What do you do when a blogger that you have become attached to just ups and suddenly disappears into thin air?
I met an awesome Christian blogger and we were consistently supportive of each other and I loved his quiet reflections. Sometime ago, he hinted on changes going on in his life though he was not specific and I didn’t needle to pry, but I sensed his unhappiness.
For several weeks, going on two months actually, he has neither posted nor visited and bantered with me like he would and after waiting for a while and missing his blessings sufficiently, I decided to go looking for him.
It was a shock to find his blog was now private and needed a password. I sent a request for access some 3 weeks ago and not a peep.
I am almost tempted to mention his name and ask if anyone has seen him floating around cyber-space and just to know that he is fine and didn’t do something stupid.
Then I simply whispered a prayer in my heart hoping that all is well with him. That whatever his problems were, I hope he has found sufficient grace to surmount them.
I have tried to find reasons not to worry, yet my mind wanders now and again to my friend and it is a bit surprising to realize how much I care.
How much a great number of people that I have met here mean to me.
How overtime our blogging friends start feeling familiar and like extended family.
How we develop attachments with total strangers across the globe.
I realized that maybe I am putting too much of my personal emotions in the friendships developed here, thinking that maybe, I should feel detached so that I wouldn’t notice if someone is missing in action; but that is simply not who I am.
Even bloggers who are blogging incognito, I have assigned voices and faces to their ambiguous status.
I can start writing a long list of bloggers that I will miss if I don’t see them for a bit and my list would be so long because I think I virtually follow everyone who follows me.
I simply think that if they find me worth spending their time on, then they are worth spending my time on as well.
So, I guess this is blogging life. Now here, tomorrow gone Not happy.
Please, to all my blogger friends, do let us know when you want to run along and I want to let you know that I appreciate meeting you in this space and time wherever you are.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
![1449767540416[1]](https://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/14497675404161.jpg?w=663&h=663)
Great advice.
I’ve been interneting as long as the internet has been around. The people I connected with who up and disappear always bothered me. I hope all is well with your friend.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hello K. Renae, thank you for your comments. I haven’t heard a squeak from him but I am hoping he is okay. My regards 🙂
LikeLike
Great post! I’ve also been wondering where a couple of the bloggers that I have follow have vanished to. It’s very mysterious…posting regularly one week & nowhere to be found a month later.
It’s great that you are so close with your fellow bloggers! 😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you Mliae. It does bug me a bit when I interact with someone and suddenly they vanish into thin air. I appreciate your visit and comment. Regards 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wow. this is such a wonderful post. Enjoyed reading it, so very well written 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you very much for your kind comments 🙂
LikeLike
It also can well be the person fell asleep, though him having requesting a password can also well be that he had met with attacks on his person or for his thoughts. Even with certain closed accounts or those where only ‘friends’ can enter such attacks can happen or others complaining that something may be in the open. Therefore the writer looking for a way to make sure everything is closed and visible only for those to see it.
LikeLike
Hmm! That’s a thought. Unfortunately, his site has been deleted so I guess he simply closed shop.
LikeLike
Yes
LikeLiked by 1 person