Am I kind enough?…Kindness challenge

You would think that writing or talking about kindness is a quick sticky note wouldn’t you?RevofKindness

Now as I set to quickly skip through this post of combined prompts – self-kindness, kind energy and be kind – for Niki’s Kindness challenge due to the fact that I didn’t start out when others did, I find myself drawing away from my preconceived idea and trailing down memory lane.

Meandering down old routes raises the question, ‘is it enough that I am considerate of others?’ What is enough kindness? Is there a parameter to know what’s enough?

I don’t think so. I believe that kindness should be an inculcated way of life. Through my childhood, I was predisposed to observe first hand the kindness that my parents endlessly practiced in their lives. They raised many other children other than their own, that it was simply a way of life for them to take on educating, feeding, clothing and helping the less privileged, to an extent that sometimes I wondered how they managed on their income.

Yet, they never lacked, their progress was never stunted, their cooking pot remained large and their door open. I believe that all they did and still do built the right kind of energy, that sometimes I feel guilty that I’m not doing enough.

Taking part in this challenge has actually attuned my mind to be a bit more observant of my actions, what energy I am sending out there in my family and those who come in constant contact with me. The past weeks were hectic with work, school exams, life etc and I noticed that I was a bit stressed and snappy with the children so, I had to soft-pedal in my thoughts and snippiness. I knew that what I needed was a little time to myself to de-stress. I indulged myself in a bit of self-kindness, which is something that I struggle with most times.

I find that it’s easier for me to take care of every other person’s need, to cut some slack for everyone else, while I keep pushing my own needs to the bottom of the ladder. However, last weekend, I indulged in a bit of pampering steam/sauna session to decongest my thoughts and release tense muscles, as well as a pedicure with a foot massage. I almost fell out of the armchair as I dosed off to the goodness of it all and felt so much better which automatically improved my mood.

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15 thoughts on “Am I kind enough?…Kindness challenge

  1. Don’t feel pressured to pick up where the challenge is currently focusing on. By taking it one week at a time starting with self-kindness and working your way through each week each focus builds momentum for the next. Some have even paused or repeated a week.

    That’s amazing that you grew up in a household that was abundant in kindness!! I love that by just focusing on kindness you are more aware of the level of kindness in various areas in your life. You aren’t alone in finding it easier to be attentive to the needs of others and push your own further down the list. The food for thought that came to mind for week 1 (self-kindness) for all of those that had this struggle was-
    “Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
    ― Eleanor Brownn

    I’m so glad you were able to be mindful of what you needed to clear your mind from such a hectic week. Thank you for participating and I hope that you get what you need from this. Sending lots of love your way! ❤

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  2. Oh how beautiful. i agree with ” I believe that kindness should be an inculcated way of life.”. I do my best to be kind regardless – I mean regardless, even to those who may not be so. Do I always succeed – well not always, but I like to think I am inherently kind. I wrote a post on Kindness in sometime early on in my blogging life , I think in March when i started out.
    https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/2016/03/11/new-habit-lets-be-kind/

    Great post. Actually, I love all your posts and your community spirit. So happy to be in your connection.

    Regards Bella

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  3. Pingback: New Habit – Let’s Be Kind – ThoughtsnLifeBlog

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