Guide To Better Living · Health · Humor - Bellyful of laughter

Finding my new balance.

I stumbled across an old photo taken on a holiday trip to Strasbourg in 2000 and did a double take. Me. Younger of course. More energetic and much slimmer without putting in any effort. Twenty plus odd years ago, I never thought I would have to fight middle-age spread with gusto, come to think of it, in my teens and twenties, I truly never gave much thought to what older adulting entailed. I just lived life as it was, somewhat through rose-colored spectacles and very high expectations from life. Oh well!

Fast forward to present. I have hit the older lady age and it’s been a struggle to maintain a healthier body weight and lifestyle. Doing so is absolutely important, as it helps to keep many ailments at bay. The quest to lose the excess pounds has been an uphill task for me especially as it appears that just passing the confectionary aisle whilst shopping causes my scale to wince from extra pounds gained just by looking at cakes and cookies, coupled with the fact that some body parts are no longer as efficient as before.

To my surprise, keeping my balance has surreptitiously become a concern. It seems like I have unlocked a new fear; the fear of falling down and breaking something. This phenomenon started after my bout with plantar fasciitis 2 years ago, which thankfully, I’ve defeated through various lifestyle changes and losing over 10kg. However, one of the outcomes of this experience is that nowadays, I always think carefully about footwears that I purchase and how to pair them with my outfit before stepping out of the house.

Although I fancy thinking of myself as a fashionable lady, when it comes to my shoes, I truly have to consider not only what is suitable for the occasion but also its comfortability. At this point in time, as much as I admire those strutting around in heels and would love to do same every given moment, there’s no sense in me perching on stilettos and then hobbling back home with broken toes.

One thing I can say for sure, as a fashion enthusiast, I am never ever going to let myself fall to bits. No matter how old and wrinkly I grow, so long as I have my faculties ticking along, I will always do my best to look well put together. The teens and twenties were surely wonderful, but there’s a whole lot of magical years ahead and I will move with the times, creating my own rhythm and new balance.

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…And Manchester City gets the cake!

Champions league is always an exciting time for hard-core football fans. I can’t lay claims to being one. I am wishy-washy football person at the best.

My hubby and boys are more Arsenal inclined and my role is to cheer or moan along in solidarity with them.
However, I’ve got an ardent MAN CITY colleague whose enthusiasm is quite palpable and she ordered in a huge cake to celebrate their winning.

Who am I to say no to a sinfully sweet slice of chocolate cake in celebration of the Champion?

I am sure my hubby and boys will understand and not think me a traitor 😅

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For the joy of laughter…

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Laughter. Music for the soul that’s absolutely contagious. When you see someone laughing at a joke that you can’t hear, chances are that you will smile anyway – even if you don’t realize it.

You do know that laughter improves your overall health? It is a strong medicine that triggers healthy physical and emotional changes in the body. It is a stress buster that diminishes pain, boosts mood and improves our emotional health, strengthens the immune system and grants us a better outlook to life – it even adds more years to our lives.

When we were younger, we laughed over little things countless times a day but adulting makes us become unduly serious about life, with laughter growing less frequent in our lives. Just like the way that we seek out food to fill our belly’s we must seek the nourishment of humour and laughter. Have you ever wondered why comedians never go out of fashion? People pay them to make them laugh.

Sweet peals of laughter trigger the release of endorphins – the body’s natural feel-good chemicals and these endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being. We cannot undermine how much laughing is good medicine for the mind and body. A powerful antidote to conflict and stress. These peals lighten your burden, uplifts your spirit, relaxes your whole body, helps you connect to others, inspires hope and lightens your mind of anger and unforgiveness.

A recent fad I learnt off boasts that laughter burns calories, though I wouldn’t ask you to quit your gym subscription, your daily dose of walking or to join a laughter fest, but finding ones’ funny bone is worth its weight in any priceless gem that you can think of. This priceless serum is absolutely free. It comes without any manual and fun to use.

How to bring more laughter into your life
Laughter is your birthright. Babies start smiling during the first weeks of life and laugh out loud within months of being born and even if you did not grow up in a household where laughter was a common sound, you can learn to laugh at any stage of life.

Set aside special times to seek out humor and laughter, as you would with any hobby that you are interested in cultivating. Eventually, you’ll want to incorporate humor and laughter into the fabric of your life, finding it naturally in everything.

Spend time with fun, playful people. Those who laugh easily at themselves and at life’s absurdities–and who routinely find the humor in everyday events. Their playful point of view and laughter are contagious. Even if you don’t consider yourself a lighthearted, humorous person, you can still seek out people who like to laugh and make others laugh. 

An essential ingredient for developing your sense of humor is to learn not to take yourself too seriously and laugh at your own mistakes and foibles. As much as we’d like to believe otherwise, we all do foolish things from time to time. Instead of feeling embarrassed or defensive, embrace your imperfections.  

Life brings challenges that can either get the best of you or become playthings for your imagination. When you “become the problem” and take yourself too seriously, it can be hard to think outside the box and find new solutions. But when you play with the problem, you can often transform it into an opportunity for creative learning. It is important to use humor to overcome challenges and enhance your life. Laugh out Loud!

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Self love. You are priority to you. If there’s no you, there’s nobody else. Never forget that! #fyp #selflove

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Humor - Bellyful of laughter · Inspiration - Motivation

How Many Have You Broken So Far?

