My Thinking Corner…

August 1, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha15 Comments

Negativity only breeds more of its kind

Have you noticed that once your train of thought goes off on a negative tangent, it simply sets the ball of negative emotions, reactions and mindset rolling fast downhill and at the end of the day, all these feedback is internalized, that it takes extra effort to rid ourselves of what that has become embedded in our psyche.

Learn to identify and isolate these thoughts. It may require digging deeper into your mind and possibly journalling. You might discover that over the years you’ve got a build up in your negative bank which needs to be addressed.

Unlearning this is like learning anything new. Start paying attention to your language and internal chatter and eliminate those negative absolutes from your thinking pattern. When your mind trails off, bring it back on track with positive affirmations.

Remember that we can’t give what we don’t have and what we let into our mind every day has a big effect on us. So, it’s time to start questioning what you allow in.

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Posts That Caught My Interest #4

July 7, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha

Now and again, I stumble on posts that resonate with me. I find myself nodding along in agreement as I read them and wish to share with others.

This episode of posts that caught my interest, I am offering these few. I found sense, laughter, reflection, inspiration, admiration, and love. Do take a peek.

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Each day a gift

He captures my thoughts in this brief poem. We need to remind ourselves of this, especially on the hard days.

Wall

Brief and full of wisdom.

Friday super short story

Less than a minute read with nuggets of wisdom.

Feeling empty inside

Insightful article

“I have a simple philosophy — Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches.” Alice Roosevelt Longworth

Ten reasons to be happy

Her list made me smile 🙂

Enjoy a good weekend and thank you for stopping by.

Jacqueline

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Featured Posts – Share Your Post Links.

July 4, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha

Sharing, Blogs, Networking, Growing Readership, Connection, Bloggers, Blog Posts

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Today’s featured blogs are:

The end

A wonderful short poem that says much. Never stop telling the stories.

The power of perspective

Perspective, perspective, perspective. You know what, I’m going to leave you to read this inspiring post yourself and just leave this quote below.

Furthermore, what you triumphantly overcome today, equips and enables you to help others tomorrow.

The beauty of being a young momma

Being a young mother almosts makes you feel like a superwoman 🙂

Passion

To follow your passion or not to follow it? Sometimes following your passion is not enough. Quite an insightful post.

Setting boundaries, not barriers

As women, we are constantly pushed and pulled in several directions as we strive to live up to the ideas of other people and society; the freedom and growth comes when we release ourselves from this when we get “comfortable with being uncomfortable” as we address those internal issues and wounds that we have allowed to fester.

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Midnight motivation and musings

Midnight Musings and Motivations

June 22, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha8 Comments

For sure, achieving success is glamorous but remember that its road is neither shiny nor paved in a hurry.

The want to succeed is often expressed and held in the heart of many, but the need to succeed is expressed by few.

We are all free to want, but our zeal to succeed must be fueled by our driving need. Remember that a need is something that is vital for your survival (such as food and shelter), whereas your want is simply something that you would like to have.

Success takes the whole nine yards and more. Always ask yourself, why do I need to succeed in this? Is it vital to my well-being?

Will failure in this pursuit be detrimental to you or is your wish to do this just one of the notches to add to your list of achievements?

Holding on to that hungry need serves to drive you, that even when you fall down today, you’ll get up tomorrow and keep going.

Midnight motivation and musings

Midnight Motivation and Musings – A Mouthful of Food

June 14, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha12 Comments

No one gets a mouthful of food by picking between another person’s teeth.

As I sat in a reflective mode of the things that I need to do, this old adage that my dad used to say sprouted in my mind and it was just as if I heard him repeat ‘no one gets a mouthful of food by picking between another person’s teeth.’

We sit and plan for things that we would do in future and sometimes from afar, we look at those who are doing things that we hope to do and the time just keeps ticking by.

We can learn from others, but when we don’t put our learnings and experience to use, it becomes a futile effort.

Someone could take crumbs from their table and give to another, but it would still remain crumbs that are given when the other person is inclined to do so.

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There Is Always HOPE! My Thinking Corner

May 23, 2017May 23, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha12 Comments

When we don’t have anything to hope for, then what are we living for?

When we realize that our destiny lies in our hands through changing our thinking, when we realize that so long as we inhabit our bodies and notwithstanding the fact that we grow older, that if we’re mentally, physically and spiritually able, we can still pursue those dreams that brighten our eyes and light up our hearts.

The one thing that we need to help us carry on day to day is hope because with hope there are possibilities. With hope, there are alternatives to our despair.

