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Boobs, Breasts and Bras…

Yes, you read the topic ‘boobs, breasts and bras,’ correctly. This is a little chit-chat about your bosom buddies and they are nothing to fear or dread. Being a woman, you can’t disassociate from parts of you that accentuate your femininity and if you’re like most women, you know your breasts intimately – their ups and downs, how they fit into your bras, the way they look in certain dresses, what they feel like at different times of the month and perhaps if you are getting on in age, the changes they go through as the law of gravity helps them head downhill.

Interestingly, it took me getting to the ripe old age of my 30’s to get comfortable with my gals, and I attribute our delay in getting to know each other well to two main things: frustrating bra shopping escapades and lack of better insight on how to find the right kind of bras for me.

As odd as it might sound, choosing the right bra for your shape and size isn’t always that easy, and sadly, most women find the experience to be such an ordeal that sometimes after scouring through dozens of bras, sweating, huffing and puffing in the changing room, you end up leaving the store with nothing at all, or sometimes you leave with a bra that’s entirely wrong for you, which I presume is worse.

For those of us who have been well endowed in the upper chambers of boobs department, finding comfortable, yet beautiful and efficient bras that help to support our buddies and boost their confidence is truly a path to wellness and peace of mind. I vividly recall my last months’ foray into a well-known top brand store that I shall keep a secret, every bra – even though they were meant to be my attributed size – left me thinking that I had supplementary breasts and by the end of the frustrating escapade I’m not sure who felt more pained between the attendant and me. The whole experience left me feeling like an elephant trying to wear fripperies and negligees and I couldn’t help venting a little on my Facebook update.

Following my little update, a friend sent me the image below which not only made me chuckle, but made me realize that the journey of the bras is a common denominator among women and with my tongue in my cheek, I dare ask, which illustration matches your predicament?

I have reached an age where I am no longer going to part with my money for flimsies that don’t uphold me no matter how pretty they look. In search of great, high quality bras with good support, I have abandoned those infernal underwire cups that most times leave you feeling pinched, caged in and out of breath. Let the truth be told, at a certain age, the law of gravity brings the perkiness of your boobs down by several notches and though you don’t want to look ridiculous trying to push your boobs up to the high heavens, you equally don’t want them dangling to your knees. What you want is the right upliftment of comfy, beautiful and supportive bras that will treat your bosom buddies right.

Quick Tips on How to Make Bra Shopping Less of a Pain

  • It pays to know your size. To find your bust size, measure around your ribs just under your breasts and measure around the fullest part of your breasts. Subtract the band measurement (ribs) from the bust measurement to get your cup size.
  • Make sure that your entire breasts are in the cup, not spilling over or to the sides.
  • Check that the straps are not digging into or sliding off your shoulders.
  • The centerpiece between the two cups should lay flat on your sternum.
  • The thicker the band, the more support you will get.
  • Be patient and have fun with it.
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I’m Judging Your Feet…

The hurried albeit elegantly measured click-clack across the room drew eyes’ to ‘her’ feet clad in beautiful, sexy orange coloured sling-backs before they rose to her face. In a bid to write a shoe post I have spent several days unwittingly and unabashedly peeking at people’s feet and hers set the stream of thought flowing.  I  took a second look and saw the little designer sign which subtly announced the expensive brand. In the same flow of thinking, I couldn’t help but wonder how many shoes I could buy for the price of that one.

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A quick analysis of her appearance spoke of a smart, fashion conscious, go-for-it, dry wit, confident and ‘maybe’ fun-loving lady. When we look at people, we do a quick summation and then categorize them by their looks; what they wear, either from top to bottom or from bottom to top. We all do this subconsciously.

This silent assessment decides our expectations of a person and it takes the maturity of the mind to know that the outward packaging never truly depicts the inner package even if the outward appearance might give off tell-tale signs about someone. In many instances, especially in recent times, I’ve met expensively dressed people who were simply arrogant airheads, and I’ve also had the most exciting, thought-provoking encounters from the least expected quarters.

Back to those shoes. I love shoes. Flats, heels, boots, mules, sandals, ballet, platforms, wedges, stilettos, and all the styles in-between, I love them and I know most women do. Some women actually have shoe addiction that if shoes could be banked, they would fetch a fortune with their collection. As we grow older some of us we are wise enough to stop squeezing our feet into shoes that pinch and to buy sensible ones. My days of running in nail thin heels are now fast fading and rather than risk falling off a pair of flimsy spindly heels and breaking my neck, I invest my bucks on comfortable shoes that can walk the mile.

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Without any doubt, your shoes complement your dressing ‘cos they have a way of accentuating your personality and mood. In my own case, I love vibrant colours and I am not hesitant to wear a coloured pair of shoes.   Red says I’m feeling girly and flirty. My black pumps are business mode activated and the ballet flats indicate that I want to feel comfortable ‘cos it’s a long day ahead. The leopard print loafers and blue Nike’s also say it’s adventure day…anything can happen. My deep blue heels make me feel like royalty…

I am yet to own expensive pairs of Louboutin’s, Manolo’s or Jimmy Choo’s because I simply can’t afford them and even when I have the funds, I honestly doubt that I would want to spend such ginormous amount of money on a pair of shoes that I can only wear for a limited amount of time.

Call me cheap and cheerful, baby you just might be right. I believe in value for my hard-earned money. I believe in bargains and I happily hunt for them. I have a pair of black mules and this dog-eared faithful has served me way beyond the princely sum of $60 spent on purchasing it. I hope you are not judging me by my shoes ‘cos right now, my feet are bare as I earth them on the cool marble floor whilst tapping away on my laptop.

Come take a ride with me…Every day beautiful people # 43

“Fun is good.” Dr. Seuss

Whichever way you look at life, time will still fly past whether you are enjoying it or not, so, the choice is yours.

My choice is to live and enjoy each day to the best of my ability.

What’s your choice?

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Enchant me with your expressive eyes, that crinkles in laughter as you speak

that I may find myself ever caught between,

the reflections of your pupils and there shall I remain.

*an excerpt of my poem*

Where to my lady? Every day beautiful people #42

“The World is full of wonderful things you haven’t seen yet. Don’t ever give up on the chance of seeing them.” J.K. Rowling

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Naturally, my eyes are easily drawn to vivid colours. Purple is a beautiful, rich and trendy colour.

I wonder where she’s off to with her lovely purple box which incidentally matches her pillow and scarf?

Knowing myself, I would have asked her, alas, sitting behind the wheel and waiting for the light to change denied me the pleasure 😉

It’s Friday this way. Have a great weekend ahead.

Be good to yourself. Blessed be.

Jacqueline


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

The air’s so crispy

The birds are quite chirpy

The magic of nature abounds

As I imbibe all the sounds.

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*an excerpt of my poem*

Hello Yellow!…Every day beautiful people 40

“How wonderful yellow is. It stands for the Sun.” Vincent Van Gogh

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One cheerful colour that I like. It perks up my mood and yes, it makes me feel bright 🙂


Below is my first just published Poetry Book “Out of the silent breath” which is available on Amazon and Smashwords.

When you buy my book, you support me in an invaluable manner.

Out of the silent breath

Never leave me lonely

With words left unsaid

You walk away into the dark

Like a mist, that melts away.