‘Sitting next to you licking ice-cream and doing absolutely nothing, but people watching is absolutely divine and means everything.’ Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Her cute sandals colour matches her pistachio ice-cream 😉
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Thoughts and Tales…A Lifestyle Blog with a Zing.
‘Sitting next to you licking ice-cream and doing absolutely nothing, but people watching is absolutely divine and means everything.’ Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Her cute sandals colour matches her pistachio ice-cream 😉
Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’
I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple.
Each Tuesday, share your very short snippets of positive, inspiring, motivating, health, spiritual, writing advice, clips, posts etc, that can serve as a prop to motivate others and simply add my link to your post.
I call it my thinking corner because, I actually take out a bit of time just to think through things, encapsulate my thoughts as much as possible and detoxify my mind. It helps give me clarity of vision and might help you too.
It might work for you in a different way, but the idea is to get the positive thoughts flowing.
Please send in your little thoughts. You never know whose life you might inspire.
♦ Sometimes, we have to cover our physical sight to see the silver linings in the dark clouds that hover.
♦ When the external heat of life gets too hot, you must keep working at your internal cooling system.
♦ Going with the ordinary flow may sound easy, but sometimes you are washed to the wrong direction. So while flowing, take a paddle with you to steer your course.
♦ Each day, you must remind yourself of what you actually want out of life and keep that vision before your eyes as you take another tiny step in that direction.
♦ Have you been stretching your vision lately? Why not? Don’t settle for laxity.
This week’s thoughts have been sent in by:
Kings oracle This short and sweet post from Oba couldn’t have said it better 🙂
Dollops of heedful rambling This is such a beautiful quote *my first time of reading it* and its truth leaves you mindful.
A purpose-driven achiever Lady Cee joins us with her sage words brings it home to me.
I really enjoy these conscious musings, because sometimes life is just so frenetic that it simply races along with us. These thoughts keep me grounded and help me more than words can say.
My regards,
Jacqueline
P.S I still haven’t been getting some pingbacks, so please if you post a thinking corner post, you might have to visit my page and leave a comment. Thank you.
When we take a moment to think of the fact that the days of our lives are truly short, we should also take the moment to reflect on how we can live a more purposeful life.
If you are blessed to get to 90 years, that’s just 32,850 days. Viewed from the point of days, it’s not that long so each day spent counts.
Each day’s decision to live happy, to live well, to live and make positive impacts no matter how small, to live unselfishly matters….
It is these decisions that should shape our lives and not the decisions that we failed to make.
Live, Love, Be Happy!
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Not all soil is good for planting due to its acidity or other toxic properties.
Likewise, not all circumstances that surround us will be supportive in nurturing you to the best of your potentials.
Sometimes, you have to make the smart decision and keep your dreams alive but away from toxicity.
Once you recognise such traits, it might not be easy to discard of such circumstances (they might be your family or job), but with wisdom, you can circumvent such characters and keep moving on without relent.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Let me briefly introduce you to Raili of Soul Gifts and leave it to you to get to know her yourself.
We met during our photo 101 class and have interacted well ever since. I totally enjoy her witty sense of humour, the delivery of her vivid stories that can transport you from mirth, to wonder, to daydream and much more .
I feel honoured that she accepted to grant me an interview and responding very nicely to my nosey -pokey questions 😉
In her responses below, you will agree with me that I chose well.
Do sit back and have a read. Thank you and my regards.
Thank you, Jacquie, for so generously hosting this series of interviews with fellow bloggers. What a good way to meet and greet each other !
What a good way to meet and greet each other !
I’m a happily married and retired woman of leisure with a 30-year career in mental health nursing behind me. Born in Finland, I migrated to Australia with my family as a 7-year-old.
My family moved around a lot while I was growing up, following Dad’s footsteps. He was a Minister of Religion to the Finnish Lutheran Community in Australia. Growing up in a Christian home gave me a strong foundation, values, and beliefs.
Married with two adult sons, I have pretty much-stayed put, moving house only once, and that was in the same city. We were DINKS (double income no kids) for the first 15 years.
Infertility imposed that on us. Eventually, after a long and arduous journey, we adopted our two boys from overseas – India and the Philippines. My husband has just recently retired too. He has his very own category in my blog – The Retired Husband. We look forward to many years of enjoying a leisurely life together. So far life has been pretty good. I wouldn’t change a thing.
This, my first post, is a tongue-in-cheek intro of myself to the world of blogging. It took a leap of faith and courage to press that ‘publish’ button the very first time! https://soulgifts.com.au/2015/08/01/hello-world/
I’ve always loved writing. Back in primary school one of my teachers gave me a 10 out of 10 for a descriptive essay I wrote, saying he wished he could give me more.
The best he could do, he said, was read it out to the class. Mortified as I was back then, I have never forgotten how thrilled I was deep down. Starting my own blog emerged as an itch that had to be scratched. So I plunged in the deep end back in August 2015 and got started.
Knowing nothing about blogging, it took me weeks to get it set up. And I have been tweaking it ever since! Better late than never I recently discovered WP Blogging University. It has skyrocketed my learning curve.
