Midnight motivation and musings

Midnight Motivation and Musings 83

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In today’s World where the spirit of entitlement seems to have pervaded the fabric of society, we tend to find people are becoming more and more self-centred in their needs.

Yet, the selfish tendencies haven’t made anyone happier.

As a matter of fact, with all the concerted and misunderstood love of self, ‘my way or no way,’ society is by far, more ill and miserable than ever.

The concept of self-love now translates into whatever makes someone happy, it doesn’t matter who gets run over.

Sometimes, you wonder what happened to courtesy, hard work, self-respect, neighbourliness and regards for others.


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Out of the silent breath

Never leave me lonely on these shores

Where no one knows me

Where I stare at strange forms

Trying to find you somewhere there in their midst.

Everyday People · Fascinating

In Pairs…Every day beautiful people 46

Sometimes, miracles come in pairs or even more.

“Double the giggles, double the grins. Double the trouble, when you’re blessed with twins,” Unknown

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Quite an interesting incident to go to the shops and run into several twins on the same day and in the same store.

I wondered if it was a “bring your twins shopping day,” but the cashier said that such a thing did not exist.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Never leave me lonely on these shores

Where no one knows me

Where I stare at strange forms

Trying to find you somewhere there in their midst.

Midnight motivation and musings

Midnight Motivations and Musings # 82

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How do you feel when you stay on course with those thing’s that you set out to do?

Naturally we feel a wholesome satisfaction, elation and motivated.

Good results inspire us to keep striving for repeats while negative results drag us down.

We are imperfect and sometimes we fall short in focusing on those things that are best for us, but the important thing is not to let our focus deplete to such an extent that we have to start anew each time.

Discipline builds and becomes part of one’s character.

©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Never leave me lonely on these shores

Where no one knows me

Where I stare at strange forms

Trying to find you somewhere there in their midst.

Featured Blogs

Featured Posts # 54….Let me share your post links.

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‘PLEASE KEEP SENDING IN THE LINKS.’ 

Today’s featured blogs posts are:

Feminist Friday A brilliant post of an inspiring lady. For a woman to rise in a society that’s majorly patriarchal in nature, she needs to hook up with other inspiring women. Feminism is not about not needing men, but about knowing your self-worth and embracing your strength.

Sixth sense fired up: This post really got me all fired up to go get acupunctured so that my inner senses can get all attuned and revving. Wow!

Friday 13 How was you Friday the 13th? Did you get up to any mischief or did any superstitions try to run after you? Meh! I don’t believe in all that!

While the storm rages around and within mental health month: We stress and worry over so much that goes on in our lives. When and how do we balance these important issues that go on in our daily lives?Not an easy feat. Pamela’s hectic recount paints a vivid picture.

Deborah and the dancing Samurai: This is sure to put a smile on your face 🙂

A quick drive-thru to say hello can gain you a friend.

‘Do you want more eyes on your words?’

Well then, add your LINK INTO THIS LOOP.

P.S. Comments are disabled here to keep the loop tidy. Any comments or link you want to send can be added through the link in the post.

Thank you for your understanding and regards.

‘We create a cohesive community when we come together.’

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

 

Never leave me lonely

With words left unsaid

You walk away into the dark

Like a mist, that melts away.

Everyday People

Digging Deep…Every day beautiful people #45

“Working hard is very important. You are not going to get anywhere without working extremely hard.” George Lucas

“You can’t get much done in life if you only work on the days that you feel good.” Jerry West

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God bless the hands that work. May they receive their worthy wages and may doors of opportunities open up to them.

Have a great and wonderfully satisfying week.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Enchant me with your expressive eyes, that crinkles in laughter as you speak

that I may find myself ever caught between

the reflections of your pupils and there shall I remain.

*an excerpt of my poem

Hope · Inspiration - Motivation

14 steps to find your Hope…

An African proverb says that “hunger that has expectations does not kill.” The expectation might be the knowledge that there’s Yam in the barn to be roasted to satiate the empty stomach.

Webster dictionary defines hope as a desire accompanied by the expectation of or belief in fulfilment.

