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Daddy Dearest…

first love daddy

On Father’s day, I cannot help but dwell heavily on thoughts of you, though I am happy to say to you daddy, that today, my thoughts are light and I am not tearing up. I only feel pangs to hug you one more time, just one more time.

I may not have told you as much as I would have wished to tell you; when you could hear me say them:

That your unquestioned love, the investment of your time and support has been the greatest gift you ever gave to me.

I think of you: that Warmhearted, God fearing, Generous, Dark and Handsome gentleman that ushered me into life.

From my tot-hood now to full fledged adulthood, you still remain a solid anchor in my life.

The firm upbringing and your sage counsel have stood in good stead in your absence.

You encouraged me to be the best that I could be, standing like a beacon of hope, guidance, strength and humility.

An unassuming man of simple tastes and a humble background, you taught me the indubitable value of honesty and integrity, the tenets of hard work, discipline, generosity and compassion.memory bank

To you I owe my love for books, music and dancing, you saturated my being with stories and melodies from far and wide as I grew up.

You taught me never to give up on my dreams and to appreciate those simple things in life which tends to be overlooked.

As I watch mummy struggle to get on without “Nkem”, I realize that we took so many things for granted, that even though it is in man’s nature to die, I always thought secretly, that you would always be there and indeed you are.

Though the light of your candle on Earth may have burnt out, it sure still shines through us that are still behind.

Happy Fathers day dearest daddy. I love you with all my heart.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Carve your niche…

walk in your own prints

Do not accept to be just a copy,

Of someones original.

Neither should you be a lost voice,

In a crowded room.

Carve your niche,

In your own little way, in your own little space.

Because you are you,

And the you that you are,

Is an original.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Listen to this Don Williams. One of my favorite oldies.

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Your eyes…Your ears…Your heart…

Eyes-Beauty of the soul

Feed your eyes with the right things, they are a door to your inner self.

Open your ears and listen well to ethical things,

Lest your mind becomes consumed by issues that don’t edify

Renew your heart so that your transformation comes from within to without.

Use your lips for utterances that speak for truth.

If you can do these little bits

You just might see those changes that you wish to see in the World.mindset quote

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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A little pick me up..

Goodreads

A brisk walk and twenty minutes later, I am there. My nostrils are assailed with the mingling rich aroma of fresh percolated coffee, the wafting sweet smell of baked goods, the unique smell of brand new books and magazines and the fragrance of pine which I suspect comes from an automated air-freshener dispenser; they all make an interesting medley of flavors.

There is a quiet din of light music, which oscillates from jazz to soul and country melodies. People are seated on the chairs provided around the cafe side, browsing through glossies or working quietly on their laptops.Yes you

Yes! There is free WiFi, an icing on the cake. Sometimes you are hard pressed to find an available seat, but by tailgating a woman and her child who are gathering their stuff, I quickly occupy the vacant spot.

The soft hum of human voices are muted at mid level (I love human voices), at one end you hear the littlewoman-reading bits of broken conversations of other occupiers, the rich chuckle of the young lady twirling a strand of her glossy locks whilst carrying on a conversation on her phone and the din of the cashiers till as the young Barista attends to customers.

Today, I choose to imbibe a Caramel Macchiato and munch on roasted almonds. I steer clear of those delicious cheese factory cakes; they are sinful and an eyeful. Just a look adds a few inches to my hips and my scale cries along with me 😉

Settling down with my carafe of special brew, and several publications, I flip through with ease, emptying my mind as I feed on the information contained within. A chuckle, a sigh, a hiss and various expressions that run through me when I read compelling, sensational or down right funny articles. I am a very expressive person (a poker face, have I not).

After stimulating my mental storage, I flip open my notebook, and scribble, scribble, scribble. My fingers rapidly processing my thoughts until they have been emptied of their burgeoning contents.

I idle through the aisles of beautiful writings of authors known and unknown, touching, feeling with my senses, assimilating and articulating different discourse.

fairytalesI am refreshed and sated. I walk away clutching a brand new sensation. A good feeling of well-being pervades my being. I never walk away empty. Its another good day.

Tell me, what’s your own pick me up?

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

nota bene: Read a book today. You might learn a thing or two.

