Challenges · Inspiration - Motivation · Lifestyle · Stream of Consciousness Saturday. · This Is My Life

An Averted Anxiety Moment…Streams Of Consciousness Saturday.

Today is one of those days. I woke up with AN anxious pressing of thoughts, yet my mind was scattered to the four winds and I initially could not pin down what it was that caused the pressing niggles.socs-badge-2015

It was such that I felt like not doing anything but just crawling between the sheets and allowing the thoughts marinate and vacillate.

This was not the ‘I am feeling lazy today thoughts,’ rather, it was more like the ‘let me stew in some unknown worry and annoyance thought.’

However, I knew the fore-warnings and the possible resultant effects of such marinating. I would gradually spiral into a ball of anxious worry wart and by the end of the day, the snappy, stressed dragon will start showing it’s ugly face and it just goes downhill.

So I had to actively decide to turn my ANxiety moment into an active moment and I did just three things before the emotional waves came into balance.

These are the three simple things that I did:

  • I prayed briefly with my children.
  • I dragged on my exercising clothes and lazily sweated out for an hour and twenty minutes.
  • After the sweating, I sat in my thinking corner and turned to piece my thoughts apart to try and put my fingers on the niggles. Some thoughts were dealt with and resolved as quickly as a phone call. Other thoughts were written down and turned into action points to be resolved at assigned specific times.

Doing these three things decompressed my mind. I found myself back to a balanced tandem and my day continued on a good note.

Those moments of ANxiety can possibly be turned into moments of ANswers, but it takes a lot of conscious effort to deal with it.

I have learnt over time, that putting pressing thoughts or issues off or pushing them under the rug does not make them go away, rather the rug only gets higher.

This is my first post in relation Stream of Consciousness challenge and we Linda has asked us to use ‘an’ for today’s prompt.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Life · Lifestyle · Love · Personal story · The Great Book Of Lists

My Lettered Mind… The Great Book Of Lists Chapter 1.4

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At a young age, deciphering the lettering in the pages of a book became No. 1 on the list of my favourite things and if it is possible to say, I would say that I gobbled up literature with such veracity, that one would think it was an Olympic contest.

The adventure that I have with books has led to a rhyme or two words.

Out of my forays in reading, I got to learn that I am an incurable romantic realist *if such a term exists* and I always look for the happy endings or at least something heartwarming.

I read several horrors after a fad and found it absolutely not to my taste.

Yes, I admit, the amount of Mills & Boons, Harlequin Romances, Barbara Cartlands, Penny Jordan’s, Barbara Taylor Bradford, Amanda Quick and the rest of the crew that I read, must have contributed some coins from my piggy bank to the authors pockets and it’s amazing how much content the brain can take in and still keep soaking up more each day.

Ah! These brings back the days of mobile library and the ice-cream van to my mind. The two always seemed to come around the school premises almost at the same time and now that I think about it, that ice-cream man must have been responsible for my love for sweets. Just imagine bringing my two favourite things together 😉

I digress. Back to some of the books that caught my mind, held my thoughts and stoked my imagination enough to steal into the toilet for a quick page of reading when I was meant to be watching the beans on the fire and yes, a page turned to several and the beans got burnt.

For this weeks The books that transport me, chapter 1.4 of TGBOL, these ones come easily to my mind:

  1. Lorna Doone  – Richard Doddridge Blackmore
  2. Wuthering Heights – Emily Brontë
  3. Jane Eyre – Charlotte Brontë
  4. Little Women – Louisa May Alcott
  5. The Basket Of Flowers – Christope Von Schmid
  6. The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn – Mark Twain
  7. The Adventures of Tom Sawyer – Mark Twain
  8. Oliver Twist – Charles Dickens
  9. The Mayor of Casterbridge – Thomas Hardy
  10. The Count of Monte Cristo  – Alexandre Dumas
  11. Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen
  12. Gone with the wind – Margaret Mitchell
  13. Things Fall Apart – Chinua Achebe
  14. Sands Of Time – Sidney Sheldon
  15. The Secret Garden – Frances Burnett
  16. Great Expectations – Charles Dickens
  17. The Merchant Of Venice – William Shakespeare
  18. Comics of : Archie, Betty & Veronica, Jughead, ASTERIX, TinTin
  19. Fairy tales by The Brothers Grimms
  20. Enid Blyton books

