“I want to stay curled and cosied and chocolated….forever in my mother’s arms.” Sanober Khan
#Hugs are free, but they are one of the best and simple things life offers from our loved ones.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Thoughts and Tales…A Lifestyle Blog with a Zing.
“I want to stay curled and cosied and chocolated….forever in my mother’s arms.” Sanober Khan
#Hugs are free, but they are one of the best and simple things life offers from our loved ones.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Ever since I made up my mind to let go of dwelling on non-essentials that didn’t further my existence and probably only contributed to making a miserable day, I found more peace.
Ever since I chose to make conscious, deliberate efforts to apply positive affirmations and frame of mind to my days, it only got better.
Yes, it is possible to live a purpose-driven life.
Yes, happiness is a deliberate choice.
Yes, each day can be as best as we can make it all things being equal.
Of course there are things that are out of our control, like nature and other people’s actions, but we run our own workshop of our minds and home.
Indeed, there are days that are a bit off, but, I’ve observed that once you get into the habit of positive thoughts and living, such moods and days barely last because your mind fights to switch to the frame that works best for it.
Your days are as good as you make them. Be happy not by trying to convince others, but by being yourself and the best that you can be.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Harmony can hardly be arrived at when we have constant internal turmoils stemming from grudges borne over something.
A whole lot of times grudges stem from expectations placed on someone and when it’s not met, we become resentful and store that in a corner of our minds and hearts. Even when we say that we’ve forgiven the person, we keep a long list of records of all the shortfalls.
If we minimized our expectations from others to almost nothing, that way we leave room for pleasant surprises and also save ourselves that feeling of being let down.
An instance is our personal relationships. A lot of relationships fail because we go into it with a long list of dos, don’ts and infernal expectations.
They are not GOD, but fallible humans!
This virtually applies to everything that we do. For instance you might have a nasty boss. Zero your mind down to the fact that he/she has issues that they are dealing with and they possibly don’t know how to be different.
Once your mind has accepted their contrary prickly nature, you go about your business as effectively as you can without letting the acid of annoyance and grudge build up inside you. Getting into differences with such people will only hurt you more, because the likelihood is that they may not understand, don’t care or are insensitive to your feelings.
Remember that you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself. Who knows, your balanced sense of self and disposition might actually serve as a source of inspiration for such people.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Friends are family and gifts that we choose for ourselves.
They make us laugh a little harder, cry a little less and smile a lot more.
They are the rainbows and sunshine of our lives.
Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Any life’s happiness that’s tied to the acquisition of material wealth as it’s major source, is in for a long haul of misery and disappointment.
The truth is that, in as much as the material goods and money around us can give that initial buzz of euphoric happiness, they fail to satisfy in the long run and the buzz wanes very fast, that the person in this cycle is in for the rough haul of the constant pursuit of the next buzz.
This is actually what leads to addiction. The perpetual search for the next high and kick.
Addiction comes in different forms, some more destructive than others, but the underlying factor that poses the problem is the addicted persons inability to find harmony within themselves, so they search for it through external factors.
If your happiness is dependent on others, then you are in for a roller-coaster of emotional instability.
It means that you are submitting your happiness to the ups and downs of someone else’s state of mind which can be rife with turbulence.
The true happiness that you seek to experience can only ever be found inside you and other people or things are just complements.
Dig deeper until you get to that root that transcends the state of happiness to the state of joy.
Joy is deeper. Where happiness is like a stream that might dry up when the sun gets very hot, joy runs like the deep ocean that flows from an unfailing source and that is The Lord.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Their fabulous anniversary party was over and Rita sipped chamomile tea with a relaxed sigh.
Twenty-Five years, yet it seemed just like yesterday.
She watched Greg change into his pajamas to join her in bed as she dwelt on their time together and how it all started.
Bright things attracted her so she always gravitated towards the red bench, where she ate her sandwich and watched people go by.
Until he decided he liked the chair as well and appropriated it for himself.
She had felt ticked-off, but decided not to allow his presence to deprive her of her little pastime.
She would hurry to get the seat before him, but he would sit silently beside her and read his newspaper.
Till she started missing him on the days he failed to appear.
Looking at his graying temple as he flipped through the papers, she knew such contentment and decided to replace the park chair.
The last time she walked by, it looked worn with years.
Who knows, a new bench might perform some magic.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
In response to the FFAW photo prompt above. Thank you Ady for the photo and Priceless Joy for this enchanting platform
A saying in my place goes, ‘that success refuses to go to the house of those who fail to appreciate the success of others around them, because success feels that when she arrives, you will equally fail to appreciate her presence.’
