In my very young eye’s three of my grandparents were quite elites of their time, but I had a grandfather whose views of women was a bit too caveman and archaic, even I could recognize at quite a young age that he had a bad case of chauvinism.
Even though the short time spent around all of them was spent with their doting eyes and loving expression’s showered on their grandchildren, with some pampering and extra helpings of boiled groundnuts, roasted melon seed and the likes, I knew that the way grandpa treated my grandma was harsh, because his temper was quite short towards her.
If he were to return to pay a visit to my house for dinner, I bet his socks would fall off in shock when he hears me and my husband carrying on a conversation on just about every topic under the Sun.
His expectation would be that I should be sweating over the kitchen stove while the men discussed politics and drank straight scotch.
I am equally sure that he would be mortified at the modern audacity of women. The fact that we can blog and engage in conversations with other menfolk who are neither our Lords nor our Masters. As a matter of fact, he just might advise my husband to keep me in hand since he would consider that I have far too much lee-way.
Certainly, he would probably faint from shock when the conversation turns to politics and he hears that the a woman is daring to vy for the seat of The President of the United States of America.
On the other hand, I think that my grandma would be pleased with the recent advancement’s made to ease housework for women. She would be tickled with the dishwasher, washing machine and the vacuum cleaner. No more bending to sweep with the broom spuriously to ensure that the house is spic and span, no more hand washing heaps of clothes until the skin of your hands almost peel off.
She would be secretly pleased even if she keeps her opinions away from the ears of grumpy grandpa. She would probably want to sneak a mobile phone back with her as she leaves.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
The Daily Post prompt Modern Families.
If one of your late ancestors were to come back from the dead and join you for dinner, what things about your family would this person find the most shocking?
Oh, so true! The one grandpa I knew was Lord and master of his little kingdom…
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Diane, I am so glad that we don’t live in those times anymore. Poor women!
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I think the same thing would happen if my great great grandparents were to come to dinner.
Susie
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Susie, I can tell you it would be interesting and annoying to listen to my grandpa spout his nonsense.
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Other than my husband, I have not heard of any males in my family being MCPs. My husband thinks wives are better seen than heard.:)
Susie
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Oh dear!
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They would probably be shocked but proud that a black man was President of the United States, although technically, he is biracial.
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True that, but he is a man so it’s far more tolerable. He would pass out at the thought of a woman being a President 😉
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True that.
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I think that it would be the same with my ancestors Jacqui. Women everywhere were treated as though they had no right to an opinion, or even a brain for that matter!
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Judy, I honestly thank God I wasn’t born then. It must have been a difficult life for these women.
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Yes, indeed. 🙂
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Yes this is very true and my grampa as well would be shocked. Dinner had to be waiting and on the table!
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Their poor wives didn’t have an easy time at all.
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no for sure!
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Ours was an oddball family on my Mom’s side. Very progressive for their time and age. Hippies, the lot of them! ^_^ Dad’s family was much like your grandpa.
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I think I prefer the Hippies to the Sourpuss any day. Life with people like my grandpa could give someone ulcer.
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Me too… which is why I’m a hippie at heart. It was born and bred into me from the start. But man, does my Dad’s side of the family hate that about us. ^_^
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This a great story of your grandparents. I’m sure many men from the past would be surprised the equality and better standards women are often achieving in society. I love the line about your grandmother in the cell phone. My Baba is in a seniors institution maybe for the past ten years as she could not live alone and needed care we could not provide her on her own. When she was more lucid and with it I remember her eyes growing big when we would pull out a cell phone. And she distinctly said, I need to get one of those. She loves talking on the phone. But she became too sick to learn how to use one or care. Thank you for sharing about your heritage.
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Aww so heart touching about your Baba. I have a soft spot for old people. I think it’s because I find them full of wisdom even when they are no longer strong enough to be active. One can learn so much just from watching them. Indeed the men of older times would have heart attacks at the better standards of women’s lives these days.
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Lovely read. Really, such attitudes are the results of the times. But I did love the story. It would be crazy in life if those who lived before 1900 were alive again in their prime for 1 day. There would be chaos… but that’s understandable. Thanks again Jacqueline!
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There would be utter chaos if they visit. I am happy that times are changing. Regards Carlos 🙂
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I second what you said about grandma and the ease of getting domestic work done is incredible these days, makes it hard what life used to be ( well, still is for some folks). Great reflection.
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Some are truly still having a pretty hard life. Thank you Folake 🙂
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Your grandad will for sure need that Scotch when he hears about a woman running for the presidency. His head may explode.
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Totally cock up his toes and pass out 😉
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hahaha…
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The problem is there are still men like that around!
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Such men have no business having wives.
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I could not tolerate being married to someone like your grandpa. Your grandma was a saint to put up with it.
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Tasha, it’s a good thing that times have changed because, I Jacqueline would have left him biting the dust and the door would not hit my backside as I sped off.
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Grandpa would understand times have changed for women. Which man does not want a women engaging in intellectual discussion? If I was a man, that would be a requirement.
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It’s such a good thing I wasn’t born then. I might have done some bad things, like beat him upside the head with a frying pan 😉
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You made me laughed so hard and loud, my brother came to aske me what happened. Hehe, I would help you.
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I wouldn’t mind the help at all 🙂 Happy to put a smile on your face.
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