 

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Tips to avoid the pitfalls of Multilevel marketing business…

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Different marketing schemes sprout up everyday with their endless promises of bogus unverified gains to its prospective recruits.

Undisputed, some reputed multilevel marketing business models have been successful in sustaining their business as well as delivering on a percentage of promised gains to its recruits, but in a lot of instances, other marketing schemes adopting this method as well have turned out to be scams.

One major challenge is the fact that a pyramid scheme which is illegal and fraudulent can easily camouflage as a multilevel marketing business.chasing-money

Pyramid schemes are defined as: An illegal investment scam based on a hierarchical setup. New recruits make up the base of the pyramid and provide the funding, or so-called returns, given to the earlier investors/recruits above.

  • A pyramid scheme is an unsustainable business model that involves promising participants payment or services, primarily for enrolling other people into the scheme, rather than supplying any real investment … Wikipedia
In quick pursuance of the ever elusive money, a lot of people fall prey to the scams of those who have perfected a system of depriving them of their hard earned funds.
No doubt, some people have made money through these schemes, but based on inquiries made, those who have walked away empty handed, out-number those who have made gains.
There are four main difference between a multilevel marketing company and a pyramid scheme:
  • Members at any level of a multilevel marketing model should theoretically be able to make income through the company’s products and/or services without having to sign up any new members.
  • Another difference is that members of any level in a multilevel can earn more than the people who signed them up depending on how much work they put in, which comes from sales of products or services.
  • You are not obligated to pay out a certain amount of money every month in order to keep your account with the company live, but in some cases, you are required to buy certain amount of inventory within the year.
  • There is little or no joining fee, and sometimes the fees represent the products that you purchase.
Before taking your decision, consider these tips:more money
  • Ask yourself if you are cut out for that particular type of business? Are you an extrovert/people person, willing to go and talk to people about the business if need be?
  • Are you prepared to work for that income? Like every other business, your income is dependent on your ability to sell or achieve results. Any smooth sales pitch promises made to you about making money for doing nothing is too good to be true.
  • Delve as much as possible into the history of the marketing scheme you are interested in. Check out the fine print/get as much information as you can. If your recruiter is unable to provide such vital factual information as maybe required, be skeptical. Do not rely only on the slippery talk of the representative; he is doing his job; do yours.
  • Always do a cost/benefit analysis. Take into cognizance all possible costs associated with signing up against all the potential benefits to you. If the benefits outweigh the costs, you may want to sign-up and try to make some money from the company, but if your potential loss outweighs the gain, then you might consider backing out.
  • Do you have the required funds to keep servicing the business even when you are not making money?
  • What is your exit strategy when you are no longer interested in pursuing that business?
  • How much have would you have lost in the venture if it fails to achieve your set objectives; can you afford to let go of said funds?
  • Pay particular attention over insistence for your immediate commitment with the concept that the rate you are offered is at a discounted/best rate and would change by the following day or week.
  • By applying these guidelines, you should be able to tell to differentiate between the two types of schemes. Some pyramid schemes are very cleverly modeled to cause misconception. If you discover that you cannot seem to make a conclusive decision as to what the company is all about, it is always best to exercise caution and avoid being a victim of scam.

In exercising your desire to own your own business or to be an independent consultant, remember the Caveat Emptor ”buyer beware”.

I hope this helps somebody. Thank you for reading and do pass it forward. Some information are meant to be shared.dough

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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I testify…Beautiful People, Better World.

Sometimes in our consistent flow through life, we meet people who for a brief moment in time leave positive indelible marks on our hearts, minds and in our life and though that moment was not long enough to savor a deeper union, they forever occupy a special place of treasure.

Such people make you feel warm in their presence because of the warmth they radiate themselves.

I met such women.

I met the Texas Multicultural Women.

These are Ordinary people aiming for Extraordinary results.

They are Agents and Catalysts of positive change.

These group of dynamic, professional women, from all walks of life and different nationalities give freely of their time; they lend their ears and give their wisdom; they give freely from their pockets, helping to lift others along the way.

They are embodiments of beautiful minds and souls.

Are you in Houston, Texas or will you be sojourning in these neck of the woods in the near future?

For some of us who have experienced relocating from one city to the other without having it all figured out, it is always a welcome relief to  meet helping hands and smiling faces.

They are your reliable go-to group over here from challenges associated with relocation such as real estate, medical, insurance, scholarship, volunteering, life coaching, PR and so much more.