Why do I blog ? Because I love writing. About lots of things. From the deeply serious to the flippantly funny. Now, having spent the best part of the last 9 months blogging, there’s a whole host of other reasons too –
Meeting new people from all over the world
Armchair travelling through others eyes
Reading – fascinating words that I would not normally come across anywhere else
Making wonderful new friends
Reading the comments on blogs sometimes is so entertaining and informative
Keeps my brain alive and active with the never ending challenges and learning opportunities that seem to go hand in hand with the whole blogging experience
Here are a few links to my work –
I asked friends, readers and followers for 3 word prompt to write stories to. All in all, I wrote 19 of them –
I tell a tale about my colonoscopy experience in this one: Shat me pants
This is a two-part story in response to a prompt from the feathered sleep and a Sandbox Challenge
Voyage of Time – part 1
Voyage of Time – part 2
This is the all-time top post so far. It is about the building of our boat. There are many more boat stories in the Finally category – Boat in the Backyard
This poem was read out on the David Snape radio show recently. It is one that emerged from my Soul – Birth
This is a Dr-Seuss inspired tongue twister – Thinking puddle
The more serious side of me writes about :
Mind, Body, Soul newsletter about nurturing and growth – April 2016
Citizenship rights, equality, dignity and respect for all – Declared Insane
World free of fear – Prayer for Peace
Health and wellbeing – Green Therapy
Being retired, my mornings are leisurely. We have no alarm clock in the bedroom to jar us awake. A usual morning for me starts with a glass of lemon water, reading the local paper and having a go at the crossword and scrambled letters puzzles.Â
Followed by a leisurely breakfast and a bit of housework, I then head off to make the bed, have a shower and get dressed. Via my office to see what’s new in the Inbox.Â
The afternoons may include more housework, perhaps a bit of time in the garden, shopping, meeting up with friends for a spot of lunch, more blog time. After the evening meal and a bit of television ( we are cooking show tragics…) I head off to the world of blogging. And bed anytime between 10pm and 1am. Throughout, I am shadowed by my faithful little four legged friend Tess. She is happiest when I’m home.
I am in the final throes of drafting a Circle of Friends based theme for May. In it, I will invite fellow bloggers, readers, followers, visitors to share their stories, experiences, ideas etc about what friendship means to them… there will be more to come about this very soon. As for publishing – who knows what the future holds!
Thank you, Jacquie, for this opportunity to share a little about my world and my blog.
Would you like to guest post or an interview? Feel free to contact me through my contact page or on email: JacquelineObyIkocha@gmail.com
I could go on and on about this particular thought because I have so much to say, but I will just leave a few lines.
There are people who live with the constant victim mentality that it does appear that everything seems to be about them.
No doubts, there are those who have been grossly victimised, but what matters most is how they address these issues that face them.
Do they use these challenges as a ladder to rise out of their situation or do they lie their minds down like a mat and allow the aggressor to walk all over them?
The sad reality is that the World is just what it is. It’s not going to change for you because as long as there’s mankind, there will always be those who don’t care about hurting others.
Rather, you will be the one to change your way of thinking and rise out of that slavery mentality that envelopes your mind.
Once you rise out of such thoughts and break free from victim mode, you actually defeat your aggressor by no longer lending him/her free room in your life.
©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
‘Some memories never fade.’ Unknown
Our memories are made of those little things that are seemingly so ordinary. Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Naturally as humans, when we are witnesses to the success of others, there’s a deep inclination inside us that experiences a tinge of envy and want.
This is what gives birth to rivalry and competitiveness.
However, there are ways of harnessing our human need to excel and thrive without letting jealous notions be the main driver or our desire.
One, it’s not sustainable to operate that way because your function will be based on clouded emotions that will get the better of you.
Two, it’s never been a successful line to tow and a jealous master is a dangerous one.
Asides from the scriptural angle of things, it’s simply a terrible way for one to spend their lives comparing themselves to others.
It’s a far better approach seeking your own route. If you per chance admire the work of someone else and wish to do the same, be pragmatic about it. Learn
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Please don’t peek too closely at my long list of groceries but I have a household to nourish you know 😉
For this week’s The great book of lists, our grocery shopping list is the prompting word.
I have a love and hate relationship with shopping, but it’s unavoidable and since I cook virtually every day except on evenings that we eat out thus, my grocery/shopping list is a quite lengthy.
I actually have a typed list on my computer which I print off and take along with me, even though taking the list has never stopped me from buying something that’s not on it, especially if it looks like a good bargain 😉
I have two phases of shopping. Regular shopping marts for everything and a visit to the African store for condiments to make our native soups and delicacies 😉
I always like a full larder and I do bulk shopping twice a month and then pick up fresh goods like vegetables, bread, milk etc as the need arises.
My children accompany me and sometimes Dear Himself can be talked into tagging along when he’s not at work.
My kiddos are learning to sniff out good bargains too which is a mix of joy at their company and exasperation 😉
The list runs from food items in one trolley and other needed household items in another basket.
Meat: We are Carnivores. Sometimes I think I am breeding little Tigers.
Fish: To balance out the meat.
Chicken:
Ham, sausages etc:
Eggs: We ate lots of eggs. Scrambled, poached, boiled, omelette…
Cheese: Yess!!! I love cheese
Beverages. My children like Nesquick or Nestle Milo.
Milk. Everyone takes full cream except me *not that it’s helped much
Yoghurt
Waffle mix
Pasta
Rice
Beans
Fresh vegetables
Fresh fruits: Lots and lots of mix of oranges, grapefruit, pomegranates,
watermelon, bananas, dates, clementines, avocado ….
This list could go on for ages so I will let your imagination do the rest.
Somehow, a bar or several of chocolate have a way of sneaking into my trolley 🙂
Hey! Don’t judge! What’s a girl to do anyway?  Chocolate always goes well with a good book 😉
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Personally, I have sometimes found myself in a quandary as I am filled with an ambitious drive to achieve so much simultaneously and the lessons learnt by so doing, is that something always suffers for the other.
There’s no way to do so many things excellently well when the attention span has been spread so thin.
The need to accomplish often comes hand in hand with the feeling that one is a bit behind, thus the attempt to bundle up and get so much done becomes irresistible.
However, taming the desire to rev all engines and streamlining these projects yields a better result.
One feels less pressured and more productive when they set a deliverable timeline for each one and take it one after the other.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha