Guessing can be cruel in relationships and I don’t like guessing games even if I sound like Scar in Lion King. This especially pertains to how someone feels.
I won’t leave you guessing how I feel. I say it as it is to me. Sometimes I guess I may be wrong, but I would rather bring it out in the open and we deal with it.
I don’t want you to expect me to guess how you feel and my assumption is that if you expect me to guess how you feel, that means you are either not sure of your feelings or simply don’t feel anything.
I’ve reached a stage in my life where I crave certainty and don’t want to keep second-guessing who, where what, why and every which way and I am working hard to give myself some of that certainty even though we all know that no one knows what tomorrow will bring but we can rightly guess that there will be a tomorrow and the Sun will shine.
Why I say it can be cruel in relationships to leave the other party constantly guessing where they stand, is because it leaves them open to making all the wrong assumptions. A lot of times perception is more powerful than reality and the mind has a way of extrapolating things beyond its right measure which can damage a relationship over time.
So, please leave the guess work at the door of our friendship. When I hurt your feelings let it out and give me a chance to apologize otherwise, guess what? Use the door and close it firmly behind you.
Jacqueline
Linda told me to guess. #SoCS
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“Most times perception is more powerful than reality…”
That’s very correct.
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Oh it’s so hard when you don’t know where you stand with someone. I have experienced this so many times. I think sometimes people do it as a means to hurt the other person. But then other times, perhaps they just don’t know the hurt they a truly causing by not telling someone where they stand. Either way, it can be brutal.
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I just can’t stand such nonsense and if someone treats me like that, I ignore them henceforth and get on with my life.
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Sometimes that’s all we can do…
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Well said. I prefer knowing where I stand, and wishy-washy can really put some distance between me and anyone who’s like that.
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Yes! Exactly all of this!
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the ole what ya see is what ya get……..I tend to be that way, it is so much easier than Mind Reading
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Yeap definately hard, but my method is to move and get on living otherwise i get stuck and all negativity then follows and then there is no happiness
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Very well said Jacqui. I like to know what is going on, and if there is a problem, then tell me! 🙂
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It’s always better to talk things over and sort out any issues.
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Yes, definitely. 🙂
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