Hope is an active and confident expectation which is not only dynamic in it’s evolving nature but also life-sustaining and it stresses on two things that are invisible as well as futuristic.

At times, people struggle to find meaning and purpose in their daily lives and to them, the word ‘Hope’ sounds like a vague concept that’s irrelevant in their lives.

The fact is that if you want to start to see your life in the possibilities that you wish, you need to take certain steps to achieve that. These steps can be broken down into segments.

  1. Envision your life: This might take some practice but it’s worthwhile to take the time to try and envision what you want your life to look like. What type of life do you imagine is the best for you? Write your vision and do a review from time to time.
  2. Do a comparative analysis: Compare your life at present with your ideal vision for where you want your life to head to or to be. Is your analysis far apart? Are you headed in the right direction? Have some aspects of your vision materialised? These are pointers to note and beside each point, take note of the basic steps that you are required to take, broken down in simple, realistic goals.
  3. Are your expectations unreasonable? It is a good thing to dream big, but your big dreams have to be dreams that are realisable over time when the necessary steps are gradually put into practise. Are you dreaming of being a millionaire when you don’t even bother to acquire the understanding and mindset required to pursue such dream? Start with goals that are more effective in your current circumstance and when that has been put in place, you will find that the next step becomes easier.
  4. Don’t take on too many things at a time. That can lead to a sense of hopelessness when it seems as if everything is slow.
  5. Push your boundaries beyond your comfort zone as often as is reasonable without getting it totally imbalanced that it becomes overwhelming.
  6. Set SMART goals that are relevant to achieving your vision. SMART stands for specific, measurable, action-oriented, realistic and time-bound.
  7. These steps will help to teach you how to acknowledge your strength and to build on them. Keep an eye on your positive accomplishments no matter how little they may seem. Appreciating yourself now and again, goes a long way to boost your confidence in yourself.
  8. You must cultivate supportive relationships that boost your morale, inspires and motivates you. As much as possible, eliminate toxic relationships and replace them with enabling connections.
  9. Engage in activities that will enhance your personality and life such as new skills or sports and also other causes that give you an opportunity to give back to others, like volunteering in your community. Don’t alienate yourself.
  10. Keep track of your progress by writing a progress report or journaling at the end of each week. This should also take your emotions into cognizance, how you feel about each day, what you are happy or not happy about…
  11. Don’t neglect yourself. As a matter of fact, this is the first duty that you owe yourself. Eat properly balanced meals, rest sufficiently 6-8 hours each night, hydrate, exercise and nourish your mind.
  12. As you progress, identify the stressors that bring on your anxiety and sense of hopelessness and develop anticipated steps to counter them, such as deep breathing, detoxing the mind, brisk walking, talking to others….sometimes, a bit of counselling from the right quarters can go a long way.
  13. Don’t discount your negative feelings. Face your negative thoughts and stop letting them get the better of you by questioning and understanding them.
  14. Keep your focus on the things that are within your circle of influence and take it a day at a time.

Hope has unquestionable results, but we must realise that it’s an attitude that we must work on each day.

Working on hope helps to change the way we see and value ourselves.

It positively affects what we do with our lives, our talents and time.

It brings us inner peace and a sense of well-being.

It builds our endurance level, our courage and confidence.

I have found from experience that reading books, materials of those who dared to hope and surmount challenges, encourages and motivates me.

My hope rests on God’s Grace. I hope that you will find this article to be useful.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Social Issues · The Daily Post

She Surprised Him…non-fiction

He scoffed in disdain
underestimating her abilities
but she surprised him
when she set her clipped wings
and flew…

One should never underestimate the strength of a determined woman, for it might take forever but she’ll walk far.

This prompt reminds me of a couple I knew back home.

The man married his wife as a teenager who was barely out of the schoolroom and he tended to treat her in utter disregard, calling her an empty brain who knew nothing quite openly.

It seems to me that he forgot that he was the one who married an empty brain. In essence, he also knew nothing; for two became one.

I gravitate towards people easily, so I got on with the lady even though she was older.

Severally she cried to me about her dreams and how her studies were truncated once her mother died. She got married off at 16 years since their father couldn’t take care of them.

