My Thinking Corner

My Thinking Corner – The Way Things Are

Sometimes when things don’t go the way we want them, they went the way they were supposed to.

Lifelessons, the way things are, Quotes, Experience

The way forward is to make the best of the way things turn out, not to expend time and energy fighting what we can’t change, but to spend that time and energy finding new ways for things to go because every moment that you spend fighting over the past and how things were are moments lost to creating how things could be.




20 thoughts on “My Thinking Corner – The Way Things Are

  1. Sometimes I know I want to stop thinking about the past and move forward but the thoughts and memories return. After breathing and noticing the sensations in my body, I ask myself what needs the memories are connecting me to — what’s alive in me now? Sometimes it’s a need for learning from a regret. I might make a note or seek to repair a conversation/relationship. Sometimes it’s to mourn the loss – what needs were being met by the way things were? Ease? Reassurance? Connection? Predictability? Connecting with the energy of those needs in my body seems to naturally make it easier for me to move forward in this moment. An action often arises gently in me, free of shame or anger or demand. It’s so sweet and can take a while sometimes. I learned that approach from a mix of nonviolent communication (rosenberg’s book) and also listening to teachers like Pema Chodron and Raphael Cushnir. Is this helpful to hear?

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