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What About You? Affirmation Challenge Day 11

My goals may look far-fetched, but every tiny step I take each day will surely get me there. 

Creating a long checklist of unattainable to-do’s is the quickest way to making sure that the do’s don’t get done. Better to have two do’s and to get them done. Jacqueline

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P.S. If you wish to join this positive affirmation challenge running for 90 days, please add your quote to the comments and each day, I’ll share everyone’s quote with their links.



What About You? Affirmation Challenge Day 3

‘Each day I will live my life in alignment with my life’s purpose bringing fulfilment and joy to everything that I do.’ Jacqueline

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Living On Purpose, A Life of Purpose,

Excellent Quotes From Yesterday:

Bella: I am a peaceful and contented Soul. I am Calm, Still, and Happy. I am Whole and Healthy. I have the courage to face all situations. I can do this. www.thoughtsnlifeblog.com

Bernadette: Thankfulness is the soil in which joy thrives.

Ksbeth: gratitude always.

Mandibelle “So fill your heart with what’s important, and be done with all the rest.” Perhaps, we can choose our focus in life, and choose what we take to heart. Those things that hurt us or are not worth our time, should not be our goal to fix, change, or dwell on. Instead, we must focus on those things that better ourselves, our loved ones and families — things and thoughts that better the world. Forget the non-issues, or things we can’t control, that make us miserable and upset for no significant reason.”

BellyBytes: And the sun is always shining out there somewhere. So I won’t let the greyness get me down.

Marcellina Oparaoji “Things never go the way you expect them to. That’s both the joy and frustration in life. I’m finding as I get older that I don’t mind, though. It’s the surprises that tickle me the most, the things you don’t see coming.”

― Michael Stuhlbarg

P.S. If you wish to join this positive affirmation challenge running for 90 days, please add your quote to the comments and each day, I’ll share everyone’s quote with their links.

What About You? Affirmation Challenge Day 2

Today, I’m blessed with a sound mind. I’m filled with love in my heart for myself and for others. Today, I make an effort to appreciate something about every person that I interact with.Image result for pinterest quotes on love

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Excellent Quotes From Yesterday:

From Raili at Soul Gifts: Here’s my quote for today. I let Louis Hay’s book of affirmations fall open and this is what I got – “I allow love to flow freely. My supply of love is endless.”

From E Leukhardtblog “Life is a roller-coaster. There are ups, there are downs. But you always end up relieved and smiling. Hold on to the safety rail so you can always be smiling. “

From Mandibelle: “Love her but leave her wild” – by Atticus. This one has stuck with me awhile, and when I thought about it I concluded that to be loved but yet “wild” to be our natural self, and not have to be “tamed” or trapped by another, is a good goal in relationships and friendships. Choosing to be tamed by someone you love such as the fox in ‘the little prince,’ is one thing. But having a choice and even finding that within being tamed, you can still be wild and not have to hide your true self is important. To be loved for your wildness — your flaws and your good qualities is the best kind of love. It’s a love that doesn’t control each other or defines each other in a narrow box but allows each person to grow and be themselves within relationships, It forgives and doesn’t try to make someone be who they are not. It’s loving without a need to dictate one’s lover or friend’s behaviour and choices.

From Susieshy45: You are your own best friend- is my quote for today. You know what is best for you. While others are good in the physical sense, no human being can be 100% for you as you yourself.

and a couple of my lovely friends on Facebook joined in:

From Marcellina Oparaoji: Here’s is mine. I so believe in this:

“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.” ― Martha Washington

From Chandrima Chatterjee

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P.S. If you wish to join this positive affirmation challenge running for 90 days, please add your quote to the comments and each day, I’ll share everyone’s quote with their links.

I’m Every Woman! Breaking The Fashion Mold and Mindset – Personal

A journey of self-discovery is a continuous affair that may sometimes come with the discomfort of stretching one’s boundaries, but the elation derived from the success of breaking these boundaries is worth the discomfort.picsart_10-17-09-43-231

Earlier in the year, my decision was to keep pushing myself to step up and dare to be different. Daring to be different to me means not settling for less but to keep aspiring and putting in my best. I’ve realized that once a mind opens up to such thoughts, life presents the playing field.

Sometime in July, I saw a call for action in the newspaper inviting interested people to audition for the opportunity to model at a fashion show and my interest was certainly piqued. After quelling the initial butterflies in my stomach, I dashed off an email to the organizers of FFA – Fashion For All.

A part of my brain was praying that they shouldn’t respond so that I would chicken out but lo and behold, they responded and invited me to the audition.

