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Midnight Motivations and Musings #59…

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The awareness that in actual practice these words are easier said than done doesn’t escape me at all, especially due to the fact that human beings are sensory and emotionally guided.

Nevertheless, we can’t allow our lives to be like flotsams and jetsams, drifting down the bay and tossed about by each wave that casts its ripples our way.

We have to grow some sense of emotional intelligence and let the rational part of us along with grounded tenets built over time help us ride through the rough seasons of life.

If we toss in the towel, fall apart and melt into a puddle with every hard stone that’s catapulted our way, not only will it be such a hectic life but an unruly one as well.

Naturally, we are not hewn from stone and will react to issue’s that concerns us, but we should bear in mind that life continues whether we are in a pool of misery or deliriously happy.

Choosing to be happy or okay is a conscious and consistent effort.

Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings 58…

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There are times that I have been asked how I can prove that there’s a God and I have always responded with the same quote above.

God is God all by Himself. I cannot limit him by trying to define him in the human context, neither can I constrain his Supreme presence because I seek for him to appear before me so that the doubting Thomases can believe that he exists.

I would rather believe deeply in God and live my life serving him through my fellowship with others than to spend a thousand years drifting in disbelief.

Every day, I see God. I see him in the gurgling laughter of a little child. I see him in the brilliance of the shining Sun, I see him in the birds that roam free and feed on the fat worms of the earth, I see him in the flowers that bloom in glorious colours, I see him in the love of my children and husband, I see him in everything that surrounds me.

Do you see God?

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 57…

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We make plans about all that we want in life, but life makes its plans for us as well.

We have a good idea of the structure of how we want it to turn out, but something derails us along the way.

At times, these curve balls actually end up helping to straighten and put us on the right path.

It all depends on how we respond to the challenges and detours that we are offered.

Do we choose to see every strike and fall with a jaundiced eye?

Such an approach bodes chances that we could become embittered and probably lose sight of the little openings and apertures that these lessons offer.

We should focus on other possible alternatives that may be available to us.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 56

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Planting a seed is a risk.

We are not sure that it will grow.

We are not sure that it will not be a diseased crop.

We are not sure some wild creature will not attack it when we are not looking.

Nonetheless, we have to plant those seeds that we have in our hands. Chances are, that a good number will grow and ripen for harvest.

We must take the time to till our ground, plant, and water and be patient for the God of Harvest to increase our bounty. Except we plant, he has nothing to work on.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

 

 

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Midnight Motivations and Musings #55

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It’s a natural tendency for us to seek the approval and support of those who we consider our friends and loved ones because no one exists in a vacuum or isolation.

It’s also normal to find that some of those around us may not buy into our dreams or be our cheerleaders. Some will outrightly express their dissension while some may not voice it, but their attitude towards you will show their contrary opinion.

The truth is that the natural inclination of most people is to seek for the difficulties and all the reasons why an aspiration won’t work, before seeking for the possibilities.

One needs to be attuned spiritually to determine whether the criticism or voice of dissension is truly born out of honest conviction and concern for your well-being or whether the naysaying is borne out of envy, automated pessimism.

There is always need to weed out the chaff and keep the wheat. It’s not every opinion that you should pay mind to.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 54…

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1460094118485[1]Life lived dancing to the tunes of misery wears out the soul living it.

Yes indeed, our days are not always smiles and sunshine, but the truth is that misery and negativity are barely a head’s turn away and once you give it room, it becomes a permanent tenant and a difficult one to evict.

A lot of  times when I am feeling down, I might brood for a while, but with training my mind to shut off the negative raps, I endeavour not to stew in it by getting engaged in little things that will uplift my mind and take the focus off me.

Not the easiest thing to do at times, but the alternative is worse.

Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 53

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A quick question, have you ever taken time to ask yourself how much you’ve been robbed over the years, by the act of trying to fit in, trying to please and trying to be who you are not?

This isn’t a sustainable characteristic. It’s very exhausting and self-annihilating.

You can only be the best when you are yourself because being the second best you is not who you are.

A certified true copy can never be the original.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 52…

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Different view

Life is a continuum and as such we are in a constant state of change.

This change should equally apply to the way that we view things.

Are we of such mindsets that are so rigid that they’re as good as being cast in stone?

How enabling has certain ways of thinking been for us?

Could a little tweak in our perspectives bring about better change and expand our horizons?

These are questions that I like to pose often.

What if?

I have found and still finding that sometimes we simply go through the same old, same old automatically that it becomes an ingrained habit.

However, we can rewire our perspectives to see just a little bit more beyond the surface and we will be better off .

©Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

 

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Midnight Motivation and Musings 51

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The journey of self-help is what it is. SELF-HELP!

We need to take conscious steps ever so often and just be with ourselves, this could mean just a half hour of sitting in quiet reflection and not necessarily in a ritzy place.

Take that time to outline those reminders that your heart and mind should focus on each day.

Starting out might be difficult, but as the days go by, it comes easier with practice.

No guru, expert or counsellor can practice our self-help tactics for us. They would probably give us insights and tell us what to do, however, the work of walking through it still rests on us.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

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Midnight Motivations and Musings # 50…

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Plan

Tomorrow is really not guaranteed any of us and that which we can do today no matter how little it is, is better done and when the following day comes, we do a bit more.

Experience has personally taught me lessons on how we rob ourselves through over-planning, procrastination and assumptions.

The future belongs only to those who live fully in their moments and take charge of each day as it comes.

We all know that the building blocks of a huge monument start with laying its base foundational stones.

So when you don’t put today’s stones in place, how exactly do you  plan to get to the tip of that pinnacle?

Like my people would say back home ‘it’s the firewood that you gather during the dry season, that you will use during the rainy season.‘

When you take care of today’s plans, tomorrow’s plan will take care of itself.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha