Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

This is my Hood! Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Hot copious cups of cheap Nescafe wakes up my foggy brain cells. Sometimes, I wonder how on Earth this super machine of the brain functions, with a million thoughts and ideas buzzing in and out at the same time and not combusting. socsbadge2016-17

I have never been able to stay on one singular thought for as long as I can remember and I believe that this frenetic energy of buzzing thoughts increased with adulting, motherhood, wifedom, and my writing life.

Hovering over my shoulder while on the kitchen’s hot plate flipping pancakes, my muse whispers the beginning of a plot that keeps running away from the lines once I sit down to write, my trio are all talking at the same time to me, of course my superpowers enable me to hear each person, resolve their questions, whip up impeccable omelet for dear Himself and commune with my buzzing muse all at the same time.

How on Earth have I managed not to run off with the raggle-taggle band of gypsies to Never, Never Land, where we never grow old, never have to deal with an escape artist of a muse, a demanding brood of hungry children whose bellies seem to gobble the pancakes so fast, yet their pleading eyes’ keep asking for more?

For want of an explanation, I believe it’s because this is my hood, and I’m in charge. Join me for a hot cuppa of cheap coffee 🙂

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

Linda’s prompt for today’s’ SoCS is a to find a word with the two letter ‘ho,’ and I can’t help but slip in a Ho,Ho,Ho, it will soon be Christmas time 😉


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Facing The Screen – Stream of Consciousness Saturday

I think that I may need to look into anti-glare for my laptop screen because it hurts my eyes at times, but I am not going to dwell on that right now ‘cos I’ve got to write in a hurry before I rush off to a last minute dress rehearsals.socsbadge2016-17

The Stream of Consciousness prompt for today, ‘screen’ brings the thought of the fashion show that I am participating in today to my mind.

I am almost as jumpy as a cat and have asked myself a thousand times if I thought through this very well before deciding to jump on a modelling wagon.

There will be lots of paparazzi camera screens capturing our wobbly strut down the ramp for providence and you know the screen of the camera can be merciless in picking up every stumble that you make.

Now wish me luck as I put on my game face to face all the intruding screens and hope to walk a straight line without melting into a nervous puddle. I will share my daring venture with you once I survive it 😉

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Coined Words of A Writer – Streams of Consciousness Saturday.

‘When you give a beggar a coin, you buy him a meal for the day.’ I guess this saying would have been applicable in the past. Gone are the days when a coin could fetch you something worthwhile. Now a beggar needs as many coins as he can get to buy anything to eat.socsbadge2016-17

I remember my growing up days when my eyes grew round and shone like new coins or should I say kobo’s in expectation of earning a coin from running errands for a number of uncles and aunties who sent us down to the neighbourhood store to buy an item for them.

That coin represented a yummy goody-goody chewy chocolate stick or a handful of Chat bonbons.

Unfortunately, as I grow older the value in coins also drops with age – except if it’s a gold coin – but I still love the jingle of coins and I guess my love for them has translated into my growing coin collection from different parts of the World.

I don’t collect them with the expectations that they will suddenly grow in value overnight – though that’s a possibility, who knows? The value I receive is more of the emotional and intrinsic value that most keepsakes give us.

Something else that I love to collect are words, in the form of books or as my own thoughts and to think of it, if I am to receive a coin for all the words that I string together I would have a storehouse filled with bags of coins, coincidentally, as a writer our words which happen to be in abundance don’t fetch as much coin as we would like.

To be a writer is a painstaking work borne out of love for words and I guess I just have to settle with coining words that enrich my soul and possibly others’ as well. After all said and done, words are priceless and do carry a lot of weight.

I had no idea where I was going with the prompt word ‘Coin’ for SoCS, I just followed my rambling train of thought. Thank you, Linda 🙂

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Awkward Moments – Streams of Consciousness Saturday.

I guess we all have an awkward moment now and again, but as long as it’s not fatal, we live through it and sometimes even find them quite amusing later. One of the moments I constantly feel that awkward silence is getting on a lift with strangers. I wonder if it’s the confining space, but there’s always this pervasive silence that hangs thick in the air and sometimes I try to break the silence by saying hello.socsbadge2016-17

On the other hand, I brought on my latest mortifying moment while doing a vegetable smoothie cleanse. I know that it’s a good thing but believe when I say that it does have its downsides as well 🙂

Two weeks ago, I was tired of feeling tired and heavy, so I decided to do a three days vegetable smoothie cleanse to flush my system because it felt sluggish, so I prepared a jug of veggie smoothie and took it overnight.