So, have you joined us in the broken resolution club yet? If you haven’t, good for you and if you have, welcome to this club where some of us are experts in this field of resolution breaking.Image result for funny image quotes about new year resolutions

But here, we don’t believe in throwing a self-chastising pity party. Nah!

Most people embrace the start of a new year armed with a list of resolutions that stretch from Jerusalem to Jericho and enough enthusiasm to float a battleship, but by the time January hits the third week, a good length of these decisions become neglected, the gym becomes noticeably less crowded, the usual excuses set in that by mid-year, most of the aspirations are literally left in the dust.

The truth is that it’s definitely tough to keep up with these resolutions, however, the reality is that most times we equally set ourselves up for failure right from the get-go because half of the time, we underestimate the effort that staying on course requires, we overlook the fluctuations in our motivation and self-control while we overestimate our abilities .

Since the Auld Lang Syne wine has long left our bloodstream and the euphoria of a new year, new me has worn out, now is the time to cut yourself some slack with the chastising and to press that reset button to give yourself a new opportunity. Give yourself permission to redo things and maybe more sensibly this time. Naturally, when you set more realistic goals with modest expectations, you are far likelier to achieve success.

Don’t forget that self-reflection and development happens all year round and it’s not restricted to any date on the calendar. So, you’ve got this. Pace yourself and set bite-sized achievable goals that will give you that sense of accomplishment and even act as a catalyst to push higher.

Continue your year with a simple gift for yourself – be nicer to you and perhaps your top goal for this year should be to live each day with love and wisdom.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, permit yourself to pause, take deep calming breaths and focus on working out the thing that really matters most at that point in time. Jacqueline

À ta santé

Humor - Bellyful of laughter · Poetry/Poems

busting at the seams…

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I don’t do drugs,
she told herself in consolation,

yet she stuffed her face
and got sedated
on pies and cream cakes,

her righteous self
busting at the seams

This is me of late. Guilty! I am an emotional eater and when I’m unduly stressed like I’ve been for many weeks now, I go into eating overdrive.

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The Wedding Night…

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The pain was sharp and astonishing.
Dreamy wedding night illusions
induced by copious pages of Mills and Boons
shattered with vigorous thrusts.

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Jacqueline

Who binged on Mills and Boons? Well, I did. I read tons of them and more and had many rose-coloured dreamy visions of married life…the rude truth is that the pages of a book tell huge lies 😉

Humor - Bellyful of laughter

Today’s Lesson…

Oops! Error

 

If I could blush, I would be red in the face. I hurried to the restroom and I saw him in there. My first thought was, ‘what’s he doing in the ladies,’ but I was too pressed to stress on the thought, so I went about my business.

Business noisily done with, I came out to wash my hands and saw two of them this time, one washing his hands and the other zipping up.

They were shocked to see me, without missing too many heartbeats, I quickly snuck out with ‘error, error, error,’ ringing in my head.

Never be quick to make the assumption that you are right and always look at the sign on the door before walking in 😉

Humor - Bellyful of laughter · Writing

Peter Beard – Writer’s World

For those who may be unable to make out the inscription on the photo:

Greetings from Koobi Fiora/Lake Rudolf April 1965

I’ll write whenever I can. Sincerely Peter Beard 4141 Nairobi

Writer, Photographer, Artist

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Writers Blood…

I Am A Writer, Writing Humour, Writing Quotes, Writers Life, Make-Believe

Words are not cheap

‘cos writer’s spill their blood with ink

and commit lots of murder.

For pity’s sake

help us raise funds for bail.

©

Jacqueline

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Yippee! Yes I Can! – Personal

Today, I am thankful for the fact that I passed my Karate-do grading test, graduating from novice white to yellow belt. Yes!

As an overweight mom in her early forties, I found every reason under the blue sky to discourage myself from taking Karate classes – I used my age, my weight, time and every excusable excuse – but the desire in me was stronger than my excuses.picsart_09-21-05-08-501

I felt that I would be out of place and yes I’m still out of place – the only mama in the crowd of young children and men.

I told myself that my painful knees wouldn’t take it and would probably break.

Somedays, I felt too lazy to go for the night class and each day I had a class, I literally had to ask for the grace to survive it and I bought knee braces.

I knew within me that sticking to it was not going to be easy, but it would be far more empowering as against standing by the sidelines and watching others.

My children encouraged me and became my private coach at home even as I bungled all my moves 🙂

Yes, I burst into tears when I did my test and passed my katas to the cheer of everyone around – I can get emotional.

No, I didn’t tear my dojo pants as I feared I would and made sure I wore nice unmentionables just in case 😉

My heart felt full last night when I received my grading certificate.

I don’t care that I might be the elephant in the house entertaining others with my trundling moves, but you know what, I said I would do it, I had to ask for grace each day to do it and I did it 🙂

I’m sharing this post to encourage those who have things they want to do, but for some excuses are not able to.

Each day grace and gratitude take me higher; get your thankful suit on.

There are several gratitude/thankful platforms in the blogosphere that you can tune into and get your ithankful going on. I can’t express in words the enormity of Joy and fulfillment that comes from having a heart of gratitude. Please check out Maria’s blog, Colline’s blog and Bernadette’s for thankful/gratitude challenges.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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