I deliberately did not use the word ‘Suicide,’ just in case you are wondering. I chose murder, for those who take steps to snuff out the essence of who they are in an attempt to replace themselves with who they are not.
It’s a shame to see people suffering setbacks and deep insecure troubled lives due to lack of sense of self and identity crisis and it seems this situation is getting worse in recent times.
They have lost all sense of belonging and have forgotten that they are not mistakes, but are unique, wonderfully made individuals with purpose and a lot to offer.
Some spend their entire lives apologizing for being themselves, the colour of their skin, their background, physique, financial state, religious inclination, gender or physical disabilities and a whole lot of unmentioned issues.
Due to these things, they feel pressured to please and change and fit in until they are totally confused, depressed, oppressed and demoralized.
You owe no one apologies for who you are.
You must own who you are and cease trying to be every woman or man, thus developing confused multiple personality syndrome and having deeper issues.
It’s okay not to be liked by everybody, but the most important person that should like you is you!
You are a hero within yourself and all you need is to surround yourself with the people who love and accept you as you are, and rise to the person that you are meant to be.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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Amazing truths. Great post to let people know it’s okay to be themselves, whoever that is.
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Very okay. Thank you Mandi 🙂
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Yes, learn it early, don’t spend years trying to be someone they (whoever they are) wanted…..and as for apologizing, be done with that…..I like the humorous side saying I dont have a big enough box of crayons to draw them a picture 😀 I am me so you be you 😀
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Exactly. Someone has to be themselves. I am too old to fit myself into being another person 😉
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I grew up in a family system that allowed me no individual identity. We were a dysfunctional blob. I see many people suffering from the same sick programming. I see a governmental system that is the same. My way out started with finding my identity in Christ and redefining all the bad information I received in childhood. There is no greater gift than self-acceptance and no more noble journey than that of becoming the person one is meant to be. Amen, Jacqueline.:0) Without healthy individuals the community is doomed.
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So sad and very true. One of the best things in Christ is that you get to know who you are and that you are a Royalty.
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Then we will cast our crowns at the feet of our Savior and King, as we embrace our royal siblings in equal value.:0) I dream of a Kingdom of pure Conscience where all people are equal and free…
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Some very wise words indeed Jacqui. We should never try to be someone that we are not.
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It’s a pure waste of valuable time and potentials are lost by doing so.
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It is a bit unnerving to see people try to be who they are not. They stick out like a sore thumb because they were never meant to be a carbon copy but their unique, individual selves. Great advice Jackie.
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A crazy phenomenon that I fail to understand. Thank you Tasha.
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We are all unique, and in this uniqueness lies great potentials. Being oneself is being real, and only in that state can one truly love oneself and utilize one’s potentials. Great post!
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True word. Potentials are lost in the pursuit of naught.
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🙂
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Absolutely!
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Thanks dear 🙂
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No apologies for who you are….well said, Jacqueline. 💕
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Thank you Van 🙂
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You always right beautiful blogs Jacquiline! Makes good sense too… If you can’t like yourself, how can you expect others to? I must explore more! I have some catching up to do 🙂
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Enjoy the moments Spartacus. Thank you for coming around 🙂
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Lovely! So encouraging 🙂
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Thank you dear 🙂
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