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Tuesday Thoughts…

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I am on a short break and having a lazy morning. Last night, I had planned on having an early night so that I would wake up with the early bird and go for a walk – getting an early start on my day, but because I was up late nattering away with a friend who had called at night, I went to bed later than planned and my morning didn’t start off as I had wanted. 

I could have easily ended the convo, but she was in such a chatty and cheerful mood that I chose to extend the chit-chat. When I woke up this morning, the sun’s rays were already licking my windowpanes that the early morning walk was dead on arrival. 

I reshuffled my itinerary – pushing my walk to the later hours of sundown and sat down to attend to other things and to take a measure of my thoughts. I realized I wasn’t feeling so chipper maybe due to sleeping late and whatever but quickly decided that I didn’t want my mood to go south and get funkier. 

Instead of mulling over the fact that my itinerary was impacted and a bit askew, I quickly responded to a couple of emails/proposals that if all goes as well as it should, the expected response will definitely put a smile on my face. 

As I measured my thoughts, I reinforced these perspectives:

My focus throughout this year is to hold the reins of my thoughts in control as much as is humanly possible, to dwell more on the positives and to quit magnifying the negatives.

My focus is to remind myself of and to appreciate the bridges that I’ve crossed and not the paths where I fell.

My focus is to remind myself that sometimes, a late-night chit-chat adds more flavour to life than an early morning rise and that an evening walk might even pan out better today. 

My focus is to be grateful for friends who find time to spend with you, for moments of gratifying laughter and meaningful chit-chats ‘cos as life’s stress mounts, such moments get further far and few in-between. 

My focus throughout this year is to keep my energy flow in a high-vibrational frequency so as that my thinking, and feelings are aligned with positivity, love, compassion, and overall well-being. As such, I attract positive experiences and people into my life, and this includes my online experiences. 

I eschew all forms of negativity that reduces my frequency and will avoid people who harbour such as they only emit negative emotions and energy, which can lower one’s vibrational frequency. They may have a pessimistic outlook on life, engage in negative habits, and spread negativity to others. Their low vibration affects your spiritual energy which is associated with negative emotions such as persistent feeling of sadness or anger, sluggish thinking, constant fatigue, apathy etc. 

On a closing note, whilst partaking in online interactions, avoid those pages that only offer toxic, negative, distressing, gender-biased, dehumanizing posts. Those people are miserable and looking for company. They have nothing better to offer. Be wise ‘cos bad company corrupts good manners. 

 

Inspiration - Motivation · mental health · Self Help

Stop the needless waiting now!

Time is ticking past.

How can you go through life postponing being happy and waiting for all the right situations to happen before you can feel happy? Here’s the sad news. The government will always consist of unconscientious and shitty people. Life will never truly balance. Things may never align perfectly at every point in time which therefore means that your wait is wasted effort.

However, the good news is that every new day we open our eyes presents fresh choices and chances and reasons to be happy. Life can be likened to a busy airport terminal, where happiness arrives and departs around the clock. The likelihood is that the opportunity to be happy has already arrived and probably departed whilst you were so busy fussing over your excess luggage. Most times, joyful, happy moments are right in front of you, but your mindset is unable to shift for you to notice and appreciate it because you are stuck on all the negative things going on around you.

Irrespective of all that may be going on around you, you can truly feel happier, be more productive, attract success, manifest your dreams and enjoy yourself whilst at it. Yes, it is not easy. It requires a lot of intentionality, and purposefulness, but when you shift your focus and the way you think, your perspective changes. When shift happens, your life changes. So, let’s keep getting our shift together.

Inspiration - Motivation · Monday Motivations

Never let yourself go!

It is so easy to fall into a rut especially when life becomes monotonous that you can literally function on autopilot without paying much mind to what you are doing.

Consequently, weeks of functioning like that can lead to dissatisfaction which creeps in and we start feeling that life is a tedium and getting stuck in a rut can be frustrating and demotivating.

