthy When Your Family Is Sick


7 Effective Tips on How to Stay Healthy

When Your Family Is Sick

Living around family members who are sick can be quite challenging. This is because while you want to attend to your family, you are also putting yourself at a risk of contracting the illness they are suffering from. As such, there is need to cautiously attend to the sick while taking care of your health first. It is worth noting that just because a person in your family is sick, the rest of you do not have to contract the sickness.

It is important to be extra cautious if the illness in the family is contagious. This is because such diseases can spread very fast and affect everyone in the family particularly children and other people whose immunity is weak. Fortunately, there are several proven tips you can use to ensure that you stay healthy when your family is sick.

Wash hands thoroughly

Hands may come into contact with contaminated surfaces and as such may be carriers of germs and other disease-causing microorganisms. Due to this, it is important to ensure that you wash thoroughly using plenty water and detergent/soap. You can also use essential oils together with soap/detergent to enhance the effectiveness of the soap in killing germs.

Once you have washed your hands well, you should then dry them using a clean towel. Not all germs can be removed through hand washing as there are some that tend to remain even after washing the hands. This is why it is necessary to dry your hands so as to remove the damp conditions on hands that may harbor germs. Ensure that you dry your hands well including beneath the nails.

Restrict kitchen access

If a family member is sick, you should ensure that he/she does not access the kitchen or other common areas such as the dining table. This is particularly if they are sneezing or coughing and may, therefore, spread germs all over the house quite easily. Bacteria can survive on different surfaces including tables and countertops. Therefore, when the infected person uses the kitchen, these germs may be left on these surfaces and may later get transferred to food, which could be disastrous when you have small kids eating together with your family.

In addition to restricting kitchen access, you should also limit the use of the refrigerator and freezer. Ideally, people open fridge doors more times than any other door in the house. As such, these doors may serve as a germ-swapping spot in the house.

Use hot water to clean laundry

Disease-causing germs, bacteria, and other microorganisms are easily destroyed by heat. In line with this, you should ensure that you use hot water to wash your laundry and for bathing. Research studies have shown that hot water is more efficient in killing germs than cold water. In addition to hot water, it is also necessary to use detergents and antiseptics to kill germs in your laundry.

When doing laundry, it is important that you should not touch your mouth or nose. This is because germs tend to get into the body easily when they come into contact with open surfaces such as the mouth and nose. When doing laundry using a washing machine, it is important that you sanitize the machine using hot water and bleach in between loads.

Reduce physical contact

When someone is sick or recovering from sickness it is not the best time for cuddles, kissing, and hugging as well as other forms of physical contact. It may sound unrealistic and hurtful not to hug and cuddle your sick child, but it is for the best for both of you. This is because while the healthy are at a risk of contracting a disease from the sick, the sick on the other hand are more susceptible to contracting other illnesses since their immunity is quite low.

You should use hands-off ways of comforting and soothing a sick family member by using hand signals that mean kisses, hugs, or using comforting words like “I love you”. If you have to kiss your child, avoid kissing on the mouth but instead kiss on the forehead or other surfaces such as on cheeks.

Disinfect the house regularly

Usually, germs can survive on surfaces for 24 hours only. However, there are some that survive for longer than that. Due to this, you should ensure that you thoroughly disinfect surfaces and floors in the house on a regular basis. Some of the surfaces that you are likely to find germs include counter surfaces, computer keyboards, telephones and toilet seats among other surfaces.

In addition to disinfecting surfaces in the house, you should also thoroughly wash utensils such as spoons, forks, knives, plates and cups among other utensils. This helps in preventing the spread and transfer of germs to other people in the family.

Keep distance from sick persons

If you are sick, it is advisable that you keep your distance so as not to spread the illness to other people. It is necessary that you avoid going in social gatherings while you are on medication as this may put those around you at risk of contracting illnesses. Additionally, you may expose yourself to other illnesses from other people since your immune system may be quite weak thus making you susceptible to developing other illnesses.

Promote hygiene

Germs and bacteria thrive well in dirty conditions. It is, therefore, important to ensure that you promote hygiene in and around the house. For instance, ensure that the house is clean at all times. Towels should be maintained dry at all times and without any moisture whatsoever. If you have a sick person in the house, ensure that you dispose of the tissues or any other trash used by them. Additionally, ensure that you do not have unprotected contact with items used by a sick person.

For added safety and health while in the house, you should ensure that the sick persons in the house cover their noses and mouths while coughing or sneezing. This helps in preventing the likelihood of having air-borne germs all over the house thereby putting other people at risk of developing infections.

If you want everyone in the family to be healthy, it is important to strengthen their immune system through feeding them on a well-balanced diet, exercising regularly, and avoiding counter-productive habits such as smoking or abuse of drugs. This goes a long way in making it possible to prevent illnesses and infections particularly among young children and adults with weak immune systems.

Parenting Journal, Parenting, 7 Effective Health TipsThis post is written by Danny from MyParentingJournal.coma blog dedicated to parenting best practices, tips, advice, and resources.