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Thoughts and Tales…A Lifestyle Blog with a Zing.
When you are committed to doing something, you wait for no one, especially when it’s something that you are meant to do by yourself and for your well being.
Don’t sit waiting for love or life to find you. Go out and get the life and the love will follow.
Sometimes, in order to move on, we need to cease waiting and get going.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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When our minds are fixed on knowledge that is redundant and has gotten us nowhere, we leave no room to expand our minds or understanding.
We don’t know it all. We can never know it all.
For us to learn more than we know, we may have to throw away other preconceived and empty notions that occupy space in our lives.
Even our minds deserve a detox.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Yay! My very first guest post is from Pamela of ‘My money counts – money, modest living and enjoying life.’
I met Pamela in the blogosphere several months ago and I have totally enjoyed our interactions. Her posts are insightful, fact-filled and very hands on approach.
Her witty letter to Debt is a personal relationship with being indebted and how she got out of it. I enjoyed reading it and I am sure that you will 🙂
Dear Debt,
It’s been a roller coaster ride with you, but it’s time we part ways. I don’t know how much more uncertainty I can take from you. You said you would always be there for me. I thought you had my back, but you lied to me.
There were so many secrets and lies you kept from me. How can a relationship grow that is built on lies? Like the time you said you had my back and convinced me to buy my living room furniture on credit. You told me we could afford it. You said we would be ok, so I listened. Or when you told me that you would take care of me once I was done school and encouraged me to spend the little I had and more without giving a second thought. But I am done school now and your words were just empty promises. Where is the help? Where were you when I needed you, debt?
Why am I even surprised? You were never satisfied with what I could give you. You always wanted more and more from me. The more I got for you the more you wanted. I felt like I could never do enough for you. Like the time I got us the big screen T.V and game system, but that wasn’t enough for you. You wanted the new laptop and cell phone too.
Was it ever enough for you? Did I ever make you happy? You used to make me happy. I used to get so excited to see you. We had some of the greatest times together you and I. Like the time we went on the road trip together or bought all those cool things together. You used to whisper sweet nothings in my ear. You had me wrapped around your finger. Then the trips, gifts and promises stopped coming. Then you stopped coming around. Now when I look at you, I can’t trust you anymore. You deceived me…so I am moving on.
I will just come right out and say it, I met someone else. His name is cash and he is so good to me. He never lies to me or deceives me. He always has my back and is satisfied with what I can give him. We are building new memories and going on our own adventures together cash and I.
I want to say, thank you, though because if it wasn’t for you, I would never know how great a healthy relationship could be. Cash is the love of my life and I have you to thank for it.
So long and have a good life. Please change your ways so you don’t mess up the next girl’s life. Oh and don’t forget to lose my number.
Your Ex,
Pamela
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An excerpt about Pamela in her words. She can be contacted through this link: MY MONEY COUNTS.
Hi I’m Pamela. I am 30 years old African Canadian personal finance blogger that likes to help other millennials eliminate their debts. My professional and educational background is in accounting / finance, but I was not always good with my own money. After some life lessons learned, my husband and I embarked in a journey to pay off $120k of debt in 2.5 years. We now live debt free and our building our wealth. This letter is a comical relief on my experience with debt.
If you are interested in guest posts, you can contact me through my contact page on my blog or through this email address: JacquelineObyIkocha@gmail.com
‘The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary.’ Vince Lombardi
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At the market, when I looked at the man and his trolley with the number to advertise his services, I wondered briefly what his life’s dreams were.
Finding resolutions to issue’s requires looking at them from different perspectives.
If a mind is fixated on a thought that rejects other angles of views, chances are that such a view will be skewed as well as myopic.
The mind of a thinking man is expandable beyond our imagination and only limited by the measure of our thinking.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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It’s a natural tendency for us to seek the approval and support of those who we consider our friends and loved ones because no one exists in a vacuum or isolation.
It’s also normal to find that some of those around us may not buy into our dreams or be our cheerleaders. Some will outrightly express their dissension while some may not voice it, but their attitude towards you will show their contrary opinion.
The truth is that the natural inclination of most people is to seek for the difficulties and all the reasons why an aspiration won’t work, before seeking for the possibilities.
One needs to be attuned spiritually to determine whether the criticism or voice of dissension is truly born out of honest conviction and concern for your well-being or whether the naysaying is borne out of envy, automated pessimism.
There is always need to weed out the chaff and keep the wheat. It’s not every opinion that you should pay mind to.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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A quick question, have you ever taken time to ask yourself how much you’ve been robbed over the years, by the act of trying to fit in, trying to please and trying to be who you are not?
This isn’t a sustainable characteristic. It’s very exhausting and self-annihilating.
You can only be the best when you are yourself because being the second best you is not who you are.
A certified true copy can never be the original.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Life is a continuum and as such we are in a constant state of change.
This change should equally apply to the way that we view things.
Are we of such mindsets that are so rigid that they’re as good as being cast in stone?
How enabling has certain ways of thinking been for us?
Could a little tweak in our perspectives bring about better change and expand our horizons?
These are questions that I like to pose often.
What if?
I have found and still finding that sometimes we simply go through the same old, same old automatically that it becomes an ingrained habit.
However, we can rewire our perspectives to see just a little bit more beyond the surface and we will be better off .
©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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The journey of self-help is what it is. SELF-HELP!
We need to take conscious steps ever so often and just be with ourselves, this could mean just a half hour of sitting in quiet reflection and not necessarily in a ritzy place.
Take that time to outline those reminders that your heart and mind should focus on each day.
Starting out might be difficult, but as the days go by, it comes easier with practice.
No guru, expert or counsellor can practice our self-help tactics for us. They would probably give us insights and tell us what to do, however, the work of walking through it still rests on us.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Tomorrow is really not guaranteed any of us and that which we can do today no matter how little it is, is better done and when the following day comes, we do a bit more.
Experience has personally taught me lessons on how we rob ourselves through over-planning, procrastination and assumptions.
The future belongs only to those who live fully in their moments and take charge of each day as it comes.
We all know that the building blocks of a huge monument start with laying its base foundational stones.
So when you don’t put today’s stones in place, how exactly do you plan to get to the tip of that pinnacle?
Like my people would say back home ‘it’s the firewood that you gather during the dry season, that you will use during the rainy season.‘
When you take care of today’s plans, tomorrow’s plan will take care of itself.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
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