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Don’t Treat Them With Kid’s Gloves – My Thinking Corner

April 25, 2017April 26, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha6 Comments

Our inner beliefs define our reality. Our life’s path is paved or blocked by them. Jacqueline

Negative beliefs stick on us faster than grease on a pan and they are difficult to erase. We must learn to love and believe in ourselves because if we don’t really like who we are, we may do everything right – eat right, pray, run for miles, be kind to others etc – but we would never feel right.

The danger of allowing such inner feelings of malaise to fester and grow out of proportion is that they become a hardship to remedy. They harden like concrete over time and slowly asphyxiate other parts of who we are.

Think of this scenario: If you step into wet paint and you fail to wash off the residue quickly, it would dry up and by the time you are ready to get it off your skin will not thank you for the rough treatment. That’s the way negative beliefs – worthless, not good enough, ugly, unlovable, guilty, ashamed … treats us. Like chipping off solid concrete with a spoon.

We must not ignore addressing this inner malaise because they are physically unseen. They possess the absolute power of dictating how our lives turn out.

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The Power Lies with You – My Thinking Corner

March 14, 2017March 15, 2017 jacquelineobyikocha14 Comments

Thoughts become things and it’s our inaction or reaction that gives negative thoughts its sustenance. Jacqueline

Negative thoughts drain our energy and prevent us from enjoying our present moments. The more we dwell on them, the bigger they become till they take a life of their own and become difficult to uproot.

For example, it’s so easy for a word wrongly said by one partner to the other to spiral from that single word to each party visualizing a negative future that would most likely not occur.

When these negative thoughts start brewing, it’s hard to stop them. Shifting ones’ focus to positive thoughts may not be easy to do but with practice it ‘s effective.

Shifting thought patterns is the only way, especially if you want to avoid going down a path that is painful and unnecessary.

Try these simple tips to help shift your thought pattern.

Read positive quotes
Switch the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive even if at first it seems difficult.
Listen to meditative music or play music that makes you happy.
Always remember that there’s always a way out. You are not stuck.
Get out of your own head and take the focus away from you to someone or something else. Help someone else and shift your balance.
Sing, dance, and smile 🙂
Mentally make a list of things that you are grateful for and remember that no one is perfect.

Carol’s words on preparing for setback is just the right pep-talk one needs on rough days.

Psalms 94:19 – In the multitude of my thoughts within me thy comforts delight my soul.

Midnight motivation and musings

Midnight Motivation and Musings 110

September 25, 2016September 26, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha16 Comments

Life is a continuum and as much as we don’t like our comfort being disturbed the truth is that after a while your comfort zone becomes stale, discomforting and claustrophobic.

In order to keep growing, we have to consistently stretch the limbs of our imagination. The strength of our creativity, our physical and spiritual growth is highly dependent on how we dare ourselves to grow from the familiar to unfamiliar. Don’t settle! Don’t stagnate. Keep pushing for higher grounds. The harder you push, the easier it becomes.

This analogy can be likened to a crab that periodically molts and sheds its exoskeleton which would leave it vulnerable and fragile for some time while it continues to grow into its new shell and then molts again when it’s inelastic shell becomes too tight.

Be that crab.

P.S. We’ll be having our monthly blog party 1st – 2nd of October. I’ll keep you posted.

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Yippee! Yes I Can! – Personal

September 21, 2016September 21, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha75 Comments

Today, I am thankful for the fact that I passed my Karate-do grading test, graduating from novice white to yellow belt. Yes!

As an overweight mom in her early forties, I found every reason under the blue sky to discourage myself from taking Karate classes – I used my age, my weight, time and every excusable excuse – but the desire in me was stronger than my excuses.

I felt that I would be out of place and yes I’m still out of place – the only mama in the crowd of young children and men.

I told myself that my painful knees wouldn’t take it and would probably break.

Somedays, I felt too lazy to go for the night class and each day I had a class, I literally had to ask for the grace to survive it and I bought knee braces.

I knew within me that sticking to it was not going to be easy, but it would be far more empowering as against standing by the sidelines and watching others.

My children encouraged me and became my private coach at home even as I bungled all my moves 🙂

Yes, I burst into tears when I did my test and passed my katas to the cheer of everyone around – I can get emotional.

No, I didn’t tear my dojo pants as I feared I would and made sure I wore nice unmentionables just in case 😉

My heart felt full last night when I received my grading certificate.

I don’t care that I might be the elephant in the house entertaining others with my trundling moves, but you know what, I said I would do it, I had to ask for grace each day to do it and I did it 🙂

I’m sharing this post to encourage those who have things they want to do, but for some excuses are not able to.

Each day grace and gratitude take me higher; get your thankful suit on.

There are several gratitude/thankful platforms in the blogosphere that you can tune into and get your ithankful going on. I can’t express in words the enormity of Joy and fulfillment that comes from having a heart of gratitude. Please check out Maria’s blog, Colline’s blog and Bernadette’s for thankful/gratitude challenges.