We are asked to use our maps as our muse. To tell you about where we’ve come from. About where we’ve been and the places that we have not been to but would like to be and how all these ‘where’s‘ have shaped who we are through our connections with them.
Now, this is a tough choice for me, because my roaming heart has roosted in many places. Some sojourns brief and some for extended periods of time and yet it hasn’t stopped roaming.
I have fallen in love with them all. You may question ”how can she fall in love with so many things?” I will tell you that I believe in going wherever I go or doing whatever I do with all my heart.
I will tell you that falling in love with many things, makes you see the beauty of these things/places/people beyond the peripheries. If you care to say; why would you invest so much emotions into this places? My question would be, Why not?
I choose to love the places that I have lived or been to because I go there, not seeking for things to criticize about their culture or place, but seeking to understand, to know more and to appreciate more.
Thus, all the places that my feet have rested on, have one way or the other decorated my heart.
Join me for a brief and quick jaunt with the GPS of my heart and see these places through my rose-spectacle vision.
I flit like a delicate butterfly;
Over expanses of space and through cycles of time;
I perch on many lovely petals;
Inhaling intoxicating fragrance;
Sensitized by lushness and soft feels;
It draws a sigh from me;
When they say hello!
University of Nigeria Nsukka: A peaceful, sleepy enclave situated in Nsukka, which is a small town and Local Government Area in South-East Nigeria in Enugu State.
The place of my birth and where I lost my milk teeth. A home to thousands of great academics who have passed through it’s corridors and are dispersed all over the diaspora doing great exploits. From The First President of Independent Nigeria – Dr. Nnamdi Azikiwe, to Nobel Laureate – Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Ngozi-Adichie, my humble self and so many others.
Let us wander a bit down the red earth beaten path of this charming campus of academics which my parents were part of. I am doubtful if our GPS would work, but I can follow my nose because it knows.
Lovely bungalows occupied by university staff, line the campus quarters streets, from the twining streets of Fulton Avenue to Margaret Cartwright, from Alvin Loving to Eze-Opi crescent, from Odim Street to Mbonu Ojike; just to name a few.
The bungalows are only separated by well kept Cashuarina hedges, Queen of the night flowers, Purple Hibiscus, Honeysuckle plants or Bougainvilleas. The whistle of the swaying whistling pines pierces through the air frequently. It is also a breezy and cool town.
A community where everybody knows everybody else and their business. Birthdays, marriages, deaths, successes and failures were shared alike. A place where you know that Mr. Francis the shoemakers daughter would be getting married next Saturday and a communal bus is obtained to convey neighbours for the event. A place where Mama Uju was sure to inform you when Uju has put to bed and she is off to stay for weeks of ”Omugwo” in her daughters house.
It is a town that reminds me of mango trees heavy laden with fat juicy fruits, of sweet sticky cashew fruits, of the best bananas this side of the planet, of lazy summers spent with friends, of the cold harmattan seasons when red dust curled up in the air painting us in light earthy dust and we glittered like happy urchins.
Nostalgic recollections of school days and bicycle races, of promenades and church bazaars, of picnics and the end of year parties, something was always going on and you could smell Christmas around the corner coupled with the pursuits from local masquerades.
All escapades were duly taken note of and oftentimes, an honorary auntie or uncle was willing to straighten you out even before your parents were privy to the embellished version of your hell-raising ways. Of course, this will be followed by more straightening from your parents and sufficient catechism to exorcise every rebellious spirit that might be festering in you 🙂
By the way, the Reverend is probably not just the towns priest but also a good friend of the family, so your confessions had better be sanctified enough not to make him suffer palpitations.
Enugu:
A brief detour through Enugu, the city of my undergraduate days where I discovered my nubile young self. Getting up to mischief that would definitely turn our Reverends hair white in an instant. The city where this young girls heart first knew what it meant to feel deflated. My first independent move away from daddy’s sharp eyes and mummy’s apron strings.
Lagos:
If you ask me, I will always tell you that I am first and foremost a Naija woman, secondly an Achi native (my homestead), thirdly, an Nsukka child fourthly a Lasgidi babe and lastly a citizen of the World.
Lagos my Lagos: One of the most fascinating metropolis that you will ever visit. You hardly have an idea of what to expect next minute. It is the largest city in Africa, teeming wall-to-wall with people, bumper-to-bumper with cars, noise and pollution beyond belief. Highways and flyovers are jammed with hold-ups and go-slows on top, and tin-and-cardboard shacks underneath.
It is the economic and cultural powerhouse of the country, with much thanks to an absurd wealth of oil money, it has an exploding arts and music scene that will keep your ”yansh” gyrating far past dawn at ”Owambes.”