Life will seem like a tiresome cycle of chore, responsibilities, bills and expectations. Getting out of this sense of drudgery is seriously essential for our total well-being especially as adults who have a lot of burden to bear.

Every single day, I make conscientious effort to engage in wholesome activities that enhance my sense of purpose, peace and harmony.

I listen to music, I dance, I read, I go for walks, I exercise, I watch movies and comedies, I pray, I think good thoughts. I write, I create. I live in a dream world. I try to do things a bit differently.

Often, I wear vibrant clothes and colors as much as possible. I affirm myself every single day and so on and so forth. Practicing some form of self-care peps up one’s spirit and pulls you out of the doldrums.

What works for me, might not be your cup of tea, nevertheless, here are some strategies to help you avoid getting stuck:

Shake Up Your Routine regularly
Try something new: Engage in a new hobby, activity, or class to challenge yourself and discover new interests.
Change your environment: Rearrange your workspace, take a different route, or travel to a new place to stimulate your mind.
Mix up your social circle: Meet new people, attend events, or join a club to expand your social network.

Set Goals and Challenges
Set SMART goals: Create Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals to focus on.
Break tasks into smaller steps: Divide large tasks into manageable chunks to maintain momentum.
Create a challenge for yourself: Set a personal challenge, like running a marathon or learning a new language.

Practice Self-Care
Get enough sleep: Aim for 7-9 hours of sleep to help your brain function at its best.
Exercise regularly: Engage in physical activity to boost your mood and energy levels.
Meditate and practice mindfulness: Take time to relax, focus on the present, and reduce stress.

Seek Inspiration and Support
Read inspiring stories: Explore books, articles, or podcasts that share stories of overcoming obstacles.
Find a mentor or accountability partner: Connect with someone who can offer guidance, support, and motivation.
Join a community or group: Participate in online forums, social media groups, or local meetups to connect with like-minded individuals.

Embrace Failure and Learning
View failure as a learning opportunity: Recognize that mistakes are an essential part of growth and development.
Reflect on your experiences: Take time to analyze what went wrong and how you can improve in the future.
Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

You must remember that life is what we make of it and each day, we owe it to ourselves to make our living worthwhile.

Till next time.

Life · Lifestyle · Philosophy of Life

A pinch of gratitude, a basket of grace.

A little gratitude can do lots of wonders for your overall wellbeing.

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Though it’s not always easy, being grateful for the positives in life can have a profound impact on your life. Consistently showing gratitude can be surprisingly difficult as many of us get caught up in the negativity bias, where we linger on bad news, unpleasant experiences, and allowing moments of positivity and good things to fade into the background.

Fortunately, gratitude is like a muscle that you can build. With the right approach and practice, you can find at least something small to appreciate even on the bleakest of days.

Gratitude is a way for us to appreciate what we have, instead of always reaching for something new in the hope to be happier, or thinking that we can’t feel satisfied until every physical and material need is met.

Gratitude helps us refocus on what we have instead of what we lack. And, although it may feel pretentious initially, this mental state grows stronger with practice till it becomes a way of life.

Approaching life with a more positive mindset has cascading benefits in every area of your life.

Indeed, a grateful heart finds in every hour, some heavenly blessings to relish.

Blogging · Philosophy of Life

Pissing In The Same Spot…

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In no way am I an ‘Expert On Life Matters’ and I am doubtful if anyone with such a befitting title exists. We all have our life’s lessons that we’ve learnt on our paths, but the essence of interacting with each other as we go along, is to learn from our experiences.

Enlightenment comes from learning. Learning comes from communicating and communicating is the most essential back bone of all relationships.

Like I always believe, each person has something to bring to the table and in my place, we have a funny proverb that says that ‘when we gather together to piss in the same spot, it foams.’

There are a thousand and one things that I have personally learnt from others just by reading their thoughts and perspectives and each day, it simply gets better. There are lots of free resources and wise counsel that others have put together which you can avail yourself to, but also be willing to add something to the pissing pot.