Numbers 18, 19 and 20, I pretend to buy for my children and still sneak in a good read and a chortle. Please, you are free to think whatever, I am still a child at heart 😉

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Gratitude · Inspiration - Motivation · Lifestyle

Why Not? Are You Too Much Of A Man?…

Is it possible to wake up and express a heartfelt gratitude for everything, without a ‘but?’1453822435428[1]

Some gentleman openly made a scornful statement, asking why we should have to express our thankfulness and gratitude for all to see? Why couldn’t we just be thankful in our minds?

I thought it through and my wonder is, maybe he feels it’s not manly enough to be seen doing something as sissy as being grateful or thankful? Who knows.

Anyway, to this retort I say, why not? We talk about virtually anything and everything under the Sun. So why not gratitude and thankfulness? Must we save it only for the day of Thanksgiving, on 24 November?

Is it because the word carries the connotations of Religion or Christian tenets?

Well you are wrong! I think it would be wise to remember that the state of gratitude is a life tenet, which does not respect any doctrine, dogma, race, religion, age or sex.

Thankfulness is a state of being that is the mother of all virtues. When we are thankful, we have less to grumble about. When we are thankful, it makes the little that we have enough. When we are thankful, we are not going to be envious and envy breeds wickedness.

We don’t have to look far to find things to be grateful for: family, food, shelter, friends, clothing, seasons, life, nature, beauty, truth, salvation. The list could go on for decades.

A heart of gratitude opens doors of love, peace and plenty.

Today, I am grateful for life and good health. It’s really a privilege and nothing can truly compare to the promises that I have in God.

A grateful heart will always find satisfaction. May your heart find a grace for gratitude. Like the Bible tells us, ‘God inhabits the praise of His People.

You can join Colline’s  or Maria Jansson gratitude challenge platforms.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Five Sentence Inspiration · Lifestyle · My Thinking Corner · Quotes For You · Success

Tuesdays Trickles 6…My Thinking Corner.

Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’

I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple.

Each Tuesday, share your very short snippets of positive, inspiring, motivating, health, spiritual, writing advice, clips, posts etc, that can serve as a prop to motivate others and simply add my link to your post.

I call it my thinking corner because, I actually take out a bit of time just to think through things, encapsulate my thoughts as much as possible and detoxify my mind.

It might work for you in a different way, but the idea is to get the positive thoughts flowing.

Please send in your little thoughts. You never know whose life you might inspire.

 

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  • The single truth that we tell ourselves is a million times better than the half-truths that we are told by a dozen.
  • Hope is that last little flicker in the rubble of our burnt ashes. When you stoke the embers sufficiently, the flames will come alive.
  • Our dreams can never be the same neither will our journey. You must dream your dreams and not wait for hand-me- downs.
  • An empty heart will never have anything to give. Fill it with good things and it will overflow naturally.
  • Once that little voice in a mind asks, is this all there is? Then, there must be more to be done and we should be on the quest for that more.

Here Are Last Week’s Thinking Corner Thinkers 🙂

Small Choices. Rosema of Reading Writers little nuggets in brief.

The gift called today from Oba of the King’s Oracle fills me with beautiful thoughts.

Tuesday’s thoughts by Bisi of Femininematerz connects the dots of rising to the skill of your art.

Deep thoughts of Trickles and Tears from Diane of Ladies who lunch reviews.

Persevere. These very few words from simply me speaks very loud and clear.

Let’s hear your thoughts, quotes, advice et al.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Hope · Life · The Daily Post

No One Is Kicking This Bucket Yet!…

Thanks but no thanks WordPress. I still have a lot of life in me. I have no bucket list, thus no item 11 to talk about.1453562596664[1]

This is not something that I have gotten around to doing and doubt if I would do so, even though I know that it might seem the fashionable thing to do and what not, I have honestly never dwelt on it.

It’s not necessarily because I feel that I have all the time in the World because I don’t, but I am holding on to God’s promises of satisfying me with long life.

