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Thoughts and Tales…A Lifestyle Blog with a Zing.
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At no age does the learning of the mind stop except the strictures that we place on ourselves.
Most times the term being set in our ways that we loosely use is actually a self-imposed and nice way of saying, I don’t want to be bothered to change.
For as long as we can keep our minds open to assimilate knowledge, our inner core is rejuvenated, constantly growing and the perspectives of our horizons remains broad.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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We are all a whirlpool of dreams and ideas but a lot of us undermine our capabilities and always nip dreams in the bud with comments like ‘oh I couldn’t,’ while looking on as others go about trying to achieve theirs.
I can’t, I couldn’t, I am afraid and so many of such self limiting statements are defeatist and they are like monsters that simply grow bigger with the smallest confirmation.
Yes you can, but only when you’ve tried to. You’ve got nothing to lose and a whole lot to gain, if only you will have the audacity to try and have fun while at it.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’
I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple.
Each Tuesday, share your very short snippets of positive, inspiring, motivating, health, spiritual, writing advice, clips, posts etc, that can serve as a prop to motivate others and simply add my link to your post.
I call it my thinking corner because, I actually take out a bit of time just to think through things, encapsulate my thoughts as much as possible and detoxify my mind. It helps give me clarity of vision and might help you too.
It might work for you in a different way, but the idea is to get the positive thoughts flowing.
Please send in your little thoughts. You never know whose life you might inspire.
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♦ Sometimes, we have to cover our physical sight to see the silver linings in the dark clouds that hover.
♦ When the external heat of life gets too hot, you must keep working at your internal cooling system.
♦ Going with the ordinary flow may sound easy, but sometimes you are washed to the wrong direction. So while flowing, take a paddle with you to steer your course.
♦ Each day, you must remind yourself of what you actually want out of life and keep that vision before your eyes as you take another tiny step in that direction.
♦ Have you been stretching your vision lately? Why not? Don’t settle for laxity.
This week’s thoughts have been sent in by:
Kings oracle This short and sweet post from Oba couldn’t have said it better 🙂
Dollops of heedful rambling This is such a beautiful quote *my first time of reading it* and its truth leaves you mindful.
A purpose-driven achiever Lady Cee joins us with her sage words brings it home to me.
I really enjoy these conscious musings, because sometimes life is just so frenetic that it simply races along with us. These thoughts keep me grounded and help me more than words can say.
My regards,
Jacqueline
P.S I still haven’t been getting some pingbacks, so please if you post a thinking corner post, you might have to visit my page and leave a comment. Thank you.
When we take a moment to think of the fact that the days of our lives are truly short, we should also take the moment to reflect on how we can live a more purposeful life.
If you are blessed to get to 90 years, that’s just 32,850 days. Viewed from the point of days, it’s not that long so each day spent counts.
Each day’s decision to live happy, to live well, to live and make positive impacts no matter how small, to live unselfishly matters….
It is these decisions that should shape our lives and not the decisions that we failed to make.
Live, Love, Be Happy!
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Mundane Monday challenge is created to find beauty in almost everything.
The challenge is simple : find beauty in everyday mundane things, capture the beauty and upload the photographs.
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Found on an offbeat track, it was sheer will that made me resist untieing the bag to see what was inside, but I couldn’t resist stepping on it with my trainers on my feet to get a feel. Was soft and squishy, heightened my sense of curiousity.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Not all soil is good for planting due to its acidity or other toxic properties.
Likewise, not all circumstances that surround us will be supportive in nurturing you to the best of your potentials.
Sometimes, you have to make the smart decision and keep your dreams alive but away from toxicity.
Once you recognise such traits, it might not be easy to discard of such circumstances (they might be your family or job), but with wisdom, you can circumvent such characters and keep moving on without relent.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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I could go on and on about this particular thought because I have so much to say, but I will just leave a few lines.
There are people who live with the constant victim mentality that it does appear that everything seems to be about them.
No doubts, there are those who have been grossly victimised, but what matters most is how they address these issues that face them.
Do they use these challenges as a ladder to rise out of their situation or do they lie their minds down like a mat and allow the aggressor to walk all over them?
The sad reality is that the World is just what it is. It’s not going to change for you because as long as there’s mankind, there will always be those who don’t care about hurting others.
Rather, you will be the one to change your way of thinking and rise out of that slavery mentality that envelopes your mind.
Once you rise out of such thoughts and break free from victim mode, you actually defeat your aggressor by no longer lending him/her free room in your life.
©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Everyone deserves to love and be loved and true love first starts with you.
Loving yourself and accepting that you are whole and worth it, is not being self-centered.
You should know that you are enough without expecting someone else to complete you. It’s a fallacy to anticipate that. No one can complete another.
They can only complement what you already have, thus when you feel inadequate, your sense of inadequacy emanates from within and this is not something that someone else can fix.
What happens when they are no longer there or when they fail to fulfil all your expectations?
How long will someone else have to patch you up?
When will you realise that you are worth loving you for you?
If you are unable to love yourself for your own sake and treat yourself appropriately, then it will be difficult to cascade a non-existent blessing to someone else, for it’s really out of what you’ve got that you can give others.
God’s love is free and without encumbrances.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Naturally as humans, when we are witnesses to the success of others, there’s a deep inclination inside us that experiences a tinge of envy and want.
This is what gives birth to rivalry and competitiveness.
However, there are ways of harnessing our human need to excel and thrive without letting jealous notions be the main driver or our desire.
One, it’s not sustainable to operate that way because your function will be based on clouded emotions that will get the better of you.
Two, it’s never been a successful line to tow and a jealous master is a dangerous one.
Asides from the scriptural angle of things, it’s simply a terrible way for one to spend their lives comparing themselves to others.
It’s a far better approach seeking your own route. If you per chance admire the work of someone else and wish to do the same, be pragmatic about it. Learn
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Personally, I have sometimes found myself in a quandary as I am filled with an ambitious drive to achieve so much simultaneously and the lessons learnt by so doing, is that something always suffers for the other.
There’s no way to do so many things excellently well when the attention span has been spread so thin.
The need to accomplish often comes hand in hand with the feeling that one is a bit behind, thus the attempt to bundle up and get so much done becomes irresistible.
However, taming the desire to rev all engines and streamlining these projects yields a better result.
One feels less pressured and more productive when they set a deliverable timeline for each one and take it one after the other.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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