Don’t just be a sponge that soaks in without adding value. Your value could be from sharing, encouraging remarks, appreciation etc. We all can do it together, because life is definitely not a journey that you can walk all by yourself. As my people will also say, if you want to go fast you go alone, but if you want to go far, you go with others. 

©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha – From my archives. 

Philosophy of Life · Photographs

It’s the simple, sweet things in life…

It’s the simple things that we often take for granted that makes our lives beautiful, and one of the beautiful things about simple things is that they’re available to all of us, no matter our circumstances and who we are. Whether we are rich or poor, young or old… It’s the simple things.

Have a lovely day today. 🙂

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It’s the simple things that we often take for granted that makes our lives beautiful, and one of the beautiful things about simple things is that they’re available to all of us, no matter our circumstances and who we are. Whether we are rich or poor, young or old… It’s the simple things. #simple #lifeisbeautiful #simplethings #beautifulmoments #fy

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My Thinking Corner

You Are A Servant – My Thinking Corner

Beautiful, Bloom, Quote, Life

Nothing we have is truly ours. Not even our lives.

We are mere stewards of these gifts that we receive and so long as we have them, we owe an obligation to use them well.

Sometimes, when I hear people say, ‘it’s my life, therefore, I can live it the way I want,’ I am tempted to remind them that ‘even their life is not truly theirs and that maltreating their lives in the name of living how they want can be likened to a drunken captain who chooses to run his vessel aground because he’s the Captain of the ship, forgetting that someone put him in charge of that vessel.’

If truth be told, none of us can add more time to that which has been assigned to us, it is, therefore, imperative that we use the gift of our life in edifying ways that would bring glory to the giver.

Jacqueline

Midnight motivation and musings · The Daily Post

In Good Measure… Midnight Musings

Quote, LifeLessons, Wisdom, Your Portion, Poetry

Never forget that the measure you give,
is the measure you will receive.

You can’t sow corn and harvest pumpkins.
You can’t sow hatred and reap a bounty of love.
When you uplift others, you rise up with them.

However, when you spend time holding someone down,
you stay down with them because you need all your energy
to keep them pressed to the floor or the wall.

If only you can remember this,
apply it in your relationship with everyone that you meet.

You, my dear friend, will have a good measure,
pressed down, shaken and running over
added continuously to your life.

©

Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Measure

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My Thinking Corner – Don’t Settle!

Life, Mind, Quotes, Dream, Vision

  • Keep seeking for higher ground and don’t settle for less. You can do more than you can ever begin to imagine if you really want.

    Don’t park your dream on the side and settle for less than you know life can give you. Keep reaching higher.

  • You’ve got to reprogram that mind to accommodate the big dreams that you’ve got.

    When a mind is set in its pattern of thinking it becomes myopic and doesn’t allow room for expansion. When people say this is the way I am, in essence, they admit that they are not willing to change or grow if need be, especially when it comes to negative habits and thought patterns that need to be changed.

  • You are never too old to learn. You continue self-mastery as long as the clock of your heart is ticking.

Setbacks will surely come as we journey along the path of life, are you prepared?

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Purposeful – My Thinking Corner

Each day out of 365 days you are given an opportunity of a lifetime to live purposefully – Jacqueline

Inspiration, Purposeful, Life, quotes, Motivation, Lifestyle

  • We all are called for a purpose, we all are chosen, the important thing is; did you listen to hear your call; have you chosen to answer?
  • Make no mistake, your life is absolutely not a mistake. Your life has a Purpose.

Sometimes we flounder because we don’t know which path to follow in our lives or because the path we’ve chosen seems to be going nowhere, but the pure truth is that the answers to the path we seek are there inside us.

All we need to do, is to scratch beneath the surface, to listen to our heart with keen ears in order to hear with clarity. Sometimes, we have to cover our eye’s to see through the window of our soul.

Lady Cee shares a nugget that tugs on my mind ‘from slavery to celebrity.’ The message I received from this post is that God is not interested in your background, gender, wealth or whatever before he can use you as a vessel.

Please check this short post out, you might receive a nugget too.