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Uninvited…

I saw it coming.

I grudgingly said hello.

I allowed it to simmer and linger.

Depression.

That uninvited guest.

Comes to spend the night on your couch,

and ends up

staying for weeks on end

in your room and bathrobe.

I have my episodes, like I did this past week and a lot of times they are triggered by very innocuous, mundane things. such as a break in my rituals.

Sometimes, I can’t even put a finger on the precise point of trigger, or even encapsulate my emotions properly in words. What I do know, however, is that as hard as it may be to get out of that bed and bathrobe and face your day, for those of us who go through these down times, it’s very important to focus on daily pick-me-up rituals. They have a way of keeping you grounded.

 

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Looking After Little Ones: 5 Potential Sources Of Stress For Your Children

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As parents, we like to think that our children have nothing to worry about. Sure, they get into the odd argument with their friends now and then, but those always resolve quickly, leaving your little one the happy-go-lucky and carefree kid you know and love. Unfortunately, something we all hate to admit is that our children deal with stress just like we do. Of course, their’s comes from different sources, but it’s hurtful and painful all the same. If you want to look after your little ones, then here are five potential sources of stress you need to watch out for.

Moving House And School

Kids thrive best when they have a regular and consistent routine, which is why they often don’t cope well when things start to change. One of the biggest changes a little one can face is moving house, especially when it means they also need to change schools. To make this process easier for your children, you should let them know what’s happening as soon as possible. You should also emphasize the positives of moving and help them say goodbye.

Fighting Among The Parents

No one likes the thought of their parents fighting, but, for children, this prospect can be absolutely terrifying. This is why you need to do what you can to keep your kids out of arguments and resolve them alone. If the tension continues after a fight, you should consider couples counseling retreats to deal with your issues. Never complain to your child about your partner, or try to make them pick sides, as they’ll be left feeling guilty either way, and this guilt can be incredibly harmful.

Losing A Loved One

Whether it be the death of a family member, close friend, or beloved pet, losing someone you love is confusing and heartbreaking to children. They can be left feeling abandoned and lonely, and might even convince themselves that they’re somehow to blame, causing a crushing sense of guilt. Explaining death to a child can be difficult for parents, especially when the loss affects them too, but it’s important that you use your words carefully, so as to not create further upset.

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Following A Tight Schedule

More often than not, your child’s schedule will be even more packed than yours, containing school homework, music lessons, sports games, and more. Of course, you don’t want your child to be bored throughout the day, but running from activity to activity can leave your kids feeling overwhelmed and incredibly anxious. To give them room to breathe, you should sit down with your children and cut a few things out of their day that they don’t want or need to do.

Peer Pressure And Bullying

From a very young age, your children are going to face peer pressure and bullying. The things your children have to face may not be as serious or scary and the cases you see in the news, but they can cause just as much upset. To help protect your kids, you should let them know that you’re always there to listen if they ever have anything they want to get off their chest. You can’t force them to talk, but, hopefully, with this prompt, they’ll feel comfortable when they need to.

Whether we like it or not, our children have to deal with stress just like we do. To avoid this stress becoming harmful, make sure you look out for the potential sources listed above.

Musical Blessings – Aretha Franklin – Stream of Consciousness Saturday

Music is a language for the soul and Aretha Franklin sure knew how to belt it out. In celebration of the beautiful Queen of Soul who blessed us musically with the gift of her voice, let me share some of her songs.

Once I saw Linda’s SoCS prompt ‘ic or ical‘, it had to be music for me. I have enjoyed listening to Aretha over decades and will still keep enjoying her timeless pieces.

Taking Care Of Your Footsies: Advice To Live By

If there is one area of the body that a large number of people make the mistake of failing to give enough TLC too, it’s the feet. For one reason or another, often our feet don’t get the care that they require to remain healthy, which can lead to a range of problems, from dry, sore feet to cracked heels and ingrowing toenails.

The issue is that a lot of women don’t know how to look after their feet properly, which can lead to a lack of proper foot care. The good news is that foot care isn’t something that it’s hard to do, it’s just a case of knowing what steps to take when it comes to giving your footsies the best care possible.

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Bearing that in mind, below are some foot care tips that foot models swear by. To keep your feet in better condition have a read of this and implement the below tips in your daily beauty and healthcare regimes. (Your feet will look and feel better for it, and they will be healthier too!)

Buy quality footwear

One of the most important things that you can do to keep your feet healthy is to buy quality footwear. The more you are on your feet each day, the more essential high-quality footwear becomes. What you want to do is research the best quality footwear and use resources like https://biopods.com/ to learn more about foot health and what it takes to make smart footwear choices. If you can’t afford to spend a large sum of money on footwear or you have footwear that isn’t comfortable, the best thing to do is buy quality insoles or gel pads for your shoes. This way your feet are still getting quality support but without you having to buy new shoes.

Wash your feet properly

Feet that aren’t washed properly are prone to all kinds of problems, including athlete’s foot and other forms of food fungus. To prevent your feet from developing these kinds of conditions, ensure that you wash your feet once a day with hot water and soap and follow by drying them entirely with a clean towel. Don’t wear your trainers when damp and ensure that you always air them out after use – this helps to prevent the risk of athlete’s foot. Never wear your trainers without socks, always put on a pair of clean, cotton socks before wearing them.

Exfoliate twice a week

If you want to avoid painful cracked heels and dry feet, it’s essential that you exfoliate your feet at least twice a week. There are various foot scrubs that you can choose from, but normally a pumice stone tends to work better as these provide a more coarse surface to exfoliate with, removing more dead and dry skin than a foot scrub could do. The electronic dry skin removal machines are also great, but these are far more expensive.

Moisturise every day

Your feet are no different to the rest of your body, they require just as much moisturisation as any other body part, if not more. That’s why it’s important that you moisturise your feet once a day with a rich foot cream – the best creams to use are shea butter or argan oil-based foot creams as these provide an exceedingly high level of hydration.

There you have it, a guide to giving your feet all of the TLC that they need to remain healthy.

This is a collaborative post.

Thoughts For Tuesday…

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When you are at your lowest ebb; when everything that could go wrong has gone wrong that there’s no more shoe left to drop, see it as the best place to earthen your feet and walk bare.

We will all experience anguish, pain, loss, heartbreak etc, but how we respond to these issues of life determines how far we’ll go. Self-inflicted suffering during a crisis is double jeopardy and is definitely optional.

Shifting Space…

Moving house sucks, if I may say so. We’re moving to a new apartment and it’s thrown me for a loop.

I always promise myself to live a far more minimalist and spartan life and not to acquire unnecessary stuff especially given that I have spent a great part of my adult cum married life playing tag-a-long spouse – moving Continents and houses, but my promise always falls apart given that I have a Magpie for a husband who loves acquiring and holding onto shiny stuff 😉

My internet has been down for several days as well and since I could no longer take it ‘cos I was slowly losing my mind amidst the boxes of this and that, I just had to take a quick drive to the library to check my blog, natter a bit online and regain some sanity.

See you soon.