In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Must Not Fail.”
The fear of failure when it comes to the aspects of life’s material wants has ceased to bother me, because I have really come to realize that we can exist on far less than we tend to surround ourselves with.
I literately and completely believe in the word of God in Ezekiel 34 v 26: that says: I will make them and the places surrounding my hill a blessing. I will send showers in season; showers of blessing.
I have seen this proven true time and time again in my life even when I neither earned it nor deserved it.
I know that as long as life exists that hope exists. That faith and perseverance will sustain me.
It is always wise to keep in mind that failure is only a setback and not the end of the street. It is an invitation to learn from, to grow from and an opportunity to start again.
However, as a mother blessed with lovely children, there is a fear that niggles my heart each day and that is the fear in my ability to do a good job in raising my children.
With the amount of corrosive erosion in human ethics and values, I am concerned and wonder if I am doing enough to raise upright children who will be blessings to their generation. Therefore, I must continue to try.
On a personal note, I live with the fear of failing as a Christian in the true sense of the word. Not the picture of me that the World sees through the acts of Earthly Godliness but the intrinsic me that no one else is privy to.
I however remind myself that it is only by the Grace of God that I am redeemed and not by the arm of my flesh.
These two thoughts drive me everyday and if I do not fail in these two things, then I must count myself as extremely successful.
Let us not fail to remember that success is relative. What count’s as success for me, may be viewed as idiosyncratic nonsense to another.
Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Idiosyncratic is a word I apply to myself often and I never thought I’d hear another do the same! I also, struggle with the same things you’ve mentioned here only, now I am raising my grandchildren and along with that comes questioning if my children’s struggle are due to my parenting…but I know I worked hard at being a mom, gave it my best, and now that I’m a Grammy-mom, I’m giving that my best too. I’ve learned that being a good mother isn’t so much about how they turn out but about loving them no matter what choices and mistakes they may make. Ezekiel chapter 18 is the scripture I cling to. Our children don’t belong to us, they pass through our care, and then choose what kind of people they want to be. God bless you for being the kind of mother who cares enough to doubt herself. Your children are blessed to have such a wise mom.
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Oh Pam! You have a way with words that simply make me smile 🙂 I believe so much too in that statement that our children don’t belong to us. I only see myself as a custodian of these young ones. Thank you so, so much for your loving words. They are highly appreciated 🙂
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It’s a lovely reminder. It is hard to reconcile when I feel like the creator of my well being. I pray about that every day, Jacqui. x
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Thank you my dear lady. It really does serve as a reminder that our entire well being does not lie in our hands. Kind regards 🙂
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A beautiful quote and a good reminder. Success is relative. As long as we continue trying, we are succeeding.
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Yes Lula 🙂 Thank you for your time and your comments.
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Got to learn a new word, Idiosyncratic, by reading your post! Thank you for contributing to my knowledge, no matter how tiny of an existing knowledge I hold, my exposure is generally limited to the books I read.
Just out of curiosity, where did you learn that one? Maybe you read a different genre than I do. Maybe I should expand my reading a little more!
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I honestly don’t know which of the books. I read detective, thrillers, romance, drama. The truth is I have no particular genre. Anyway that strikes me as interesting, I delve into. Thank you so much for visiting and your time. It is highly appreciated. Have a good week ahead 🙂
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“…children who will be blessings to their generation.” – appreciate the thought.
I read a quote about teachers earlier this month, “The best teachers are those who show you where to look, but don’t tell you what to see. – Alexandra K. Trenfor.”
This applies to parents also, I guess…
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Lovely quote and it does apply to parents 🙂
Thank you for your lovely comment. I do appreciate your time 🙂 regards
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Very lovely Jacqueline!
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Thanks my lady 🙂
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very nice and the word niggle love that!
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Cute word 🙂
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yes it is!!
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🙂
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I just wanted to know that I nominated you for the Blogger Recognition Award.
Read more about it here: https://cafelifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/09/27/blogger-recognition-award/
Congratulations! 🙂
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Thank you so much Carol. That brightens up an emotional roller coaster day. I do appreciate the warm thoughts and gesture 🙂
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My pleasure! I hope you enjoy writing the acceptance post as much as I did!
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I am sure I will 🙂
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“It is always wise to keep in mind that failure is only a setback and not the end of the street. It is an invitation to learn from, to grow from and an opportunity to start again.” MUST start again, some people stop, but this analogy is so good! Detours and construction fact of life.
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Yes my dear. You got it right 🙂
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I had the same thought running through my mind this morning, about motherhood. As a homeschooler, I worry whether I’m teaching them everything they need to know. After all, I’m completely responsible for their education and that makes me nervous sometimes lol. However, I know that I’m doing a great job and I bet you are too! This is a very encouraging post and I needed to read this today.
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Honestly, I wonder why there is no manual to doing this motherhood job 🙂 We will keep doing our best. I am happy that you found something of value in it 🙂
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If there was a manual, no one would follow it anyway lol
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Trust humans! We would poke holes in it and find all the reasons not to trust it 🙂
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hehehe…for sure
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Like all the other bloggers’ comments here I would like also to thank you for your frankness I am struggling too with many feelings of doubt about the way I brought up my four children I know I did my best but would have done something differently
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Honestly speaking, raising up children is by far the hardest thing that I have had to embark on and some days I feel real scare that I may not get it right. However, I keep telling myself to do my best and to leave the rest to God. Thank you for visiting Maria (I love your name and it stems from loving Maria of Sounds of Music) and I appreciate your comments. Kind regards
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If you don’t mind here is a post from last week where I mention these things and my faith that we also share Day 13: Compose a series of vignettes | Maria Holm
http://mariaholm51.com/2015/09/23/day-13-compose-a-series-of-vignettes/
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Not a problem at all. I will love to read it 🙂
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This is a really powerful post that speaks of a deeply-rooted faith. I just know that you’ll raise your children into good people because the grace of God is with you. Have a blessed day!
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Thank you for these kind words and your visit. I really do appreciate them. I pray so and by the grace of God it shall come to be. Kind regards 🙂
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Declare and claim it. I know you’re doing a great job. Kudos to you! 🙂
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Declare and claim it. I know you’re doing a great job. Kudos to you 🙂
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Amen! Thank you 🙂
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You said (wrote) it! It is not by might, nor by power, but by the Spirit. Just the fact that you desire to bring a smile to God’s face shows that you already have:)
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I really pray so. Amen and warm regards 🙂
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