Lagos holds a lot of good memories for me; from my working years at The French Embassy and British American Tobacco to the actual succumb to throes of love for my husband whom I met in Lagos, before he whisked me off on a whirlwind nomadic journey.
If you’re headed to Nigeria, you’ll have no choice but to jump right into the madness here.
One day, I shall talk about the stints in other places:
Of France and a romantic dalliance;
Of Switzerland and the quaint apartment on Rue de Geneve;
Of London and Liverpool and the tale of the accents mingled with near drowning episodes in Earl Grey Tea;
Of the West African States, the neighbours like brothers;
Of Amsterdam, Brussels, Strasbourg and the likes;
Of Johannesburg, Cape Town and my thoughts;
New York, New Jersey, Maryland, Baltimore, Houston, California, Austria, Venice, Kenya, Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Qatar, Sao Tome Principe, Istanbul……..the GPS of my heart is really busy.
I wander through life;
From place to place ;
From State to state;
I am no rolling stone;
I do gather a lot of moss;
They cling to my make up as I roll along;
A resting place for many who come along;
As they listen to tales of the big green acres.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
Quick Glossary:
Omugwo: The birth of a baby In Igboland and other eastern Nigerian ethnic groups means that the nursing mother and child has to be ministered unto by a very close and experienced female relation. In most cases, the person who takes care of her, is her mother. If the mother is not alive or around, her step-mother performs the functions.
Yansh: Your backside.
Lasgidi: Another name for the city of Lagos, Nigeria’s largest city.
Naija: Naija is another name for Nigeria, the patriotic name for Nigerians to show their strength and smartness.
Owambe: It (party) is happening here.









I look forward to your comments on Switzerland where I lived for 8 years and Amsterdam, the capital of my home country, the Netherlands!
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Naughty Amsterdam and it’s red light district 😉 I did enjoy my time over there. I love Switzerland.
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The red light district is pretty tame to us Dutch folks… families walk through there with kids.
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We did walk through there too 🙂
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I have a girlfriend from Nigeria. Her name is Veronica. Very tall ravishing woman. She was a tennis player then moved here and marry an engineer.
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I can well imagine the tall lady. I am tall as well but was more of a high jumper and runner. We are not bad looking people 😉
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I can see that 🙂 I have another beautiful friend from Togo. Her name is Sabine. Qua looks, she will put Iman to shame. Indeed you are beautiful people. Especially kids. Adorable. I have an antique porcelain black doll wearing traditional clothes. Her name is Lizzy. Pretty as a picture.
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I know those types of dolls 🙂 They are very ethnic and pretty too. Thank you for those beautiful compliments. They enlarge my heart with pleasure. I appreciate 🙂
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Thanks for the wonderful journey Jacqueline. I loved your poems as well. 🙂
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Thank you my dear. I love these assignments 🙂 Brings out the child in me 🙂
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That is always a good thing 🙂
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what a lovely post! So full of interesting things I never knew! lovely pictures too!
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🙂 Thank you Lynz for your lovely comments. Those were beautiful and interesting times.
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yes I am sure! It is so nice to know more about you and you express this all in a wonderful and interesting way. Loved the poem as well!
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Thanks dear. I try to say what I feel 🙂
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lovely
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Brilliant post!
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Thank you for such high praise Khaya. I appreciate it 🙂
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You have been to some interesting places Jacqueline. But I would bet just about anything that if you were to come where I am you’d finally find a reason to complain!!! We really want to move but it’s a bit complicated. What type of work does your hubby do in Dubai…if you don’t mind me being nosy…unless, of course, he’s some secret spy agent for the embassy there lol
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He is not a spy; I wish 🙂 That would have made life a little more spicy. He works in the Oil servicing industry. I understand complications. I have been through sticky situations myself.
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Wow!!!! My hubby works in the oil industry as well. What a coincidence!!!
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That’s interesting 🙂 I guess his job is fixed? Mine gets posted around quite a bit.
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Yea he pretty much stays in one area. Was going to move to Texas but decided to wait until my step-daughter gets a lil older. She’s 10 now…so 8 years max lol
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That’s understandable. I didn’t have to move around with my husband but we both preferred it. There were two years that he was offshore and was doing one month on shore and one month off, it wasn’t much fun (not as if we don’t annoy each other when we are together, yet when we are apart for more than 2 weeks, we get unhappy.
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Can’t live with’em…can’t live without’em! I totally get that. My hubby says he can’t do offshore…but he’s still gone quite a bit.
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He is lucky to get to choose. We have decided that from next year, I and the kids will settle in one place whilst he does the shuttling. The children are getting too old to keep shifting them from one school to the other.
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Yes, they need stability. It gets hard on them to move around a lot and have to constantly make new friends. Good call Jacqueline!