I am holding out for the blessings of seeing my children’s children and that my children will be like olive trees. As we know, olive trees are very long lived and bear bountiful fruits. I am holding on to this promise that I will not die before due season, but live to declare the good works of the Lord in the land of the living.

That said, I think that might be part of the reasoning behind my never having spent the time to make a long drawn bucket list. Where exactly on this list do I want to start from, because it would be a very long one.

Secondly, I am my own worst critic and tend to beat myself over the head when I set a long list of goals and fail to achieve them. It automatically sends negative signals of failing a promise to myself and I am seriously trying to get rid of those negative energies swirling around.

What I am trying to do is to look at the things that I aspire to achieve, break them down and focus on getting them done as much as possible without turning it into a do or die affair.

In some part of my mind, I feel as if a bucket list is self-limiting. What happens when I get to the end of that list?

Does it mean that I am ready to kick the bucket? No can do!

I think I shall pass on this assignment because, I truly believe that the journey of life should be savoured as much as possible, enjoying the joy that comes from the journey and not turn my life it into a big boring To-Do list.

Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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What’s the 11th item on your bucket list?

Health · Life · Social Issues

Sickle Cell Anaemia…

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When I was a very young girl, my bosom childhood friend Nnenna * God rest her soul* had sickle cell.

In my mind I still recall day’s of visiting her with a bunch of other friends and watching as she wept in throes of pain.

We would rub and massage her muscles to help, try to make her laugh and a lot of times I would go home feeling burdened with questions and worry.

She was a very beautiful, bright, talented young lady and equally full of life. She never liked being segregated or made to feel different and now that I dwell a bit on these memories, I can’t even fathom how big a burden she bore.

Knowing a family that lived a few streets away from our house, lose their offspring one after the other from Sickle cell disease, definitely cemented the indelible marks that SCD made on my mind.

Today, thankfully, with modern science, life expectancy of sufferers is a bit longer than what it used to be, nonetheless, it is still a traumatizing disease.

To know a bit more about SCD, you can click on this link Sickle Cell Disease.

Personally, I love to support groups that are out there, selflessly seeking to improve the standard of living of human life.

Most times, when we hear the word support, we balk at the idea because we automatically think of big bucks.

Support can come in so many forms that may not involve parting with any form of money.

Support can be the giving of your time and helping hands.

Support can be by lending your voice to a worthy cause.

Support can equally be by just being there for someone who you know going through a rough patch. Knowing that you are there counts for a whole lot.

‘Remember that though you may not be there for everyone, you can be there for someone.’

Regards,

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Inspiration - Motivation · Life · Quotes For You · Three quote challenge

When You Agree…

In my place, there is a saying which states that ‘when you agree, your God agrees with you.1453474975377[1]

A blogversation that I had recently with an awesome blogger brought back this saying that my dad used ever so often back to my mind and I spent a little time dwelling on the thought of it’s meaning.

As a child whose parents used lots of proverbs to buttress a point, I never quite understood some of what they were trying to say to me then, but as time went on, these kernels of words planted have been germinating profusely and I find wisdom tucked inside them.

It is a common belief back in my place that each person has their own little ‘Chi’ or ‘God’, also perceived as a guardian Angel and that whatever limitations the person sets for themselves, that is equally where their God will set himself.

If you buy into the myopic view of a misguided person that you are not good enough, then you will remain so.

If you set limitations for yourself with all the usual excuses: because I am poor, black, brown, fe/male, tall, short, etc, you will not grow past your limitations. To grow past them you have to stop agreeing to the negative feedback of ‘You Can’t.’

‘What are you agreeing to?’

There is no disputing the fact that there are socio-economic challenges, gender limitations, race boundaries and all the conceivable ceilings out there that hinders us from breaking through the invisible barriers to our perceived success, but wait a minute.

What of the glass ceiling that you have placed on your own mind? No one else will break through it and free you other than yourself.

In as much as there are things we are unable to stop from happening, we have the will power to choose how we react to these things.

Do we remain victims of our own minds, or do we break free from the bounds of mind enslavement of whatever it is that we are agreeing to and become victors?

The choice is yours. What are you agreeing to? What ever it is, is what your God will agree to as well.