By morning time, I was happy to let out the junk in my trunk and went to the gym for a quick workout. I was happily trudging away on the stepper with my headphones and fave music blasting away when I had a grip of tummy rumbling gas. Feeling flustered, I gingerly tried to step off and get to the restroom, but alas, I didn’t make it!

Some noisome toot unwittingly  escaped by themselves overriding my will and grace to be ladylike. Based on the startled and judging looks that other patrons gave me, I guess it was loud enough (though I didn’t’ hear them because of my headphones).

Not my best moment yet, but hey, we all have those awkward moments in our lives and it’s just fine. Sometimes nature gets the better of you 😉

Our SOC’s prompt for today is ‘awkward’ and our gracious hostess for this weekend is Joey of Joeyfully Stated. Good job my lady.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Let’s Throw Him Under The Bus!

There’s almost no week that passes without our eyes and ears exposed to horrific abuse of power by men in uniform. The repetitive killing going on in the US is really a huge cause for concern, that it makes me wonder when men who are meant to protect and serve have turned into outright judge, jury, and executioner. socsbadge2016-17

How people can watch another human murdered in cold blood and then find all manners of justification for it simply beats me. Extrajudicial killings are unethical and illegal!

America, we’ve got a problem and we can’t pretend that our house is not on fire while we are busy chasing bush rats. I’m almost afraid that the society has lost its head and is courting outright combustion if these things are not handled properly.

In my place, we say “that the bushfire that will ravage the town starts with a kindle of a single twig.” This bushfire is gathering momentum, to such an extent that it’s scary and a crime to be black in America. Why is it my business you might want to know? Well, it is my business because this is where I lived up until 2015 when we moved to the UAE and will go back when we are done here. It’s my business because I’m a member of the larger society and in a society when there’s a problem, we look for ways to fix it otherwise it becomes pervasive and that’s the point it has gotten to.

It’s a concern to hear people callously go on a smear campaign over the body of a soul that hasn’t even gone cold. They simply throw him or her under the bus because he or she doesn’t look like you. That’s not what humanity is all about. In no way do I condone crime but I will not condone injustice as well. If a man commits a crime, demobilize him and bring him to justice except if as an officer you are claiming that you can’t destabilize a man without shooting him dead, then you have no business in the uniform or possessing a firearm.

It’s my business because I’m a black woman with a husband and son’s and we are large framed in my house. My son who’s 14 is over 6ft 2 inches tall like his dad and he’s still growing. As a mother of black boys’ and a wife of a black man, I was terribly uncomfortable back in Houston anytime my husband was out of the house late in the evening. Until he got home, or until my boys were indoors from school it seemed as though I was holding my breath each day. I think I even over-parented them because I restricted them from running around unsupervised with other children in the area. I try hard not to make my life revolve around race, but there are societal pressures that force it in your face and no matter how egalitarian you try to be this is a reality. I’m angry, sad and worried. There has to be a better way to resolve conflicts.

Today’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday prompt word is ‘bus.‘ We should use it as it is or use words that contain bus in them.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Cracking the Code – Streams of Consciousness Saturday.

Establishing anything worthwhile can sometimes be a painstaking and frustrating journey.

Having estimated that I would have my self-hosted second blog up and running – and possibly earning extra bucks by now, I still find myself tinkering and blistering the ears of endless widgets and my laptop late into the nights and waking up bleary eyed.socsbadge2016-17

Having a busy daily schedule trying to be an esteemed mother, wife, entrepreneur/worker, serial blogger, writer et al is a demanding routine, that to add the building of a new site on your own where you’ve got to fit in your plug-ins, write the shortcodes, figure out endless links and stuff is enough to deplete Estrogens and give one a sprout full of gray hairs, but the glaring truth is that since I want to eat omelets I’ve got to crack these eggs – no pun intended 😉

Anyhow, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel – it’s doable, so let me get on with my toolbox and cracking the codes 🙂

I wondered where I was going to fit in the prompt ‘est’ in today’s SoCS, but it seems that my struggle over the past few weeks has become useful in a funny way.

Have a great weekend.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

The View Out of The Window… Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Viewpoints; that’s what it’s all about, or should I say the point of view – POV. We are all created and given the free will to have independent views which must be balanced against the views of others. One’s point of view determines how tolerant and understanding of others they are.socsbadge2016-17

For sure, we all view things differently even when we share similarities in our POV’s, however, when we are obliged to express our own views, we should have the understanding that others are entitled to theirs as well. That’s why it’s free will.