Positive energy attracts positive things, we should therefore always try to appreciate the humble beginnings while we plan and wait for the bigger ones.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
When we sow little seeds of good, we have no idea the depth of roots that we plant.
We can actually retrain the battle fields of our minds to think the way that we want it to.
It’s never too late to try to get it right. Except the person reading this post is no longer on this side of the great divide.
Happiness is truly at home with you. It lives and breaths within you and not in someone else’s abode.
Sometimes, in the bid to hide so many secrets, we bury ourselves alive and forget to live.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Noirfifre’s beautiful message is an advise that would suit a lot of people.
Stella’s simple, beautiful thoughts can take us very far.
Oba’s inspiring post on paying it forward speaks for itself.
I would encourage you to take a quick peek at these thoughts. Maybe, they mirror yours.
So, when can we get a sneak peek at yours?
My regards,
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
The past few days have been filled with lovely fun to-do’s.
It’s UAE’s (United Arab Emirates ) 44th National Day which is celebrated on the 2nd December of each year and several days following.
This is to mark their formal nationalization from a British Protectorate to the unification of their Seven Emirates which consists of Abu Dhabi, Ajman, Dubai, Fujairah, Ras al-Khaimah, Sharjah and Umm al-Quwain.
Very grand celebrations are held across the country to mark the event. They don’t do things in half measures!
There are several activities going on all over the Emirates to mark this auspicious event. Fireworks, Car Rallies and Dance Shows etc.
People are dressed up in apparels sporting the UAE national flag colours, homes, work places, cars and streets are all flying the flag to celebrate this big day with joy and happiness.![1449243683713[1]](https://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/14492436837131.jpg?w=300&h=300)
Heritage Villages are set up all over the emirates in order to celebrate this event traditionally. Holidays are given from the National Day until two days later. Air Shows are conducted on Abu Dhabi and Ajman Corniche while Military Processions are held at Abu Dhabi National Exhibition for the Rulers of the Emirates, Members of the Federal National Exhibition and the Emir Citizens.
For a Nation which started out as an utter dessert, they have not done badly, as a matter of fact, they have done a fantastic job of things and yet their push and progress is relentless.
Having meandered from Abu Dhabi; the sedate big brother in the house, to living in Dubai; the bold, glitzy and glamorous brother, to Sharjah, Ajman and Ras al-Khaimah; the rest of the crew, it’s a World of so many differences and textures.
It has been a beautiful day filled with camaraderie. People from all walks of life and 100 Nationalities are milling about in the city of glitz and glam.
I have seen more smiles in the past 2 days than in the 4 months that I have been here.
I even met a gorgeous looking lady from Mongolia and a couple from Tajikistan..Didn’t expect that and it took my brain a while to zero into Tajikistan on the globe.
Here are a few snippets of what I caught.
I hope they work. They were a bit finicky earlier.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
There are things that I do often and quite enjoy doing. A lot of these things are physical and some are not.![1448552289124[1]](https://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/14485522891241.jpg?w=447&h=447)
I cook every day to keep myself and my family well nourished. One of the dishes that features in most West African homes is Jollof Rice. Maybe, some day, I will share the secrets of Jollof with you 🙂
I dance a lot too. Not the gymnastic, acrobatic tumbling all over the place, but I dance virtually everyday to the tunes of my music of the moment. However, I guess except I turn to you-tubing, I may not be able to teach you much about my dancing.
I write ever so often. I don’t bother tallying the amount of time that I spend penning something because writing to me is akin to breathing, laughing, reflecting and crying through my fingers.
I have been known to write on serviettes or tiny bits of receipts to catch that fleeting thought – and you need to see me on the days that I am scrambling through my bag trying to find that little piece of tissue on which I wrote something 😉
I actively search out ways to maintain a balance of my inner peace of mind in a chaotic life.
I am not a religious fanatic, but I am unapologetically a Christian.
At most times, I am a peaceful, humorous, friendly, loving and hopefully a kind human.
Let me share with you the little things that I do to create peace within and around. Maybe, we share somethings in common:
These things translate to my inner peace which leads to external peace. What one does not have they cannot give.
So what will you teach me today? I am listening 🙂
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
The Daily Post prompt Teach your bloggers well.
We all know how to do something well — write a post that teaches readers how to do something you know and/or love to do.