Gratitude · Guide To Better Living

These ‘Buts of Life.’

No, I didn’t mean to type ‘butts,’ just in case you are wondering. In the most sincere part of your heart, do you ever feel that there are times you are simply not grateful enough? Yes, you may be going through the motions of expressing gratitude and all that, yet some part of you seems to be begrudging because of some ‘buts.’

These silent ‘buts’ that we store in our hearts and hold them secretly as a yardstick to measure how much gratitude is worth expressing;No Ifs, No Buts, Happiness Looks Good On You, Gratitude

“But my dreams are yet to come true,”
“But I’m still broke and don’t know when my slim purse will have wads of cash in it.”
“But I’m fat (well that’s mostly your fault if I may say so).”
“But, if only I lived in a better house, drove a better car, have all that I want…
“But I’m doing all the right things yet nothing is going as right as it should.”

The line of buts can become endless if we keep searching. They might seem harmless, but the truth is that these ‘buts and ifs’ are a barrier to our happiness and success. They block us from simply letting go and losing ourselves in the joy of living itself because we are putting conditions on potential good actions in our lives. By our buts, we train our minds to accept virtual happiness and peace of mind only when certain conditions have been fulfilled.

All these ‘buts’ are crying out loud that we don’t have enough, that we are not happy, that we are not at peace and we will only be if…

To turn things around we have to relearn and reprogram our mindset. Count your buts one by one and contrast them with your blessings – even the most mundane of blessings.

Learning to give thanks with a grateful heart can be a tough lesson. There are days that I have truly struggled, but (well this is a good but) I’ve also learnt that by constantly keeping my affirmatives closer to heart, my number of buts are losing ground and it’s a practice worth keeping.

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Gratitude · Guide To Better Living

The Time To Write…

All about books, Library, Reading

It doesn’t take much to please me. I’m a cheap thrill kinda girl. One of the simple things I enjoy in life is to sit in a quiet corner of a library and indulge in a book or just to write to my heart’s content but lately, such indulgence has whittled down to such a minutiae degree due to life and its responsibilities getting in the way.

Nonetheless, I have to create the space to satisfy these cravings of mine and I must find the time to write even if I have to steal it from somewhere ‘cos I observed that any week I failed to visit the library at least once, a part of me knows abject discontent. It took me a while to recognize and understand this – during one of my self-help sessions.

For me, this simple act of finding time to write or to immerse myself in a book is a form of therapy on a different level and over the years, wherever I’ve lived, one of the first thing that I do without fail is to locate the bookstore, the nearest library and then the grocery stores.

So, as I sit in this library surrounded by books, the only sound I can hear is the squeaky wheels of the trolley as a librarian shelves the books, I feel a lift in my spirit and can almost feel the trickle of dopamine sending happiness signals into every part of me. My heart knows such contentment. I sip my chai latte and grasp the momentary pleasure with both hands of gratitude.

I’m currently reading Two by Two by Nicholas Sparks.

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…And I Slept Off…

 

Whatever is it about being out in nature that makes me doze off on my mat after a brief while is a great thing. Does  this happen to you?

Going to the park with the children is pure bliss for me and whilst they frolic, I read and simply doze off to the divine sound of birds chirping, doves cooing, sounds of children’s chatter and laughter…and I wake up feeling renewed, refreshed and full of pleasure and gratitude.

I’m already missing this. The infernal heat of the UAE is slowly creeping up on us. By March, the Sun will turn on its rays in full blast. Anyways, let me get every last dose of natures bounty before it presses the pause button.

I even record the sounds – I have one as long as 20 minutes – to enjoy in the forthcoming months of dryness and heat.

What’s your pleasure?

Family · Guide To Better Living · Health · Parenting

Possible Causes When Your Child Is In Pain

Aches and pains are something you expect to experience as you get older. We all accept that our bodies aren’t going to be as elastic and mobile as they once were. However, we don’t expect that our children are going to have to put up with various aches and pains for many years. And yet, kids can complain of seemingly random pains that have no obvious cause. If you have a child complaining about something hurting, but you can’t see an obvious injury, you might think they’re being sneaky and trying to get out of something. But there could be a number of reasons they’re feeling pain.

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Injury

Injuries aren’t always visible on the surface. While sometimes there’s a bruise, cut or swelling, it’s possible for your child to get hurt and not have an obvious injury. They might have fallen over or walked into something, hurting themselves but not immediately leaving a visible mark. If your child can still move everything and doesn’t seem to be in too much pain, the injury probably isn’t too severe, and you can treat it at home. However, if it’s a pain that doesn’t go away, it’s affecting their mobility (or even ability to sit or lie down), or you start to notice any swelling, seeing a doctor might be necessary.

Congenital and Developmental Problems

Sometimes, children are born with medical problems that aren’t obvious right away. Or they might develop an issue as they grow and something doesn’t grow as it’s supposed to. Some children can experience hip degeneration caused by hip dysplasia when the hip forms incorrectly. This sort of thing might happen to various parts of their body. However, it’s not necessarily easy to pick up just by looking. Seeing a doctor is often the only way to diagnose the problem with various tests and examinations.

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Illness

Being ill can sometimes cause aches and pains too. From headaches and tummy aches to sore throats and itchy skin, there’s a whole range of symptoms your child might complain of. Most illnesses might not be very pleasant to experience, but they can often be treated at home and will soon pass. Some more serious illnesses can occur too, of course. Some need to be addressed immediately, such as appendicitis, septicemia, and meningitis, so it’s important to know the symptoms to look out for that indicate that you might have an emergency on your hands.

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Growing Pains

Some pains that children experience don’t have a clear explanation. A lot of children and preteens experience “growing pains”, which are also called recurrent nocturnal limb pain. This is when children get aching legs, usually in the evenings and at night. Despite being called growing pains, there’s no evidence that they’re caused by growing. They might be the result of lots of physical activity, and they’re also more common in children with more flexible joints. They run in families too, so if you remember experiencing them, your child might too.

There’s no need to worry straight away if your child complains of being in pain. There are many possible causes, and usually, it’s nothing serious.

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Thoughts For Tuesday

I am, Possibilities, Inspire, Motivate, Hope, Love, Self-Love, Magnificient

Never say that someone held you back from becoming who you want to be. They can only try to hinder your steps ‘cos the only person you become is the person that you choose to be.