From our interactions, I knew this lady has potentials to amount to more than a foot-mat if she was given the opportunity. and I took it upon myself to help her as much as I could. I encouraged her not to give up on her dreams.

She started taking lessons from her children’s private tutor and without her husband knowing, she enrolled for her General Certificate of Education along with one of her daughters.

I felt such utter pride and joy the day the result was released and my dear friend who was deemed an empty brain according to her husband had made all credits in the five subjects that she registered for.

Unfortunately, she’s solely dependent on her husband who is an ogre and he refused to take responsibility for funding her continued education.

The last time I inquired after her, I heard that she’s petty trading and still hoped that one day, she would get back to school.

For her, I do hope that one day, someday will come.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Underestimate, The Daily Post Prompt


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

 

Guest Posts

Let’s get to know the enigmatic Kathy Myrman in her World.

I started interacting with Kat not long after I started blogging a year ago and I’ve found her presence a charming and calming one.

Her posts are witty, creative and inspiring. She also contributes regularly to Echoes of my neighbourhood blogging challenge.

Kathy shares in her words below, her World, her work and her love for writing, her furry friends and family.

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By day I can be found in a corporate cubicle, corresponding with and for executives, creating reports, and planning fabulous events and travel to exotic places for other people!

I live in a century-old historic home in Southwest Virginia, in the shadow of the Blue Ridge Mountains, though my roots can be traced back to Chicago where I was born. Moving from the Midwest to the South was a bit of a culture shock.

Some people in the Southern United States, particularly rural Virginia still believe that the Civil has not been settled and long for a “do-over”.

Before I had children I did a short stint in the Marine Corps, not because I was uber patriotic. I saw it as a way to move out and get paid while training for a career. As you may have guessed, my strengths were assessed in the Administrative field.

Today, my four grown daughters, have presented me with 6 and counting grandchildren (one is due this July making it 7!) and 4 grand pups.

When we all gather for Thanksgiving or Christmas we are 16 in number. I do love having a big family and we are all very close – an added blessing!

These days I am “mom” to a house full of critters, three dogs, three cats, a tortoise and a sun conure. They keep me busy! I also like to post photos of my beautiful garden and the trees in my neighborhood, but gardening is not my thing.

I am very allergic to green stuff, especially in the Spring, Summer and Fall. So I leave getting in the dirt to my partner Traci and take in the view from my library. Which brings me to things I do love…books! Oodles and oodles of books. We dedicated an entire room to books!

I also like to paint, mostly in acrylic and I play the guitar and love to sing. When my kids were younger, we would travel from nursing homes to revivals, and even private family reunions.

I even cut a few albums of original songs back then. I peddled them out of my trunk and gave most of them away. I discovered poetry a few years later and found that I loved it.

Oh and a few more things I love…trees (yes, I’m a tree hugger!), the ocean (any type of moving water really) and faeries.

You can probably tell I am a pretty positive person. I tend to be optimistic and trusting and not a big planner. Change is exciting to me.

One of my favorite sayings is, “I don’t worry about getting lost, I just change where I want to go.”

I have been writing for most of my life. My first poem when I was around 7 was called The Purple Cow: I never saw a purple cow, I never hope to see one, but I can tell you anyhow, I’d rather see than be one!

Fast forward to the 21st century. I had done a bit of creative writing on social media, but I really didn’t feel comfortable pouring my heart out in that platform. I had signed up with WordPress a year before I actually wrote my first post.

I was so nervous about sharing my writing with anyone, inviting only a few close friends who I knew would be encouraging (it’s good to keep a few of those friends around in a pinch).

In a wild moment of abandon, I threw caution to the wind and left the site “open” to the world when I set my preferences up. To be honest, I didn’t really expect much traffic or notice. I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to write or what I wanted this blog to be so it became an online journal more or less.

A place to simmer thoughts, reflections, and perceptions while also sharing a bit of photo art…my new found artistic passion. In the past year, I have discovered Flash Fiction, which I love, and of course my first love, Poetry.

