Tag Archive | Self-Improvement

What About You? Affirmation Challenge Day 25

I am unique and celebrate my individuality. I am resourceful. I am proud of my efforts and creativity because the more I push my boundaries, the better I become.

I love this comment from yesterday.

DancingPalmTrees: Jacqueline, You’re a Genius!.
Your blog post got me to thinking about how to price my paintings. Just like I find inspiration for creating collages and paintings I was also able to find more instruction videos on pricing one’s artworks.

P.S. If you wish to join this positive affirmation challenge running for 90 days, please add your quote to the comments and each day, I’ll share everyone’s quote with their links.

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My Thinking Corner…

Negativity only breeds more of its kind

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Have you noticed that once your train of thought goes off on a negative tangent, it simply sets the ball of negative emotions, reactions and mindset rolling fast downhill and at the end of the day, all these feedback is internalized, that it takes extra effort to rid ourselves of what that has become embedded in our psyche.

Learn to identify and isolate these thoughts. It may require digging deeper into your mind and possibly journalling. You might discover that over the years you’ve got a build up in your negative bank which needs to be addressed.

Unlearning this is like learning anything new. Start paying attention to your language and internal chatter and eliminate those negative absolutes from your thinking pattern. When your mind trails off, bring it back on track with positive affirmations.

Remember that we can’t give what we don’t have and what we let into our mind every day has a big effect on us. So, it’s time to start questioning what you allow in.

 

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12 EFFECTIVE WAYS TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING.

Public speaking comes with its own fair share of challenges. One of the terrifying aspects of public speaking is addressing a crowd.

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Many people admit to being nervous and developing stage fright of having to take a stand before others to make a speech, yet oratory skills are one of the most valued and profitable business skills.

If you want to develop your public speaking abilities, the fear of public speaking is controlled and overcome with practice and the right techniques.

A little thing I always say to myself that makes me smile and relax is, ‘while I’m here being busy worrying about not making a fool of myself before these people, they are probably busy admiring my new shoes and how good I look, they are just people like me.’

Expect to be nervous and admit it if need be

Bear in mind that even experienced speakers do get nervous. Don’t try to undermine your feelings. You can even admit to your jitters humorously to your audience. That way they are more accommodating to your errors and would not be expecting a World-class presentation. It gives you the opportunity to relax and be yourself to turn your jitters into energy that you can use to boost a delivery that surprises even you.

Redefine your audience

Our stage fright is usually based on self-preoccupied thoughts. Thoughts such as ‘I am going to suck at this, how am I doing, I am not good enough et cetera,’ keeps the focus on you and these thoughts only grow as long as your focus is on them. Take the focus off yourself and think of your audience. ‘Are you carrying them along? Is your voice projecting enough’?

Redefine your perspectives for assessing your audience. Probably, instead of seeing them as judges who are busy evaluating you, you could think of them as teammates who are genuinely interested in hearing your opinion and possibly learning something from you – what is that one thing you would want them to leave with?

Be Prepared

Every successful action requires preparation. This is your key to a successful presentation – speech. Knowing what you are going to say, who to, and why you want to say what you wish to say has a way of instilling confidence.

Practice does make perfect

Hone your skills through practice. These days opportunity presents itself in many ways. Start small. It could be through videos (vlogging) podcasting, speaking to small, supportive audiences where less is at stake. Find and join Toastmasters around you. Consider working with a coach or taking a Dale Carnegie course on Effective Speaking or working with a private coach.

Remember To Breathe

Minutes before you step on to that podium to begin your speech, take several deliberate, slow, deep breaths through your nose, filling your abdomen and exhale through your mouth, repeat silently to yourself, ‘relax, be confident and vocal.’ Read More…

Excuse Me – My Thinking Corner

 

Buy yourself a one-way ticket away from Excuse Island, I just left that place and there’s nothing is happening there – Jacqueline

Quotes, No more excuses

I have learned that excuses are as bountiful as ever but opportunities are so few and when our excuses become a habit, they simply perpetuate failure.

The choice to make changes or to make excuses is all yours, but remember to claim the results and not shift the blame on someone else.

Carol shares a beautiful post ‘Enjoy the gift of life,’ take a peek and find nuggets within.

Proverbs 26: 13 A sluggard says, “There’s a lion in the road, a fierce lion roaming the streets!” 14 As a door turns on its hinges, so a sluggard turns on his bed.

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Prompt – Writers Quote Challenge

Bernadette, Joan, and I invite you to join in on our blogging event called The Writer’s Quote Challenge.  We are looking for one more host/hostess to join in the fun.  So if you would like to pick up the challenge of hosting, just let one of us know.invitation-shel-silverstein

For this week’s prompt, here’s my offering:

The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking. Robert H Schuller

Never let the sun set on those dreams

even in the twilight of your days,

rather, let the moon shine on them,

casting them into beautiful pearls;

for your vintage collection.

I had a conversation last week with a friend who’s clocking 50 next month and during our talk, she expressed some disappointment for not having pursued her academics a bit further.

Now she just feels that she’s too old (especially back home in Nigeria) where she laughingly said that she would probably end up being the grandma of the class of young adults.

I told her that if she really wanted to do so, irrespective of age, she should go ahead and find something suitable to do at her own pace, after all, she’s not in competition with anyone.

Besides, the older she gets the more likely it is that her regrets will grow deeper.

I ruminated over this conversation for several days because as I spoke to her, my mind centered on some aspirations of mine that have been in the cooler for a bit due to family exigencies.

Am I ready to toss them over because I feel that I’m getting too old to go back to school? I don’t think so.

Those dreams that are within our reach should not be left to die irrespective of age because age is simply a convenient and lame excuse.

I look forward to reading your contributions.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Tuesday Trickles – My Thinking Corner

Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’

I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple. You can check this link for more details.

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The difference between who you are right now and who you seek to be lie in what you choose to do. Are you taking the right steps?

♦  If you have a dream, yet you choose to do nothing, be rest assured that it will never materialize.

♦  A dream works when you work on it. It may be slow in arriving, but consistently taking the rights steps, slowly but surely will get you to your desired goal.


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Midnight Motivation and Musings 107

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Change is difficult to embrace most times because of the fear of the unknown and this fear leaves us clinging to old habits, experiences and even harmful situations that we should let go of.

When we fail to let go and release these things that we need to leave behind, we are unable to create room to receive better experiences.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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