Midnight Motivations and Musings 43…

March 29, 2016April 3, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha14 Comments

A whole lot of times, for fear of being hurt, or losing out, we choose to sit on the fence rather than dabbling and trying our best.

Easy does it quite alright and it’s essential to exercise caution before jumping into any venture or as the case may be a relationship.

However, we cannot because of previous bad experience rule out every other opportunity to try again.

Like my people would say, we cannot because of fear of shooting, avoid going to war when the need arises. For example, the fact that Tim broke your heart, doesn’t mean John will do so. For all you know, John might be that partner you’ve been seeking for.

Secondly, because one business endeavour failed, you cannot write off all other possibilities with the wave of the hand.

Rather, it makes more sense to apply the learnings from the previous experience, that way, you stand a better chance at succeeding.

Midnight Motivations and Musings # 42…

March 28, 2016March 28, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha16 Comments

It should go without saying that the voice of the giant in us should be the one that makes the most noise.

Alas, it’s hardly ever so. For the fact that the voice is not often heeded to, it lies dormant in us, while the screeching empty voice of the coward that knows all the negative, pessimistic words takes pride of place.

It does take a whole lot of paradigm shift and practice to drown the voice of ‘I can’t’ and ‘impossible’ to ‘I will and I’m possible.’

It’s equally a very liberating experience when we let go of some of our unfounded inhibitions and just spread our wings.

Even if we do take a splat in the attempt, chances are we must have gained some worthwhile experience.

When we don’t seek or venture, we shall neither find nor gain.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings #41…

March 26, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha19 Comments

Harmony can hardly be arrived at when we have constant internal turmoils stemming from grudges borne over something.

A whole lot of times grudges stem from expectations placed on someone and when it’s not met, we become resentful and store that in a corner of our minds and hearts. Even when we say that we’ve forgiven the person, we keep a long list of records of all the shortfalls.

If we minimized our expectations from others to almost nothing, that way we leave room for pleasant surprises and also save ourselves that feeling of being let down.

An instance is our personal relationships. A lot of relationships fail because we go into it with a long list of dos, don’ts and infernal expectations.

They are not GOD, but fallible humans!

This virtually applies to everything that we do. For instance you might have a nasty boss. Zero your mind down to the fact that he/she has issues that they are dealing with and they possibly don’t know how to be different.

Once your mind has accepted their contrary prickly nature, you go about your business as effectively as you can without letting the acid of annoyance and grudge build up inside you. Getting into differences with such people will only hurt you more, because the likelihood is that they may not understand, don’t care or are insensitive to your feelings.

Remember that you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself. Who knows, your balanced sense of self and disposition might actually serve as a source of inspiration for such people.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings 39…

March 24, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha18 Comments

It’s definitely important to review our steps from time to time, to see where we are and where we are coming from.

However, you shouldn’t feel dissuaded if you do a review and find that things are dragging a bit and not working out as fast as you would want, especially if you look and perceive that others might be running faster.

These days, life is on the micro-wave lane and we almost expect everything around us to fall into such category, but there are things that we cannot necessarily change as fast as we wish.

What we have to do, is to establish a rhythm that we can sustain.

Success is built over time, with patience and diligence. It’s not a sprint, but a long-drawn marathon, filled with hills, valleys, cobblestones to trip you up and sometimes muddy swampy pathways with noisome mosquitoes along the track 🙂

Just keep going. Each day, add another jigsaw to the puzzle.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings 37…

March 22, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha22 Comments

This predicament of complacency and arrogance happens and manifests in so many aspects of our lives very easily.

That tendency to feel comfortable, not wanting to rock the boat and just go with the flow once we’ve carved a sweet niche leads us down this track.

We can be contented with what we have and yet strive to keep improving our lot, because life itself is a consistent flow that does not stagnate.

The tendency to also grow arrogant and superior, once we start having that sense of accomplishment is also a penchant that easily sneaks in.

We should remember and strive to keep our heads bowed in humility, even as we stand tall in confidence.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings #36

March 21, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha7 Comments

To grow we need to take ‘positive risks’ in our pursuits and keep pushing the bar up.

If we don’t push the bar, we stagnate and become redundant.

It’s definitely needful to think through our steps and not to jump into impulsive actions that would only negate our efforts, however, over-processing can equally be a buzz killer and source of procrastination.

You may experience bumpy take-offs, even sustaining the momentum could get very turbulent, but clearly defining and redefining your goals, concentrating, caring about what you are doing and holding yourself accountable will lead you to your desired post.

Keeping these things in the front of one’s mind helps keep you grounded and stable.

You’ve got to care enough to make it worthwhile.

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Conquered…

March 18, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha4 Comments

She knew that

She had to fight

To conquer

Or roll over

To concede

and die.

She chose

To fight

and

she

won

♦

The Daily Post prompt fight.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 35

March 17, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha13 Comments

Dreams don’t only occur when we sleep.

We can also dream with eyes wide open, okay maybe glazed over with a silly goofy smile plastered on.

I am learning to deliberately sit back and stretch my mind the way that I would stretch my muscles and even though this might sound juvenile, it surprises me sometimes, how far I can stretch them.

It tells me that if my mind can conceive it, then I can find ways to accomplish it by giving it my best shot.

We tend to use all the self limiting excuses under the Sun as a limitation to arriving at our desired goals.

Maybe, it’s time we tried to dump the excuses and start dreaming as well as whittling away at it.

Good luck.

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 34…

March 16, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha8 Comments

Sometimes, nature forces us to slow down due to certain challenges that it throws our way and we are literally left in the waiting room.

While in the waiting room, it shouldn’t be seen as a drawback, but as an opportunity to decompress, to keep our eyes gazing up at the stars and yet our feet planted firmly in the present.

That would be a good time to have a bird-eye review, regroup and relaunch of that which you are projecting on.

I call it the 3 R’s .

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 33

March 15, 2016 jacquelineobyikocha19 Comments

When all we do is to talk and we don’t do, it then becomes Cock and Bull story.

Our reflections and introspection must try to match our conducts for any meaningful change to occur and this applies to every aspect of our lives that requires change and growth.

Some might say ‘oh yes, it’s in the plan, tomorrow I will do it,’ yet five years down the line, their tomorrow is still waiting to arrive.

The future belongs to all those who embrace constant growth transformation and exploring its directions.

Your future does not know waiting because the future is right now as we speak.