I took the WordPress Blogging 101 class and by joining several challenges I have sought to improve my writing skills. I think the post that sums it all up for me is the one I wrote about my love of writing.

It’s called “A Beautiful Obsession

Well now, I do hope I don’t bore you to tears! My typical day starts at dawn, or 6 am or so. My first order of business is breakfast for all the animals. And of course outside potty breaks for the dogs.

Then it is a shower, fluff and scoot down the road to my day job. Thank goodness for my floor to ceiling windows. As an executive assistant, I spend the next 9-10 hours at my desk working on schedules, travel, memos, spreadsheets, and communication.

In the winter, I leave after the sun has already slipped below the horizon, but in the Spring, Summer and Fall, I enjoy a ride home in the evenings with the top down on my little red Fiat car.

Then it is supper-time for all the animals, an occasional load of laundry or run to the store and finally, when everyone is taken care of, I settle in to watch an occasional reality show or read and write a bit, or both, until it’s time for bed.

I’m a light sleeper, so it’s not unusual for me to be roused at 3 am. I find that I do some of my best writing at this time. Years ago, I loved writing with fountain pens on thick paper. These days I do a lot of writing on my phone’s notepad.

On the weekends, I do chores, shopping, watch movies, get together with family, and if I’m lucky, on Sunday I catch a nice nap. Like I said…I live a rather boring life. Being artistic is what keeps me going. It helps to see the world through a quirky lens.

My art and writing are the color and life of my existence.

When I started the blog, as I mentioned, I really didn’t have any grand plans. Not much has changed. I am so happy to be here. To write, to interact with readers and to read other blogs.

I have been published in a few online and in print anthologies.* That is always a thrill! Because I am writing more, I do think about publishing a book of poetry or short stories every now and then.

I’m thinking if there is a next step, getting my collection of thoughts between the binding of a book might be a nice thing to leave behind for my children and grandchildren. I will also likely sign up for a few more of the WordPress classes. They are well worth one’s time.

Anthologies in Print:

The Circle Continues: Women Respond to Circle of Stones, Published: August 1, 2001, by Judith Duerk – Poem, “Icons” by Kathleen Hurt (nee Myrman)
Dreams for Our Daughters: A Collection of Dreams, Wishes and Perspectives for Our Collective Daughters, Published: 2000 by Bonnie Allmon Coffey – Poem: “A Mother’s Last Wish for her Daughters” by Kathy Hurt (nee Myrman)

Collections Online:

 The memory of you by Kat Myrman
On Women’s Spiritual Poetry: Women’s Spiritual Poetry Blogspot
When you ask me to pray…this…By Kat Myrman
On Women’s Spiritual Poetry:
A Beautiful Obsession by Kat Myrman
On Women’s Spiritual Poetry: I spend a great deal of time spinning

A thank you rose for you, Kat 🙂

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P.S. If you are interested in a guest post or interview, you can contact me.


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Personal · Photographs · The Daily Post

I Live In This Face…personal

This is the face that I live in
She stares me in the eye
each minute of my life

I have learnt to know the woman
beneath this oval-shaped
golden-toned and warm face

Her laughter lines and crinkles around the eyes
say life is too short, don’t take yourself too seriously
make the best of it while you can.

The hidden depths of her eye’s
speak of mystery and message that lurks within
they have known the joy and the sting in life’s sharp tails.

This is the face that I live in.
I wouldn’t know how to live in another face.
for this is mine. Mine alone and IT IS beautiful!

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Face, The Daily Post Photo Prompt


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

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Midnight Motivations and Musings 80

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It’s a known fact that happiness can’t be bought in any shop even if we have all the money in the World.

For sure we can buy all the good time there is to be had with our plenty money, all the material possession, but since the pursuit of happiness is neither bottled nor sold, a rich man can still be a most miserable human.

Happiness emanates from within and within is controlled by the state of our minds.

The right frame of mind is the one that we should definitely place our emphasis on because that is the secret to a peaceful life and to your inner glow.


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.Out of the silent breath

A deep sense of satisfaction

Of peace, I sense within.

As the Sun peeks to say hello

I am happy to embrace me.

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*an excerpt of one of my poems*