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Caught In A Vicious Cycle…

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when she’s set free
she still can’t fly

‘cos she has lost
the sense of her wings

his intriguing web of toxic deceit
is far too captivating.

When I saw the prompt,  a ‘lost friend’  came to my mind. She lives in an abusive marriage ‘physical, verbal and mental.’ Every attempt made to help her has never worked out because, for some reason, she simply loves that toxic relationship and keeps finding her way back to more beatings and abuse. I silently wonder what it is that keeps anyone in such a harmful relationship.

I hope that one day she’ll wake up to the truth and walk away before she and the children are damaged beyond repair. In my opinion, her young children have already been far too exposed to the ugliness and it shows in their constant acting out – the 6-year-old son is constantly hitting his younger sisters and getting into fights in school.

Two nights ago she called me and we chatted in whispers ‘she was hiding in the bathroom,’ to escape his berating, hoping that it will subside. I told her to call the police if it gets bad, but I’m done with getting involved and trying to talk some sense into her or to whisk her away to safety only for her to go crawling back to him within hours. It has become a vicious cycle and I’m weary of such nonsense. Short of cutting off our friendship, I can only lend a listening ear, but I have run out of advice for someone who refuses to hear them. For every possible solution that I proffer, she has more problems to counter them.

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BE CAREFUL! PLEASE, NEVER, NEVER, TOUCH THESE!!!

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I had a recent struggle with malicious attack on my blog that some of you know of and hopefully, when my load is just a little less in the next week or so, I will share the few steps that I followed and the mind-numbing number of emails between myself, google and WordPress before the situation was resolved.

However, I just received a so called email message above from Gmail and my sixth sense simply told me to verify the source, so my verification from WordPress engineers -see discussion thread below – confirms that it’s a phishing mail to harvest your details :/

acquelineobyikocha Hello good morning, this is an emergency please
Mahangu Hi there! What can I help you with?
Mahangu 🙂
jacquelineobyikocha Hello Mahangu
jacquelineobyikocha I just got a funny email alert telling me this
jacquelineobyikocha Hello, We noticed the last document you downloaded, contains a Trojan Virus please follow the link https://formcrafts.com/a/19603 to enable us delete it from your E-MAIL Now. For your safety, We also recommend you format your computer/ Device to further remove any Threat of the virus. Kindest Regards, Gmail! Security Services team
Mahangu Right. You didn’t click that link, did you?
jacquelineobyikocha I believe I did and it wanted me to enter my details and I didn’t
Mahangu Good thinking! That is a “phishing” email, and you can safely ignore it.
Mahangu Gmail, or WordPress.com, or any trustworthy source will never send you a form to enter your account info.
Mahangu They already have it, right? 🙂
jacquelineobyikocha Wow! Can you beat that!
jacquelineobyikocha Good to know. Thank you very much. I will educate some of my readers.
Mahangu Great! 🙂
Mahangu If you think you may have even half entered your account details there though, I would change your real account password.
Mahangu Just to be safe.
jacquelineobyikocha Thank you Mahangu. I just wanted to verify. Do have a good day/afternoon/night etc today
jacquelineobyikocha No I didn’t enter anything but I’ll still go ahead and change my password.

Be very mindful. Secure your passwords, make sure your anti-virus is up-to-date. They are really some malicious people out there.

Be bloggy safe.

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