I shall leave these little quotes here for you to dwell on.

‘It is not what you are called, but what you answer to.’ African proverb

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.‘ Proverbs: 23.7

Be careful how you are talking to yourself, because you are listening.‘ Lisa M. Hayes

For the quotes challenge invitation, I thank Kaushal of Expressive Human for the invitation, and would like to invite the following awesome bloggers to participate in the 3 days, 3 quotes challenge.

No pressures at all to do so. 

The rules are:

  1. Post 3 Quotes on 3 consecutive days.
  2. Thank the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 3 other bloggers on each day of challenge.

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Five Sentence Inspiration · Inspiration - Motivation · Lifestyle · My Thinking Corner · Quotes For You · Weave that Dream

Tuesdays Trickles 5..My thinking corner…

Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’

I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple.

Each Tuesday, share your very short snippets of positive, inspiring, motivating, health, spiritual, writing advice, clips, posts etc, that can serve as a prop to motivate others and simply add my link to your post.

I call it my thinking corner because, I actually take out a bit of time just to think through things, encapsulate my thoughts as much as possible and detoxify my mind.

It might work for you in a different way, but the idea is to get the positive thoughts flowing.

Please send in your little thoughts. You never know whose life you might inspire.

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  • Sometimes we stare hard at a closed door for too long that we fail to see the new ones opening for us.
  • When we expunge the negative, we must endeavour to fill the space created with the positive, because nature abhors vacuum in our existence.
  • As difficult as it might be, hold on to those positive thoughts. It never fails to expand your coast and broaden the possibilities of your impossibilities.
  • We must pay conscious mind to how we live each day, so that when we look back, we have lots of reasons to smile.
  • We ought to respect ourselves, otherwise, no one else will!

This is Rosema of Reading Writers little nuggets Small Choices. In-depth in brevity.

The gift called today from Oba of the King’s Oracle fills me with beautiful thoughts.

Tuesday’s thoughts by Bisi of Femininematerz connects the dots of rising to the skill of your art.

Deep thoughts of Trickles and Tears from Diane of Ladies who lunch reviews.

Persevere. These very few words from simply me speaks very loud and clear.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

 

Inspiration - Motivation · Lifestyle · Travel · Weave that Dream

It’s Almost Time For A Jaunt. Let It Start Brewing In Your Mind…

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There is nothing that gets the creative zing flowing like the discovery  and experience of new places, new people, new things.

My curious mind is always on the look out to see the common man blending in his environment getting on in his own way. There is that inner satisfaction that it brings to the soul, to see people milling about in harmony or to be out and about in nature. I capture a lot of these moments in photos and review them on lazy days.1452944377477[1]

For me, thoughts of travel does not only entail major hauling or tramping across Continents by air or sea, in actual fact, traveling by air is my least fun way of seeing new places and having new experiences, because you don’t see much while up in the air, except the miles of cloud and an occasional thrill of seeing another plane at a distance, if you are lucky. I guess it’s indispensable at times, when there’s a huge distance to be covered.1452944616829[1]

However, my favourite ways of gadding about is by road followed closely by train.

I love the leisurely way of traveling by road with my family. The kids nicely ensconced in the back, my dear Himself, otherwise known as daddy and husband drives most times and I get to ride shot-gun, filling his ears with idle chatter, oohing and aahing over the large open skies, pointing out the rolling meadows or whatever catches my fancy and keeping the kids entertained simultaneously.1452945518395[1]

The joy of traveling with your own vehicle or a leased one is that you get to dictate the pace of your movement, take all the stuff that you want, make as many pit-stops as required because the children can and do get antsy with repeated demands for loo run and the countless ‘are we there yet?’ moments.Image result for images of credit cards

It definitely beats the removal of shoes, belts, this and that at the airport under the scrutiny of raised eyebrows of security.

I can’t forget the silly smirk on the faces of one or two airport security, when I used to haul my younger son’s special trainer potty all over the place – he refused to sit on any toilet seat except on his Nemo and Dory aquamarine coloured one and it was one of the travel heavy season of my life, so we went everywhere with potty and his favorite duvet. Thankfully, the potty days are over 🙂1452943875832[1]

Of course, for individuals who are traveling alone, they get to have that quiet time to mull over things, play their long musical playlist without interruptions, or listen to an audio book, just about whatever they like.1452944064852[1]

A lot of times, I gaze at the long haul truckers in pure admiration. They have seen things and have tales to tell of their long journeys. At a point in my younger life, I wanted to experience that, but I guess it was just a passing fancy.