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Thanks my dear. I totally agree 🙂
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Oh, I absolutely adored your post, and it made me feel as if I was in a different world, yet at home. Your descriptions were delicious and moving, and I loved all the cultural details. Thank you, Jacqueline!
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Thank you so much for such high praise. I am happy you enjoyed it which is my pleasure really. It is a quaint beautiful place (with it’s own small town issues of gossip and all that) and I love it to bits 🙂 Thank you for visiting today. Regards
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🙂 I would love to go to the places you described.
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You never know 😉
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I loved the verbal tour you gave, here – I would love to visit, someday! I have the travel bug and wish to see many different places.
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Please indulge as much as you can. It is a great teaching to learn about these things. Thank you for your appreciation and your time. Regards 🙂
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What an interesting life you are living! Great post! 🙂
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Thank you my lady 🙂 For your visit and your comments, I appreciate 🙂
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My pleasure. 🙂
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Wow! Sis na you be “Ajala travel” I want to be like you when I grow up. lol. globetrotting. As always great post! I look forward to your post.You are an Inspiration. I dey troway”high five” to you from Lasgidi. 🙂
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For where 😉 This one na small waka na! Thank you my darling. I know that you are doing more exploits and indeed you will do far more. I dey miss Lasgidi no be small tin 🙂
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A vivid kaleidoscope of colour – I felt I was with you on the tour. Phew! Better go and lie down😉 No, seriously Jacqui – I love finding out the roots of where people come from -sounds like you had an idyllic childhood?
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I hope you enjoyed the rolling jaunt 🙂 Those were sincerely very lovely times 🙂 Now go a catch some rest!
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I would love to go to Africa:)
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You should 🙂
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I was interested reading this one. I have first cousins who are originally from Owe, but they live in and around London now. I always am interested in hearing about Nigeria because of them. I wrote about this recently in one of my own blogs, about looking at maps and feeling connected with them that way even though it would be years before I ever met any of them. Great post Jacqui.
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Hello Robert, good to meet you 🙂 Thank you for visiting and your lovely comments. I do appreciate it. You should consider visiting sometime in the future (with your cousins to tow you around). I would love to read the article that you wrote. What is the title?
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Hi Jacqui, you are very welcome! I’d love to do more travelling period, including to Africa so who knows, maybe I could do that someday. This is that particular blog-https://robpatdoy.wordpress.com/2015/08/31/soundtrack-of-a-photograph-4/
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I am sure that you will enjoy your trips when you eventually undertake them. I look at the link. Thank you 🙂
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You took me to your journey! 😀 These places are unique and interesting. Nicely done, Jacq! Keep wandering. 🙂
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Oh I shall Rosema, as long as God gives me strength. Thank you for visiting lady. I appreciate that 🙂
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He will! 😀
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Thank you for such a wonderful post! I like your writing so much I am inspired to do the assignment now. I had no idea what to do! I never had a travel desire but you make it sound so fun. I am surely going to be reading more of your posts – thank you for sharing your wonderful self!!
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Hello D Mac, I am happy that you enjoyed it and found it inspiring. Travel is truly an eye opener and a great teacher for me, as well as fun (after the hectic day of the travel, though we have tried to learn ways to make it less hectic and more fun). I do appreciate your visit 🙂
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Loved our journey together tonight. You have led an amazing life. A special apprehension of your aunts and uncles and the reverend who who helped make you, you.
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Thanks for coming along Oneta 🙂 Back then, I thought they were just nosy Parkers, but they all helped to form me into who I am today (with a lot of their sleepless nights on my behalf). It was a lovely growing up time 🙂
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You so make me want to explore Nigeria!
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Its a crazy place 😉
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This is just an incredible post! Your appreciation not only for your own heritage but the places you have visited is so inspiring. I love how you punctuated it with lovely verse, as well as the photos and definitions! So interesting to learn more about Nigeria!
You and your husband make such a gorgeous couple! Do you realize that? I truly appreciate your outlook on life and fact that you don’t take things for granted. I think that GPS of yours is going to take you on more amazing journeys in your life! Much love to you – so happy we are friends. xoxo
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You make me feel proud when you say such things 😉 Thank you so much Ma’am. Me and my husband are like Tom and Jerry; we can’t stay without squabbling and we can’t stay apart either 😉 I am sincerely glad that we met *big hugs*
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Your blog is a treasure! I’ve never been to Nigeria, but after reading your posts I would love to go one day!
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Thank you so much for that precious comment. I am humbled that anyone would view my blog as a treasure. Nigeria is a welcoming but crazy place. With all fondness I say this and I am sure you will enjoy visiting when you do go. The trick would be to go around festive time (though it is a nation with people that love to celebrate any little thing) and with someone that knows the place 🙂
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