Everyone deserves to love and be loved and true love first starts with you.
Loving yourself and accepting that you are whole and worth it, is not being self-centered.
You should know that you are enough without expecting someone else to complete you. It’s a fallacy to anticipate that. No one can complete another.
They can only complement what you already have, thus when you feel inadequate, your sense of inadequacy emanates from within and this is not something that someone else can fix.
What happens when they are no longer there or when they fail to fulfil all your expectations?
How long will someone else have to patch you up?
When will you realise that you are worth loving you for you?
If you are unable to love yourself for your own sake and treat yourself appropriately, then it will be difficult to cascade a non-existent blessing to someone else, for it’s really out of what you’ve got that you can give others.
God’s love is free and without encumbrances.
© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha
a cooking pot and twisted tales 
Lovely write up Jacqueline… We must learn to love ourselves first. Thank you for the wonderful read!
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Thank you too Shivangi 🙂
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I love the last sentence the most. Not only does he love us, but his love is unchanging (unlike us)
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Thank you Jacqueline for writing this. It really appeared at a time of need. I’m going on a first-date tomorrow with a guy I quite like. I broke up with my boyfriend of four years in August and I have enjoyed having free time but I also recently have found I was interested in dating again. This makes me feel better, it’s hard to meet someone for the first time and think I’m enough.
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You are beautiful, intelligent, warm, young and a writer too. What’s not to love. You are enough Mandi 🙂
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Thank You Jacqueline for your compliments . He never showed but I’m okay. On to the next 🙂 Have a good weekend my friend 🙂
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Precisely my dear. Move on and be happy. Enjoy your week ahead.
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This is exactly why I have been single for a good while…I needed to learn how to love me. The classes are going pretty well so far.
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Excellent. My dear Deb, there’s no need to rush into these things. It’s better to get into it when one is fully emotionally ready and you are making the right decision.
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Oh, Wow.
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Thanks Jill.
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Has particular meaning for me right about now … I really meant … Oh. Wow.
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So true!
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Thank you 🙂
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