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Finding Fabulous Fulfillment For Yourself After Having A Little One

You aren’t afraid to admit that your entire life revolves around your new baby. You have lost all concepts of who you were before you had the little one and you don’t want it to affect your self-esteem in the long run. Being a new mom is full of challenges, so you need to keep in touch with the person you have always been, otherwise, you will drive yourself crazy. Whether you’re trying to impress your spouse by furthering your career or you just want to give yourself a little boost of confidence, there are so many ways to feel fulfilled without compromising the important things in life. Consider all of the following ideas and you will soon be able to find contentment amongst the hectic life of having a newborn.

Pursue Your Passions

You should never give up on pursuing your passions, even when you have had a child. Your career and studies might have to go on hold for a short period of time whilst you adjust to life with a little one, but there is nothing stopping you from achieving your goals eventually. You might want to start with taking an online course which will help you enhance your career one day. Whether it’s an MBA with engineering focus or a business management degree that will help you to start your own company one day, you will be able to find the ideal solution for you, without compromising on the important time with your new baby.

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Reconnect with Friends

When you have a child it is very easy to lose touch with people who were once very important to you. Reconnecting with your friends and maintaining those strong relationships is very important for your own sanity. You will regret ignoring your best friend for the first few years of your child’s life because one day you might really need to lean on them for support. Schedule regular catch ups with your close companions and you will never feel out of the loop or lonely.

Take Care of Yourself

Find little pockets of time throughout the day to give yourself that little bit of tender loving care. Whether it’s a hot bubble bath whilst the baby is sleeping or you meditate for half an hour first thing in the morning, there are so many ways to practise self-care. These small moments are precious and will help you to keep your sanity during a hectic day. A pamper session once a month will also help you to feel fabulous.

Find the Perfect Balance

Whatever your personal goals are, you should always strive for the perfect balance. You can do it all, whether you’re chasing a career whilst taking care of a baby or furthering your studies in between motherhood. Find an equilibrium that helps you to conquer all the elements that you love and you will always be content in your life.

Although your little one means the world to you, you must never forget about yourself and what you want to achieve in life. As long as you strike a balance between the two you will always be happy and comfortable with all of your decisions in life.

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Prompt – Writers Quote Challenge

Bernadette, Joan, and I invite you to join in on our blogging event called The Writer’s Quote Challenge.  We are looking for one more host/hostess to join in the fun.  So if you would like to pick up the challenge of hosting, just let one of us know.invitation-shel-silverstein

For this week’s prompt, here’s my offering:

The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking. Robert H Schuller

Never let the sun set on those dreams

even in the twilight of your days,

rather, let the moon shine on them,

casting them into beautiful pearls;

for your vintage collection.

I had a conversation last week with a friend who’s clocking 50 next month and during our talk, she expressed some disappointment for not having pursued her academics a bit further.

Now she just feels that she’s too old (especially back home in Nigeria) where she laughingly said that she would probably end up being the grandma of the class of young adults.

I told her that if she really wanted to do so, irrespective of age, she should go ahead and find something suitable to do at her own pace, after all, she’s not in competition with anyone.

Besides, the older she gets the more likely it is that her regrets will grow deeper.

I ruminated over this conversation for several days because as I spoke to her, my mind centered on some aspirations of mine that have been in the cooler for a bit due to family exigencies.

Am I ready to toss them over because I feel that I’m getting too old to go back to school? I don’t think so.

Those dreams that are within our reach should not be left to die irrespective of age because age is simply a convenient and lame excuse.

I look forward to reading your contributions.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Tuesdays Trickles – My thinking Corner

Every Tuesday, I share snippets of thoughts that I call ‘My Thinking Corner.’

I would like to invite you to participate. The challenge is quite simple. You can check this link for more details.

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When we were young we were full of ambition, dreams, and drive, but when we get to a certain age there’s the tendency to let go of our deep desires, which gives way to the need to just get along with living and paying the bills. We unconsciously tell our minds that we are too old to pursue certain dreams.

This creates a chasm of dissatisfaction deep inside anyone who has found themselves in such a position and it just never goes away no matter how much effort is made to mask such desires.

When we realize that our destiny lies in our hands through our thinking; when we realize that so long as we still inhabit our bodies and notwithstanding the fact that we grow older, that as long as we’re mentally, physically and spiritually able, we can still pursue some of those dreams that gave us bright eyes and lit up our hearts.

I’ve seen people obtain degrees in their old age, change careers or start a business late in life. Never stop dreaming. Never stop pursuing your dreams.

Deb sends in inspiring words of wisdom. Take a peek 🙂

Jacqueline


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What Are You Afraid Of?…

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What are you afraid of?

Are you afraid that you might prove the inner voice of fear wrong and frighten yourself by succeeding?

There is nothing to fear in your pursuits, but everything to gain.

If you pause to listen to the silence within, there is teeny-weeny voice that nudges you in the direction to take in your aspirations and then there is also the other louder voice in the cacophony of voices telling you not to do it.

That loud voice saying not to do it is the voice of fear and it is just our self-imposed limitations. How do you know?

Strip it of all make-up and take a hard look. There is most probably no substance to its cacophony. Everyone has this voice of fear. The only difference in each person is how strong or how weak the voices within them are.

The strength of the voice depends on how fat we have been feeding the crouching, loud monster.

If we have been giving in to all its wimpy excuses, reasoning and rationalizing, it sucks up all our energy, festers and grows fatter than anything, that it would eventually dominate the poor weak voice of Will who is suffering from the malnutrition of our thoughts.

When we refuse and fail to feed our fear, it starves to death. It simply shrivels. Fear does not require so much to balloon out of proportion. Just a little pampering and even though he might look like a stumpy dwarf, he becomes a dominant giant.

I have chosen to see fear – please note that there is a difference between danger from a real situation that can be grievously harmful and worthless fear of progress which emanates from our minds – in a positive light and not in a negative connotation.

I choose to see my fear of anything that I aspire to, as a weak link that needs to be strengthened.

I choose to see fear as the choice that I can make. It’s growth is dependent on me, so it is quite unfortunate for it. My Will is simply going to grow into that of a Giants.

What about you? Are you ready to starve your fears and feed your will to wade forward?

I shall leave you with these quotes:

‘When fear comes knocking at your door, send faith to answer.’ Joyce Meyer

‘Fight your fears and you will be in a battle forever. Face your fears and you will be free forever.’ Lucas Jonkman.

‘Everything you want is on the other side of fear.’ Jack Canfield.

A while ago Perfect The Days, invited me to participate in a quote challenge but my posting calendar has been full. So here it is. I thank you for inviting me to partake in the 3 days 3 quotes challenge.

I would like to nominate the following bloggers to participate in the quote challenge. No pressure at all. I know how inundating things can get on a daily basis.

The rules are:

  1. Post 3 Quotes on 3 consecutive days.
  2. Thank the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 3 other bloggers on each day of challenge.

Carlos of Thoughts of a train wrecked pineapple.

Jishnu

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© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha