There are times when we are inadvertently hit by blows that destiny sends our way. Blows that we may never have been in a position to deflect, but one thing is that we can choose our attitude towards how the rest of our lives continues after these experiences.

Are we going to be stuck on the ‘Woe is me junction?’ Filled with bitterness and the bile of it all?

What purpose will that serve? None! Except building up the bile and angst, which is dangerous for our wellness and state of being.

Now, there are also incidents and hurts inflicted on us by others and we bear grudges the size of a mountain for them.

That’s giving someone rent free space in your head. Space that could be used for better things than dwelling on bitterness that takes us nowhere.

Forgiving them does not mean that you have forgotten the lesson learnt from the bitter experience, but it’s a way of setting yourself free.

Allowing these bitterness to dictate your life means that you will always remain in the victim mindset loop.

Cut yourself loose. Whatever it will take to get your life back, talk about it, cry about it, write about it, pray about it…..

….Set your heart free and get your life back.

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Midnight Motivations And Musings #17…

February 25, 2016February 25, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha14 Comments

In my place, there is a proverb that says that ‘to start sleeping might be difficult, but when you do start, you begin to snore’ and another says that ‘when an old woman learns to dance to the rhythm that beats for her, she will not stop until that song is over.’

When we want to start something, there are usually a lot of hurdles set before us but if we stand our grounds and take off, the burden lightens as our stride gets firmer.

Yesterday, I wrote about distractions that pops up as we set out to achieve any goals or to do those things that needs to be done our lives, and the truth is that there will never be a perfect time for us.

There will always be distractions, so we also have to brace up and not lose focus when hit by these distractions, until we get to where we are going.

To a large degree, we have to be single-minded in our focus, otherwise, we will only find ourselves in a stagnated position or with bags full of regrets and self-recriminations.

The core strength is within us, it is only left for us to be resolute in pursuit of our purpose and at the end of it all, it will be well worth the effort.

In as much as our individual sense of success varies and is relative, there is always an enormous sense of fulfillment to be found within anyone who stuck it out and achieved their set goals.

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Midnight Motivation And Musings # 16…

February 24, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha21 Comments

Sometimes, it does seem that once you are on a set path to achieving certain goals, that is when life picks up extra ideas to set all manners of distractions along your way.

It’s however up to you on how you choose to handle the scenarios.

Sometimes, these distractions are those ones that we cannot help and are regarded as ‘life happens.’ In such cases, I always repeat this mantra in my head ‘and this too shall pass,‘ while trying to stay focused and above the water not to get carried away with the current.

Then sometimes, these distractions come by way of other unreliable and pessimistic humans whom we allow into our lives.

I don’t believe in playing nice with anyone whose primary ambition and pleasure is to circumvent my growth. I simply find a corner on my shelf that is dusty and disused and place the person there.

There is simply no time to waste with such wet dampening blankets around you.

Remember, you can choose those who dine on your table and send them forth quickly, but you’ve got to be very mindful about those whom you allow to dine in the inner courts of your heart.

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A Little Seed Sown…

February 24, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha45 Comments

It all starts with a little seed, that you plant, diligently tender and leave in the hands of the Lord of bounty to reward your efforts.

Last week, I applied for WordAds to be added to my blog since I am interested in earning a stipend for the hours that I am plugging away on this blog.

The initial feedback was a bit disconcerting for me. Basically, the response boiled down to the advice that I should go and wait and that they will get back to me if they find my stats satisfactory.

Given that my blog is a premium blog, for ads to be put in, you must have to meet a certain measure of traffic, which I presume is the general rule.

To cut a long story short, I went to sleep not to glad and I remember in my sleep, asking God to please not let my labour be in vain and reminding him of his words that a labourer is worthy of his wages.

To my delight, yesterday, I got a notification that my blog has been approved for WordAds and saw the ads placed on it.

It’s a gratifying moment for me and I am deeply thankful for this opportunity.

‘It will all end in praise.’

You can join Colline’s or Maria Jansson gratitude challenge platforms.

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Tuesdays Trickles…My Thinking Corner #10 …

February 23, 2016March 1, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha26 Comments

Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’

I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple.

Each Tuesday, share your very short snippets of positive, inspiring, motivating, health, spiritual, writing advice, clips, posts etc, that can serve as a prop to motivate others and simply add my link to your post.

I call it my thinking corner because, I actually take out a bit of time just to think through things, encapsulate my thoughts as much as possible and detoxify my mind.

It might work for you in a different way, but the idea is to get the positive thoughts flowing.

Please send in your little thoughts. You never know whose life you might inspire.

Just sit still for a moment and do nothing but appreciate your life.

Remember that your negatives turn into positives if you give it enough time to develop. Treat those dark moments as a transition to more positive moments.

I believe that there is no better way to live a life than to live it with absolute faith and positivism. The alternative is simply dreary.

To love is free, but to hate, takes up a whole lot of energy.

Follow your dreams. As far-fetched as it might seem. Remember that someone thought of going to the moon and managed to find a way there. Don’t hinder yours.

Regards,

Our Thinkers Thoughts came in from:

Words that instil calmness into your life from Deb of Bookyglover

A tried and tested way to face adversity from Stella of Giggles and tales

This is my kind of message from Oluseye of A striving Nigerian mom

Famous words of empathy by Harper Lee from Rosema.

Dignity in labour from Oba of Kingsoracle.

So, when will you share those nuggets of wisdom of yours?

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Midnight Motivations And Musings #15 …..

February 22, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha21 Comments

All the time spent worrying or nit-picking over issues that don’t add any value to our lives, but rather increases our headaches and gray hairs are unnecessary baggage that we should strive to let go of as much as possible.

Some have become experts in sweating the small stuff, in finding logs in other people’s eyes and generally nosey-poking into affairs that is none of their business, while they leave their own lives to flounder.

On the other hand, some are weighed down with so much that it seems as if the weight of the World is resting on their shoulders.

Isn’t it high time you started tossing away some of that ridiculous load that you are lugging around?

Isn’t it high time you started making your journey lighter and more peaceful?

Think on it. There are some excesses not worth taking along.

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We’ve Got Your Back…

February 22, 2016February 22, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha12 Comments

All the hullabaloo about Technology will only impress me, when I can download those delicious platters served up online 😉

After turning the house upside down over the weekend, I found a ton of stuff. You will never know what you have, until you spring clean your house. Then you will find all sorts of things that you can’t even recall. Sometimes, in pairs 😉

It’s always lovely to start the week and each day as much as we can with a smile and positive outlook. I find Leannenz Monday memes interesting.

Do have a fruitful and blessed week awesome people.

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Nothing Mundane About This Monday…

February 22, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha51 Comments

This caught my eye as I meandered about as usual. I have tried to research it and find the name but can’t quite get it’s botanical name.

Maybe the botanists/gardeners in our midst can offer up something.

No matter, I offer for your eyes, a pleasantly pretty purple flower.

Blessed Love and Welcome to Monday.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings #14…

February 21, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha17 Comments

A lot of times, people spend far too much time dwelling on those places where they took a tumble and failed, that sometimes, they even fail to see the silver lining streaking past their very nose in the dark cloud.

Then there are those who are far too concerned with how others will view and judge them for a short-coming that they deny themselves the opportunity to grow from a lesson that life presented.

It’s for others to spend their energy judging, if they so choose to, that’s not your business what they think.

Your business is to pick up your life, dust your scraped knees and make something beautiful out of a situation that wanted to get the better of you.