To Texas Multicultural Women, as I take a brief hiatus away from this axis, I pray that the coast of this group will be expanded beyond foreseeable horizons. Once a Texas Multicultural Woman, always a Texas multicultural woman.

Let us reach out and touch, and make this World a better place one person at a time.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

You can check them out on Facebook: Texas Multicultural Women, email: texasmulticultural@gmail.com, http://www.texasmulticulturalwomen.org

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Today I pray for you…

Praying woman

Today I pray for you..
I wish that you will find peace and healing as you hurt in any way.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that you will find strength to hold on,
And abundant Grace to see you through.

Today I pray for you..
I pray for a consistent hedge of protection,
around you and yours, especially in these confusing times.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that you experience mercy, where it is needed

Today I pray for you..
I pray that you will find succor,
Even from the most unexpected channels.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that your heart and mind,
May be generous in your dealings with mankind.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that your faith and hope remains undiminished,
Even when all seems lost,
Just a sliver of faith and hope will suffice.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that your endeavors are met with success.

Today I pray for you..
I pray that all is well with you,
Even as you struggle to believe.

Today I pray for you..

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Photo credit: God Knows my heart-Celia Stevens

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TIP FOR TODAY..

 

 

love quote

Love is cheaper than Hate

Buy it often

Its worth the bargain.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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1 For The Teachers….

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Thank you may seem like such a simple word, yet it is a word that has the immense opportunity to carry a whole lot of meaning, appreciation, gratitude and it sometimes represents plain old-fashioned politeness.

From the very moment a person learns to talk, they are presumably taught how to say thank you. After a while it becomes an automated action, that we sometimes fail to know the value and then take a whole lot of things for granted without giving thanks.

School is out for summer holidays and as I watched my youngest hug his teacher goodbye, and told her how he would miss her, that little gesture spoke volumes to me.

At the start of school year, we had just moved to this vicinity/school district and I was a bit anxious as a parent as to how well my kids will adjust to their new schools and curricula, especially coming from British oriented school curricula to American curriculum. All through this school session, I had listened to their narrations about each school day while holding my breath.

At the onset, we floundered a little bit and agreeably some days were perplexing but we quickly caught on with the way the land lay on this side, and not one day did my children express a negative feedback or not feel like going to school. My worries about their adjustment and making friends soon turned to immense relief and gratitude.

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After you as their parents, their teachers are poised to be the next most influential person in your child’s life and they are also responsible in imparting some of life’s most important lessons and social skills which are not detailed in the syllabus.

I have three children who are very active and there are days I wonder how a teacher manages to keep a bunch of fifteen to twenty-five children attentive for six to eight hours without pulling out all their hair in exasperation. I came to realize that the teachers must really enjoy teaching. They must enjoy having their students around them and imparting selflessly on these younger ones who look up to them for direction.

Most of the time, they go above and beyond their call of duty in the education of our children.

To the Amanda Spiegelman’s, Carolina Loria, Dawn Stevens,  Haley Bassett, Gbemi Olowookere’s and the teachers of this World who give selflessly, saying thank you is hardly enough, yet this is one of the means  to appreciate your kindness, support, patience and understanding.

In my place it is said that “we should keep our eyes open to our little mercies, because the man who forgets to be thankful has fallen asleep in life”, thus in my indigenous Ibo language, I will say, “Ji sie ike, dalu nu”. Well done and thank you all.

Some might wave it off and say you are just doing your jobs, but I firmly believe that you are doing so much more. You are helping to mold the future generation. Keep up the good work.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Don’t steal the shine….

frog relaxing

Do not bother stealing my shine or anyone’s own, ‘cos it most definitely won’t fit you.

Begin to think more about your possibilities and dwell less on the impossibilities.

Surround yourself with positive minds and props that bolster your efforts.

Let go of all negative energy that drains your radiance.

Learn to dream, because those who don’t dream,

aspire for nothing.

Keep your eyes on your bigger picture,

and as you create the lines and curves,

even though it might seem to be in bits and pieces,

soon enough, your picture will emerge and,

your lines will fall in the right places.

Remember,

Your success should never be measured with a scale that belongs to another,

Because their scale just might be broken.

Besides, we are all running different and individual races.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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