Individuality means that two people can look at things and their views will differ in several ways, yet it’s amazing that some people expect others to accept their POV, hook, line and sinker without questions and when the other party differs in opinion, misunderstanding begins to brew.

When a POV is so narrow, myopic and self-centred, the person tends to become a know-it-all, a bully,  it’s my way or no other, I am right and everyone else is wrong.

I’ve learnt to understand that how one views life is equally how life will look at them in the face and as the popular saying goes, “your attitude determines your altitude.”

Do you open up your window to see the beautiful open sky, the blooming Bougainvilleas, the child skipping down the road, the strangers walking down the street, the neighbour watering his plant or mowing the lawn…What do you want to see? A hope-filled day or a hopeless day?

Even the brown dust of the Earth is beautiful without which those plants won’t grow and bloom. The view is all dependent on you.

P.S. My Stream of Consciousness Saturday post is late today because my internet service providers decided to show me another view of their service yesterday. I chose not to give in to frustration and happily went photo hunting.

Have a hope-filled view of the weekend and stay blessed.

Jacqueline.

View – SoCS


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Accumulated Points…Streams of consciousness Saturday.

I love accumulating points or funds in the kitty and watch it amount to something that’s useful later. I also have favourite things such as books that I tend to hold on to but over the past few years, due to our moves from Continent to Continent, I have learnt to minimise my pile by giving them out and the thing is that once I’ve given something away, I don’t miss it. socsbadge2016-17

A number of times, I have been privileged to use the points accumulated from my travel miles to purchase a treat for myself from the flight’s tempting catalogue without paying a dime extra and the feeling from such freebie is totally awesome 🙂

As a thrifty spender, I keep my eye’s peeled for great bargains on food stuff because a penny kept, is a penny saved and the accumulation of those pennies come in handy. On Friday I used the 50 Dirhams (14 dollars) bonus credit that I accumulated from previous purchases to buy 2 dozen oranges, some strawberries, mangoes and grapes; the fruits tasted extra good 😉

Naturally, it’s a challenge to accumulate anything because it takes time and patience to build up anything and this equally applies to the finer points of human relationships such as trust.

The only thing I don’t fancy accumulating is stress, anger and lest I forget ‘weight.’ 😉 I’d rather address an issue that’s getting on my nerves and move on rather than to keep ignoring it until it gets too much and all that accumulated emotion comes bursting out one fine day.

Such an approach of storing up negative emotions tends to lead to overreactions and it takes just mere minutes to tear down that which has been built over time.

Accumulation – SoCS

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Life rebooting…Streams of consciousness Saturday.

A mundane thought or activity can sometimes spiral into deeper reflections that send my ruminations roaming deeper.socsbadge2016-17

Getting the children set for school resumption and giving them a pep-talk led my thoughts down the path of wondering how difficult it is to turn your life around when you’re floundering.

The vacation made us all laid back and now that schools are about to reopen the holiday stamp has to be taken off rapidly and our minds rebooted to embrace change once again.

We’ve grown used to the lazy lounging and taking things slow over the course of the past two months that I recognise that the following week will be a bit hectic before we adjust once again, which brings me back to the thoughts of changing a life’s course from a misshapen route; which is not an impossibility to achieve.

Yes, it’s tough to reboot a life and it requires a lot of discipline to turn your boat around or to even accept that you’re going on the wrong path, but there comes a time when that voice in the depths of your being is no longer knocking subtly at your subconscious, but its’ banging loud and clear that the time to chart your true path is long overdue.

It’s difficult to change because one has become settled in the known and is not keen on change that upsets your equilibrium however, sometimes you have to heed that inner call, you have to let go in order to gain better control.

Your – #SOCs prompt

Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Sweet Dates…Stream of Consciousness Saturday.

Oh! My dates! I smiled when I saw the prompt ‘dates,’ that Linda gave us for SOCs. How apt! It’s as if she knew that I had some homemade date juice last night – I’ll share the recipe in another post tomorrow – and now I hasten to finish my blog posts, respond to comments, read some blog posts and get ready for my date night with my one and only Dear Himself, my main Boo-Gatti 😉socsbadge2016-17

I need to kick up my dancing heels a wee bit and having young children means that date nights for just the two of us are not as often as they should be. However, to keep stoking the embers of our 16year old romance, we get to squeeze a candlelit, stare into your eyes mushy stuff now and again.

On the other hand, I also try to construct cheap and cheerful stay-at-home dates as well.

Enjoy the weekend folks and a sweet date; be it the fruity type or one with yourself, a book and a delicious cup of beverage 🙂

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha


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