To liberate oneself, the need to search out and study all the dark corners of one’s mind and come to terms with what you find is paramount. The question should always be, ‘do I know who I am?’
Without acceptance, one lives in a continued state of denial.
Mama said to me, baby,
in life the rejection that hurts most
is the rejection of self
If others reject you for your differences
make sure that you are
full of self-acceptance.
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Everyone deserves to love and be loved and true love first starts with you.
Loving yourself and accepting that you are whole and worth it, is not being self-centered.
You should know that you are enough without expecting someone else to complete you. It’s a fallacy to anticipate that. No one can complete another.
They can only complement what you already have, thus when you feel inadequate, your sense of inadequacy emanates from within and this is not something that someone else can fix.
What happens when they are no longer there or when they fail to fulfil all your expectations?
How long will someone else have to patch you up?
When will you realise that you are worth loving you for you?
If you are unable to love yourself for your own sake and treat yourself appropriately, then it will be difficult to cascade a non-existent blessing to someone else, for it’s really out of what you’ve got that you can give others.
God’s love is free and without encumbrances.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Arriving at a state of confidence has been a journey of a lifetime for me. False bravado can be easily mistaken for confidence but the difference in the two lies in that one can be likened to a wisp of cloud that fizzles away and the other the formation of a whole sky.
It has been a hard won process of learning to love and accept myself, mistakes, warts and all; not because I am perfect but because I am enough, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, because I am a blessing and not an illusion, because I can and will be.
It hasn’t always been so, but time and grace has made me grow very comfortable in my own skin, able to hold my own fort and sensible enough to know that honesty and integrity makes a wholesome human. Honesty breeds confidence because you can stand tall.
In the process of regeneration, there have been times when I have felt like a fraud.
When I felt like I wasn’t up to snuff and that I was simply putting on a facade, but faith and positive affirmations stood in the gap for me and reminded me that I am what I choose to be, that I should not have fear of being found wanting but to have courage because He is.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
The Daily Post prompt The Great Pretender
Are you full of confidence or have you ever suffered from Imposter Syndrome? Tell us all about it.