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Extra TLC…

jacquelineobyikocha

Women are far more resilient than men and this is a fact. It is not a statement of feminism or trying to create a tug-of-war argument on which sex is stronger.1450633441794[1]

Our endurance faculties, pain threshold, multi-tasking abilities are light years ahead of that of men and you only have to take a good look at an average family woman with a household of children and a spouse to understand my analogy.

A man will have a minor headache and he turns into an attention seeking toddler.

When he has a flu, life almost grinds to a halt and the wife or partner automatically has a mental flu along with him.

On the contrary, in a lot of instances, a woman will be feeling down, yet you will see her juggling housework, family, work and the rest of the shebang like a pro.

It does not mean that she doesn’t appreciate nor needs TLC, but she just gets on with it and does the needful, most especially when you still have a young family to tend.

I have had a situation of being in pre-stages of labour and I was still struggling to conclude the cooking that I was doing before going to the hospital meanwhile, my husband was all flustered and palpitating that he practically hustled me out of the kitchen to the hospital where we then had to wait for hours before the main action started.

If I recall, I think I even quarreled with him for not letting me finish my cooking before harassing me to go and sit idle and experience every ounce of pain. I had preferred to stay busy and keep my mind occupied than panting and counting the minutes.

Years back when my children were still toddlers, there was no moment of respite. It was always go, go, go but now, they have learnt how to do quite a number of things themselves, so, just in case mummy is feeling poorly, they help to make me some sandwich and a nice warm cup of beverage to drink and my hubby then helps with the rubbing down and extra pampering. I never hesitate to ask.

Though there are those times that I feel cranky, snapping like a dragon and just want to be left alone, they know well enough to hide their heads while I am breathing fire, but such moments are so few and far between and they hardly last long.

© Jacqueline Oby-Ikocha

The Daily Post prompt Take Care

When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?

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27 thoughts on “Extra TLC…”

  2. My first husband was like that. The handiest of handy men, until the first sign of sickness, then he was useless and needed tending to until he felt better. I blame his mother for babying him every time he fell sick. He just got used to it. My current (and final) husband isn’t as handy when he’s well, but neither is he useless when he’s ill. Which is good for me because I’m not as resilient as I used to be. ^_^

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  3. I’m use to taking care of myself through God’s guidance. I think for me, it’s about the mission He has me on. It’s called don’t speak illness because it tends to stay longer with us when we give it credence. It’s hard to do with negative folks around. ..

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  4. I tend to trudge along without asking for help but Allan knows me so well that he always steps in at just the right time. This week has been especially difficult with the loss of my younger brother and Allan was there for both myself and my Mother helping us, protecting us and being the most amazing man that he always is. Since he has been in my life, I am so grateful.

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  5. I’m not sure how typical I am. I tend to just want to lie in bed quietly if I ever feel seriously under the weather. TLC, sympathy and everything are all welcome too, of course, but the main thing I crave is simply sleep.

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  6. Well, I don’t think I will argue with you there. Women surely do have some light years ahead of men. I’ll accept that. But I will say that it’s a shame that this has come about because a woman is expected to do 3x the amount a man does. Kinda sad if you ask me. Regardless, nice to hear that tidbit of goodness from ya Jacqueline. A little TLC never hurt.

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  7. This amused me. I remember we moved the week before my daughter was born. I mowed the lawn in the first hours of labor because I was afraid it wouldn’t get done after I delivered… finished unpacking boxes (that’s how my water broke) and went back to work seven days after she was born. The thing is… we forget sometimes to draw the line… as you say above. Because doing all that caused me to hemorrhage and end up in the hospital afterwards. I was so determined to just “see it through and tough it out” that I didn’t take care of myself… enough to take care of my family.

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  9. ROFLOL, I breathe fire too, my brother told me this morning to take it easy and slow down. He say that now but he does not see pots dancing on the fire around quarter to 12pm, he ask me what going on. Some men are so spoiled!

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