More times than we can count, we feel let down, disappointed and even hurt when our expectations are not met by others. It is so normal to have expectations from people around us. If you work, you expect to be paid by your employer. If you are in a relationship, you expect to be treated right by your partner and the list goes on.
However, over the years, I have learnt to curb my expectations from others and thereby minimize the level of disappointments that I experience. Just as we can’t expect our jobs to meet all our needs – financially, socially, emotionally, etc., especially when the take-home from certain jobs barely gets you to the bus-stop, we can’t look to others – like our partners – to fix all our problems as individuals.
That is too much responsibility to place on someone’s shoulders and a major set up for a letdown. Of course, this is not an attempt to let people off from being accountable and responsible. Naturally, there’s a minimum expectancy that comes with whatever role someone plays in your life without wanting them to assume a God role for you, because as humans, that is IMPOSSIBLE.
Just so you know, those gaps in us that can’t be filled by anyone can only be filled by The Divine. Once you understand this, you will stop beating yourself and others up, for falling short of certain expectations. Understanding this ensures that your demands are realistic and balanced. Above all else, you protect your mental health.
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It is only as we mature that these truths make sense to us
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