The road trip excitement starts building up days before we depart and in my home, we have our own travelling made easy, tailored-to-fit must have list to help make the journey seamless, fun and a worthwhile experience.

Our GPS is always updated. It is a priceless gadget that can get you to your destination with few hitches, though I love the colourful traditional maps and always acquire one for the place we are visiting.1452944754322[1]

Travel doesn’t quite feel the same without those maps – though for the life of me, I never seem to read it right and I end up confusing my husband to no ends and we get a little lost. GPS to the rescue.1452942777037[1]

We always carry extra blankets and pillows. My youngest, who is eight, tends to snooze off once the going gets on. After a bit of sing along, he’s out like light and it’s more comfy to set up a cosy spot at the back with the pillows and blanket to stop his head lolling all over the place, yet it never ceases to surprise me when the sweet, wafting aroma of dunkin donuts or burger rouses him from sleep.

There is something about traveling that makes the body peckish. A thermal hold-all with a flask of warm drink, bottles of water, sandwiches, paper napkins, chewing gum, cookies and other stuff like first aid box and basic pain relief drugs is a must have. 1452943838431[1]

I am the family entertainment generalissimo. I concoct stories to amuse the children, I read and share snippets from the dailies or a book with Himself and I shuffle the music playlist to soothe everyone’s taste.

Writing this article has my eyes glazing over with memories of the beautiful open Texas skies, of jaunts from Houston to Dallas, to Waco, to Austin…

Of road trips taken in the yesteryear’s in Africa; the drives from Lagos to Benin Republic, to Togo, to Ghana…

Of stopping by the roadside to eat fresh roasted corn and pear, breaking coco-nuts to eat the soft flesh and drink fresh coconut water, of local delicacies here and there, of dancing Makossa and Soukous to African beats in local clubs.

There are so many beautiful places to see on planet Earth and I really look forward to the opportunity of enjoying the simple thrills of life through visiting as many States as possible in North America and beyond.

Ah! It will soon be time to get out of the doldrums, especially for those who are experiencing the chilly climes.1452942193476[1]

The bone-chilling cold will pave way for warmer season and indeed the siren call of the road thrums in a traveler’s blood.

I learnt that these days, one can get to do some road travel and also earn from it. I wonder how that works, but it might be worth giving a thought. TURO is a unique car rental community that offers such opportunities.

Now, go pack your bags, dust your maps, don’t forget your travel essentials and ‘Own Your Adventure.’ 1452943911858[1]

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

P.S. ”This is not an advertisement, neither is it a sponsored post. Every word generated in this post is from my experience and are my words. TURO sent me an email inviting me to share a travel fun blog if I so choose.”

Life · Social Issues · The Daily Post

These Heinous Things That People Do…

Sometimes, I read the news online as I work, just to keep abreast with what goes on in the larger World that I am part of.

Occasionally, you stumble across good news but 98% of the time, the rest of the news are the heaps of rubble of wicked acts perpetrated by mankind.

Why would a man kill his own little son to accommodate the whims of his teenage girlfriend :/ ?

Why not return this child to his mother or better still send him to CPS or whatever welfare around him that would accept the boy if he had no other choice and didn’t want him any longer?

How heartless can a human be to snuff the life out of a young innocent being?

I guess he will claim temporary insanity, when the poor little, trusting boy didn’t get the opportunity to claim anything.

It is so sad to see so many people out there seeking the fruit of the womb, seeking for just one child to call their own and some undeserving human gets to kill the one that they have been blessed with.

Now, I hope his teenage sweetheart is happy and they should be hanging together for the rest of their days behind bars? Such people are even a waste of space and taxpayers funds.

Such news leaves me feeling ill about humanity.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

The Daily Post Prompt Ripped into the headline.

Write about something that happened over the weekend as though it’s the top story on your local paper.