Yours truly Jacqueline built up all the imaginable excuses – valid and not so valid – within me. I told myself that I am too old, that models come in rail thin sizes, that they are probably only looking for Asian, Far-East, and European looks. Just think of the excuse, I had it, however, the niggling voice that pushes me wouldn’t let me rest, so I went for the audition.

Two weeks later I received a pleasant phone call that I had been selected alongside 30 other participants and to cut a long story short, we started rigorous and interesting training sessions that took place in the evenings after work hours.

This exposure has shown me sides of myself that astound me. In me, I’ve found facets of every woman. I realize that failure is truly for want of trying and that most times our fear which stems from being judged by others holds us back, forgetting that the people we face are human like we are and all have their own burden of insecurities to deal with.

The wonderful organizers of Fashion for All did a fantastic job and pulled off a successful show. I daresay that all those who participated in this event went away the better for it. I gained friends, laughter, and limelight and I must express my appreciations to Zareen Khan of W2W, The Founder of FFA and her team. To my fellow models ( yes we’ve earned the title) I wish you all the best as you reach for the stars in your endeavours.

The best things in life are yet to come for those who believe and while you are searching for these best things, embrace yourself and your curves because your beauty has no boundaries. Love who you are in totality and know that your age does not define nor limit you. Stand tall in quelling those niggling thoughts of doubt that gets in the way of living your dreams or aspiring for more.

Just walk your ramp wherever it may be.

Below is a gallery of some of the photos that were taken before and during the event. For more photos, you can check out  W2W FACEBOOK page.

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What Are You Afraid Of?…


What are you afraid of?

Are you afraid that you might prove the inner voice of fear wrong and frighten yourself by succeeding?

There is nothing to fear in your pursuits, but everything to gain.

If you pause to listen to the silence within, there is teeny-weeny voice that nudges you in the direction to take in your aspirations and then there is also the other louder voice in the cacophony of voices telling you not to do it.

That loud voice saying not to do it is the voice of fear and it is just our self-imposed limitations. How do you know?

Strip it of all make-up and take a hard look. There is most probably no substance to its cacophony. Everyone has this voice of fear. The only difference in each person is how strong or how weak the voices within them are.

The strength of the voice depends on how fat we have been feeding the crouching, loud monster.

If we have been giving in to all its wimpy excuses, reasoning and rationalizing, it sucks up all our energy, festers and grows fatter than anything, that it would eventually dominate the poor weak voice of Will who is suffering from the malnutrition of our thoughts.

When we refuse and fail to feed our fear, it starves to death. It simply shrivels. Fear does not require so much to balloon out of proportion. Just a little pampering and even though he might look like a stumpy dwarf, he becomes a dominant giant.

I have chosen to see fear – please note that there is a difference between danger from a real situation that can be grievously harmful and worthless fear of progress which emanates from our minds – in a positive light and not in a negative connotation.

I choose to see my fear of anything that I aspire to, as a weak link that needs to be strengthened.

I choose to see fear as the choice that I can make. It’s growth is dependent on me, so it is quite unfortunate for it. My Will is simply going to grow into that of a Giants.

What about you? Are you ready to starve your fears and feed your will to wade forward?

I shall leave you with these quotes:

‘When fear comes knocking at your door, send faith to answer.’ Joyce Meyer

‘Fight your fears and you will be in a battle forever. Face your fears and you will be free forever.’ Lucas Jonkman.

‘Everything you want is on the other side of fear.’ Jack Canfield.

A while ago Perfect The Days, invited me to participate in a quote challenge but my posting calendar has been full. So here it is. I thank you for inviting me to partake in the 3 days 3 quotes challenge.

I would like to nominate the following bloggers to participate in the quote challenge. No pressure at all. I know how inundating things can get on a daily basis.

The rules are:

  1. Post 3 Quotes on 3 consecutive days.
  2. Thank the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 3 other bloggers on each day of challenge.

Carlos of Thoughts of a train wrecked pineapple.



© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

DeTerMinAtioN is our Motto….let us sing!

singing in school

As school kids, we matched in tandem to our classes from assembly singing or should I say yelling a song:

Determination is our motto, Determination, Determination!

Repetitively and in staccato voices too!

No doubt we had no idea what exactly we were singing about. We just SANG happily 🙂

Now as I sit here, in an attempt to drum reluctant and difficult words into a story that does not want to be told, the word Determination echoes in my mind and then…it becomes crystal clear beyond literal levels that:

Someone’s Determination

Is that mental animation

that pushes their bands of resistance

From mundane levels of coexistence

With consistent persistence

To livelier edges of existence

And better culmination

Of one’s life’s narration

There you have it. My very own new definition of determination.Determination

Let me now sing in a hush tone: determination, is my motto, determination, determination 😉

Have a blessed day. 

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha