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When I Was Just A Little Girl…personal


I have to hum this song of Doris Day in my head while at it:

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother what will I be
Will I be pretty will I be rich
Here’s what she said to me

Que Sera Sera
Whatever will be will be
The future’s not ours to see
Que Sera Sera
What will be will be

When I grew up and fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead
Will we have rainbows day after day
Here’s what my sweetheart said

Que Sera Sera
Whatever will be will be
The future’s not ours to see
Que Sera Sera
What will be will be

Now I have children of my own
They ask their mother what will I be
Will I be handsome will I be rich
I tell them tenderly

Que Sera Sera
Whatever will be will be
The future’s not ours to see
Que Sera Sera
What will be will be
Que Sera Sera

Doris Day Que sera sera

Like most young children, I had as many aspirations as my diapers were changed, ranging from being a newscaster, an actress, a mother, a singer, a nurse, a pilot, a lawyer, a writer, a fashion designer….just about everything that you could think of in the book.

I don’t recall wanting to be a police officer, because the Nigerian police of my growing up years were not particularly inspiring.

We hardly knew what fire service men looked like, because if someone’s house unfortunately caught fire, they would attempt to quench the thirst of the licking hot flames with buckets of water while watching their properties turn to cinders, so I had no aspirations in that direction.

I fancied being a doctor at some point, because of the films that I watched, where they looked so capable and nice in their scrubs.

I dabbled a bit here and there in living my childhood dreams.

A bit of novice modelling and amateur acting, debating and writing for young magazines.

I learnt how to sew and realized that I would rather draw the designs than sew the clothes.

I studied law but I am not a practicing lawyer.

I went into international relations/French language and spent over a dozen years working with Multinational and Diplomatic corps.

After my children arrived, I waded into entrepreneurial ventures and found it to my liking – I love being the boss of me and having time for my young family.

In all my multi desires, the strongest desire which has not fallen by the wayside over time, but has only grown stronger has been my writing aspirations.

This is the flame that I want to keep stoking so that it can burn as high as possible and I think that my cumulative, diverse experiences brings a lot to bear into my writing.

I feel as if my writing is an embodiment of all my past aspirations and even those that are still at incubating stage such as some of my interests in Life coaching and Entrepreneurship. We shall see how it goes.

Now, I find several me’s embedded inside one me: Me (myself), me the wife, me the mother, me the child of my parents, me the writer, me the friend, me the life student and many more me’s to discover.

Life is a consistent transition and as I roll with the constant fluidity of life, part of the affirmations I make to myself are that:

I will live and not die wishing that I had lived better. I will live to declare the goods works of the Lord in the land of the living. I will live moment by moment, loving my life as it is and loving those around me. I will not live in fear of daring to succeed but will dare to succeed and fail forward.

Β© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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When you were 10, what did you want to be when you grew up? What are you now? Are the two connected?

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38 thoughts on “When I Was Just A Little Girl…personal

  1. Oh this is so true Jacqueline. I am still young and haven’t had time to finish dabbling yet but I can relate so much. For me writing has been a constant and singing(but singing for personal enjoyment lol) it has helped me find release and so much more.

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      1. It’s always a pleasure. And you work inspires me. Gives me no chance for excuses seeing all you’ve achieved. Stops me from using my background as an excuse. Merci Beaucoup Jacqueline

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  2. The personal me’s (wife, mother, Christian) are first and always. The teacher me is persistent and would not give up just because there is no position for filling it. Therefore, writing has substituted well; I can visualize a group of students hopefully reading my writing me. And nobody tells me any different.
    Then there is the student me who follows the likes of you. Enjoyed your post; it’s brilliant.

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  3. I really enjoyed this post. I think I got a real glimpse of you in your writing. And, I must tell you, I dang that song all of the time with my mom when I was a kid- it’s a great memory!

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  4. The poem was a pleasure to read. You have many aspirations which made me chuckle when I saw the pic you posted because that is most definitely YOU all the way. You couldn’t have found a better pic to go along with this post!

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  5. I really enjoyed this post!!!! My aspirations have changed as I aged, but ultimately, I want to make a positive difference in others’ lives. I want to inspire others and motivate them!

    I want to help someone fulfill their potential.

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  6. I really enjoyed reading this heart-warming and thought provoking post. It made reflect about my life. πŸ™‚

    I keep hoping that I am living out my true purpose, but then I wonder, maybe there isn’t just one sole purpose in life for each person. Perhaps with each phase of my life, as I make several transitions, the purpose keeps renewing itself.

    I hope that I will leave this world at a ripe old age, fully content that I did all that I could do.

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    1. My dear, I am coming to realize that there are several of you buried within you and it is with the passage to time and exploring that each of these entities unfolds itself. I also realize that we are really the ones who place shackles on ourselves mentally by boxing in who and what we can be into a frame. You will do well my dear. You are already on the right track πŸ™‚

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I love it when you decorate my heart with your words..

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